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writes:my girlfriend and i recently seperated after 2 half yrs.she suffers with bipolar.we laughed and talked for hours.her reasons for splitting are that i'm to blame for a bipolar incident that happened when we were on holiday in scotland.i can't understand why.i've always looked after her when she has felt down.she won't let me talk,text or phone.i've tried to communicate with her but nothing.i took some things over to her and she called the police saying that i was an intruder.she is in mexico for two weeks.i have lost everything since june.job,home,account and now her.i am being treated for depression.since last saturday,18th august i have taken 2 overdoses.she's always praised me and yet now it feels she has taken me to a great height and pushed me.i still love her but!and the praise at time was just cover up.i've never pressured her into doing things she doesn't want.i live in stoke and her in stockport.plaese help
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Hi
My name is David i'm 45 and suffer Bi polar. It sounds like she's breaking all contact because she feels the combination of the two of you together is agrivating her condition. This doesn't mean your useless, or that she doesn't love u. It just means her mental health is more important than you. The best you can do is remember the heights she took you to and love her for that, remember her fondly as she is trying to remember you. Do you want her to feel better or is more important you feel good. Don't ruin your memories.
Good luck David
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I can't answer for her, only for myself as a bipolar. When I'm down (in a depressed cycle) all I want is space. I want the minimal amount of contact possible with people. Try not to hound her, but be available to her. That's the best I can tell you.
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reader, carebearer +, writes (30 August 2007):
You have to give her her space, you cant blame her for the situation you are in now, you are responsible for you and you ultimately took yourself there.Unfortunately she is going through a rough patch at the minute and you have to let her get through it by herself if thats what she wants. You maynot be that helpful anyway if you yourself are also suffering from depression, especially as you claim to have lost everything. Let your ex work on herself and you need to work on yourself. Maybe when you have both reached a point of reparation you will get back together or maybe as you both heal you will both move on and not want to be with each other again.What ever happens you need to try and fix your own life and remember while you may pine for your ex you cant force her to be with you if she doesnt want to.Good Luck
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 For one thing, you can not be responsible for something someone chooses to do. Whatever caused her to be upset that is on her. Dont you take that and internalize it. Also, stop hurting. You understand that she has mental issues with the bipolarism. Things are not going to go smoothly or normally because there is a problem. You need to pick yourself up off the floor and ditch the depression. Yes, you are hurt but dont let it dominate your life! Do your best and from there put the rest in god's hands because He can do a billion things about the situation than you can. She made her decision. Now it is time for you to get your life back together and stronger and not dependent on what she is or isnt doing.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (29 August 2007):
 People with bi-polar disorders have to stay on their medication in order to function and have normal lives. Unfortunately, many of them do not comply and their mood swings and irrational behavior clouds their judgement and makes them do hurtful,horrible things. You're probably not going to like this advise, but you are better off without her. Your story sounds too familiar to me. My b/f was involved with a bi-polar woman 2 years before he met me and the behavior you described was much like what he went through. He too lost everything, she cleaned him out emotionally and financially and he still loves her to this day. But she was destructive beyond belief and she sucked him into her dark mood swings and kept him swinging back and forth with each change of her mood. You cannot predict the absurdness that goes with this disorder. They have been known to murder their mates when provoked during one of their dark moods. You are truly better off without her. One day you'll meet a nice, normal gal, and you'll know what I'm telling you is the truth. Stop contacting her, let her go, you don't deserve to be tortured anymore. She has already dragged you down into a pit that made you almost take your own life. That's how contagious their darkness can be. My b/f now believes that I was somehow the "angel" God sent to him, to help him get out of the bleak place where he was existing after she left him with nothing. Pray for an angel. She's out there. Trust me. And she's waiting to love you the way you deserve to be loved.
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