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writes:Hi ive been on here before but in december of 2006 my stepfather became violent(yelling at everyone)and i was a sophmore in high school but since december he has been constantly mad and sneaky he has a drug problem serious drug problem...it has affected us soo much since there is a newborn in the house and in february i was seeing a therapist but because i have no insurance i had to stop seeing her and thats when i stopped going to school i almost commited suicide and then early july he was put in jail for possesion of drugs my mom as stupid as she was bailed him out...right now school starts next week and i dont think i can go with these family problems i want him out of our lives but we cant do that i dont know what else i can do ...so someone please help....i will write more and i just want to die i dont think its fair what he has put us through.
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reader, carebearer  +, writes (30 August 2007):
Aaaah sorry to hear that your home life is tough at the moment. I agree with the 2 other replies it's ver wise to try and see someone to talk to. Sorry to hear that your insurance ran out too, thats the problem with not having money eh?
But honestly dont hate shcool,Beckto is right school is the place to escape your home life. I know that home may be tough at the moment but please dont hate yourself, cos it's not you who would ask for difficulties in life. If you throw yourself at your school work and let that occupy your mind (at least while your in school anyway)you should get good grades, and then with good grades you can then get a good job and hopefully have more control over your life eventually.
It probably seems like miles away, but maybe with a few long term goals current suffering wont seem too bad cos you know one day you would have made a fantastic life for yourself. I know it may feel as though your not good enough but the truth is your too good, to go through what you are now makes you a star! The world needs stars to illuminate the night skies, so please dont kill yourself cos you are developing into a strong, smart woman; who wont stay with someone who isnt good for you or your own.
But please also go to school, cos the world works on education and qualifications and its much easier to get them at your age for free than older and to pay for it.
Good Luck stay strong and stay at school.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (29 August 2007):
Definitely see a school counselor or the social worker. They are trained to handle this stuff and would know the best avenues for you to take.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Hi there,
I know from personal experience some of what you're feeling. Can you think of school in a different way? School can be an escape from your troubled home life. You're in that tough place in life where you're old enough to know what you need for yourself most of the time, but not old enough to get it yourself. I know it's frustrating. You seem really smart and self-aware. Keep that trait!!!! That can save your life, ultimately.
At school, you have friends, and teachers who, if you let them, can help you. At school you also have a counselor, who may not be quite as good as your old one, but they are someone you can talk to, who can't tell anyone about what you say. When you get your class schedule, I suggest going to the school counselor and telling them how you feel. Tell them that you don't want to be at school because of all the trauma you're going through at home. They won't get you out of school, but they can lighten your class load, and even talk to your teachers for you. You never know! At the very least, they could just be someone who is on your side.
School could be a place for you to escape your problems for a little while. Give it a shot. GOOD LUCK. Take care.
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