Girlfriend has bipolar and now wants nothing to do with us. what do I do?
Q. my girlfriend and i recently seperated after 2 half yrs.she suffers with bipolar.we laughed and talked for hours.her reasons for splitting are that i'm to blame for a bipolar incident that happened when we were on holiday in scotland.i can't ...
A. 30 August 2007: You have to give her her space, you cant blame her for the situation you are in now, you are responsible for you and you ultimately took yourself there. Unfortunately she is going through a rough patch at the minute and you have to let her get t... (read in full...)
I am dating my older second cousin
Q. im dating my 2nd cousin who is 20 years older then me and dont no how to tell my perants. anyone have any advise?...
A. 30 August 2007: I have to say that the whole age gap and related thing does hint that your older couisin may be a bit perverted. I dnt think theres anything too wrong in two cousins with similar ages dating but with a man 20 yrs older than you. Something may be ... (read in full...)
I am sexually attracted to my half-sister, whom I just met recently. Am I mental or what's happening?
Q. I never met my real dad or his children. After 40 years.I met my bio father and his kids. I grew up with two other brothers from my mom's side and I never had a sister in that family. After several weeks, I am now very close to my half si...
A. 30 August 2007: I agree with anoymous female, Im sure I heard about somehting like this on a chat show before. Your not a freak or anything like this it does actually occur. Something about people who are long lost meeting up and cos they share dna its what ... (read in full...)
He split with her then wanted to start seeing me but she is spreading rumours about me. Should i get with him?
Q. I started a new job working night shift about 9 months ago. I was trained by a guy (well call him Nathan) and we had so much free time we got to know each other very well. I am not in any type of relationship but he had told me he was. Nathan never ...
A. 30 August 2007: I'd have to advise you to be really careful here. Mixing your place of work with love is always going to get complicated at some point but for you it has started of very complicated because the guy you work with and are seeing's ex also works ... (read in full...)
My mates been cheating on her guy and now I'm seeing the guy she's been sleeping with! What should i di??
Q. Hi my best friend lets call her suzie said to me about three months ago that she really likes this guy she has known for two years, lets call him jake, and its only this year that he can return her feelings but now she has a bf! she keeps doing stuf...
A. 30 August 2007: Mmmmm it seems to me that both your friend and Jake are playing you for a bit of a fool. Its clear to see that your friend enjoys alot of drama in her love life. She knows that she can play both her boyfriend and jake and she's probably enjoying ... (read in full...)
My husband senses the closeness I have with my cousin. We are both married, should we pursue a relationship together?
Q. I have been married twice. The first, was very short at a very young age. The second, is my current husband. We have been married and together between 5-10 years. We share several children. He has a child from a previous relationship and we ...
A. 30 August 2007: I know everyone else has been saying that you should work hard at your marriage but the way you talk about your cousin is pretty intense. its clear that htere are very strong feelings there and I didnt read any such terms that you used to describe ... (read in full...)
Have any scorpio men out there that have cheated and been dumped or been in relationships where you've been down right wrong and been dumped, and then realized that you made a mistake and will change? or have you changed?
Q. I am a very paranoid and superstitious person! i think that because of my past it has made me less trusting in alot of people i always read horoscopes they have always given me a certain path or idea of what tomorow is goin to give. as fa...
A. 30 August 2007: Scorpio men are very difficult to have a relationship[ with as it tends to always have to be on their terms. They like to have all the control, they love sex and are quite kinky. They can be abit of a bully in the relationship too with violent ... (read in full...)
Why would a man join an online dating site if he has been in a relationship for almost 2 years????
Q. Why would a man join an oline dating website if he has been in a relationship for almost 2 years?...
A. 30 August 2007: I think it is cos he ws looking for someone he could date/have casual sex with and know there is no way it could get too deep cos he's already in a deep relationship. There are lots of guys on online dating sites who are married or already have ... (read in full...)
I love this woman that has 3 children. My family think I'm making a mistake. What should i do?
Q. I have been divorced for a little under 1 year, i have no kids of my own. Now i am falling in love with a woman with 3 kids and my family thinks that i am making a mistake........ i really love this woman. wht should i do?...
A. 30 August 2007: Definately forget what your family are saying and go for it. Good on you for loving this woman and seeing the person she is and not "Oh no she already has 3 kids." Like so what, you're divorced and unless you got with a virgin it would be pretty h... (read in full...)
Our brother stole £20,000 from my sister, I dont want him reported to the police! How can we get thorugh this as a family???
Q. Dear All, I don't know if you can help me or not, as this is a problem more around family relationships and the divide between family love and trust, and what is morally right or wrong. I have a devastating problem - this may take a while ...
A. 30 August 2007: Gosh thats is a very tricky situation you are all in. I feel sorry for you cos your in a very sticky position cos by being adamant your sister must not report your brother to the police could appear as though you are siding with your bro, and your ... (read in full...)
How can i deal with friends that dont return my calls or visits, without it sounding like a big deal?
Q. do you feel slighted if you visit and phone others, but they dont reciprocate. what is the best reponse to this situation? should you reduce the frequency of your contact...accept that they dont value friendship as much as they do yours, or should...
A. 30 August 2007: Hello, your not alone Ive been in the same situation before and your are spot on it is damaging for one's self-esteem when your friends dont call or tex you.
A phone call or a text shows that you're running through someones mind, and if we neve... (read in full...)
My step dad has drug problems and i cant face going back to school!
Q. Hi ive been on here before but in december of 2006 my stepfather became violent(yelling at everyone)and i was a sophmore in high school but since december he has been constantly mad and sneaky he has a drug problem serious drug problem...it has affe...
A. 30 August 2007: Aaaah sorry to hear that your home life is tough at the moment. I agree with the 2 other replies it's ver wise to try and see someone to talk to. Sorry to hear that your insurance ran out too, thats the problem with not having money eh?
But h... (read in full...)
Why do I always attract Abusers, Liars and Cheaters?
Q. why do you think women attract men who are abusers and liars and cheaters? I seem to always meet these type of men. It is usually within the first couple dates that I notice the signs and then I leave them. I just wonder why this keeps happening. ...
A. 2 July 2007: Ive met quite a few losers in the past, and used to ask myself why me, all my friends meet such good men. Did they heck! I realised that I just wasnt gonna put up with an abuser, head-screwer or any other kind of low-life.
I looked at my frien... (read in full...)
Help me give my wife a night to remember!
Q. I really wanna give my wife the night of her life and seduce her. We have been married for about 8 years and are still madly in love and have a great sex life. I want to make it a night to remember for her and I want to have the best sex I've ever ...
A. 2 July 2007: Hi
I think it's lovely that you are such a supportive and caring husband. Seduction for me is about effort and attention. By attention this is what I mean: If 2 people like your wife and yourself talk, there will always be things that she woul... (read in full...)
I feel left out because all my mates have boyfriends.
Q. Well... i dont really have a problem but i really want a bf! i no its daft but all my mates have one and i am startin to feel left out! i dont want one but i think i need one to fit in! i feel stupid writin this but hey thats what your here for!...
A. 2 July 2007: Awwww,
Dont feel stupid just cos you dont have a boyfriend. I think it shows great strength of character, that you are your own person in your own right and that a man does make you.
I understand it can mean your friends treat you differently ... (read in full...)
I made a scene in front of his kids; how can I fix the trouble this has caused?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently started going out, only for a month, but we've fallen in love with each other. He has 2 children, 5 and 3, and he was going to go back to his ex wife, for the children, but said he wasnt happy in that relationship, ...
A. 2 July 2007: Hi, it does seem to be one tough situation you are in. I dont have any children and because of how volatile a situation it is Ive decidednot to date any men with kids. Mainly because Im not at that stepmom stage of life.
It makes me wonder i... (read in full...)
Our relationship is still very new but I worry we don't talk enough?
Q. Hi Just one small question, have been with my gf for about a week properly now, and known her for a couple weeks more... During this week its gone long distance (because of the long uni holiday) and we have been talking on the phone every othe...
A. 2 July 2007: Hi, It doesnt seem too bad, at least you are talking regurlary. As its early days yet, it could be that you dont really have that much to say to each other, but give it time and as you both get more relaxed you speak more frequently and for long... (read in full...)
He says he had fun but doesn't want to date me; how can I win him over?
Q. Last night i spent them most amazing night of my life with a guy ive liked for ages now. It was just like we were going out (although we were both drinking and he said he probs wont remember it in the morning) however in the morning he woke up and ...
A. 2 July 2007: Awwwww, most of us have been in some similar situation and my honest advice would be to try and take your mind off him. From past experiences I have never seeen a guy who says he had fun but doesnt want a relationship suddenly turn around and 360. ... (read in full...)
Sex is still hurting after several times of doing it
Q. A couple of weeks ago i had sex for the very first time with my boyfriend of 3 months. Since then we've had sex a LOT...the weird thing is though, its still hurting me and Im pretty sure my hymen is still, intact. Can anyone PLEASE explain w...
A. 2 July 2007: Im not sure if a hymen could be intact for that long after initial sex. It may be that you are not wet enough before penetration, make sure your lover is very attentive to you, that you feel very aroused and do lots of foreplay. Although I mus... (read in full...)
How do I ask where the relationship is going without scaring him off?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 6weeks and want to ask him where he thinks the relationship is going but I'm afraid I'll spoil things or push him away. How should I approach the subject with him?...
A. 2 July 2007: I would honestly say that if 6 weeks into dating you need to ask a guy where its going may be a bit of a bad sign. Especially if you are worried that such a question will scare him away. Chances are that you may already know the answer and know the... (read in full...)
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