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anonymous
writes:I really wanna give my wife the night of her life and seduce her. We have been married for about 8 years and are still madly in love and have a great sex life. I want to make it a night to remember for her and I want to have the best sex I've ever had with her with loads of stuff leading up to it to make it all the more special. We aren't really the type for a candle lit dinner or dancing and i really want to do something we could both enjoy but just as romantic. She as been through a rough time-suddenly becoming all emotional and she's been very stressed with work as well so i want to make this really enjoyable,relaxing and most of all loving for her! Any suggestions? Loads of ideas would be appreciated so the more the better. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Wow i would love to have a husband like you. She is one lucky lady. They say 95% off men are bad just 5% are good. I reckon your within the 5% im so glad men like u exist.Happy married life, kiss her on her neck im sure she`ll love it.mary xx
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reader, Helfer +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Carebearer just gave you the most amazing advice!
The only thing I'd be wary about is new boxers...cos they always leave little balls of fluff and stuff which looks kinda dirty...
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reader, carebearer +, writes (2 July 2007):
Hi
I think it's lovely that you are such a supportive and caring husband. Seduction for me is about effort and attention. By attention this is what I mean: If 2 people like your wife and yourself talk, there will always be things that she would have revealed about herself, something she always wanted to possess or do, eg I always wanted a diamond ring or I always fancied a hiking trip- anything. Its attentive if a male partner has listened to his woman when she has sopken and noted all the things she has wanted and then does that for he.
Thats why women often appreciate such gestures cos men who care listen. Its clear that you listen and know your wife, you know shes stressed and want to make her happy while she goes through this rough time.
It's also really admirable that while you were stuck for ideas you were humble enough to ask other peoples opinions. Your wife is very lucky.
Its hard to make suggestions with out actually knowing your wife, especially as you said your not candle lit dinner kind of people, I guess that means stray from the normal mushy stuff?
It could be paying for a new course of study (cake decoration, flower arrangement, swimming lessons) or a new hobby that is a very selfless act but not that intensely romantic. Although if I was your wife I'd love such a gesture co it alllows for a quality personal time for her.
But for more couply intimate sessions- you could spend a lovely day both getting pampered in a beauty salon (its not women exclusive, men can get manicures, pedicures facials or massages) or in a spa retreat even. That could make the two of oyu feel really good.
There is alaos stuff like a mini break in a country cottage, or no contact with the outside world weekend at home if £ arent flowing. You could have all the housework done so you wouldnt have to worry, and surprise her when she gets in with scented candles, petals on the floor- s sesnsual perfume and lingerie set neatly laid on the bed for her to slip into after she has a bubble bath (theat you ran for her with petals in the water! You could have Cava or if if your a little more flush rose champagne too.
If you are musical- create a piece of music and poems for her. You could say I must give her 30 mins of massage, followed by 40 mins foreplay and then the best sex ever. Thats really loving. Remeber not to neglect oyurself either cos Im sure she wont find that sexy, so make sure you your toes are neat, boxers could be new and wear a nice aftershave.
If you are both into tatts- getting a special one together can be very sweet, it doesnt have to be each others names, it could be a special sign you have both designed together or something that means alot to you.
Hope my catalouge of ideas werent too overwhelming, Good Luck with it all, and please tell us what you did in the end and how it went.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): A surprise weekend away in a hotel. Hit the town have a few drinks etc. Take her back to your hotel room and give her some gifts. Clothes, jewellery, perfume whatever you think she likes. The attention you give her I'm sure will make her feel special.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (1 July 2007):
 First off...congratulations to you both for finding that special something to keep your love alive and having that passion still within you and the desire to keep it working. I can only say, if it was me, I would love to be swept off my feet on a carriage ride with 6 horses to take us around in the evening time. At least long enough for my love to tell me all the reasons he loves me and how much I mean in his life and why. After my tears of joy, he would then take me for yes, a romantic dinner which would be on a big boat/yacht that would have lights hanging on all sides and soft music playing in the back ground. Again, great conversation now between the both of you, fine dining, and off to now a romantic home getaway or could even be at a nice hotel. Either way, I would have my closest friend come in the house/hotel and have the place decorated with rose petals on the bed with a big bouquet of roses by the bed or laying on it, with a note saying how much you love her. I would have a gift awaiting along side the flowers as well. Nothing expensive maybe unless you got the money, and it could be just a simple heart necklace that expresses your love. You could even buy her some fine lingerie that you find lovely for her as well to wear that night. If you don't know her exact size, get help! Need I say more when she opens that up. I don't like bought cards myself, I like hand written cards that he himself took the time to write that expresses himself to me and him wrapping the gift. I just means more. FYI...fire places are quite lovely, and if it's cold where you are at..use it! Have the wine ready, along with the glasses a head of time by your helper. It's always a surprise because she then wonders, how did you do this and then knows you planned this a head of time and that means so much to any lady. Good Luck and hope some of this may have helped!
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (1 July 2007):
 Maybe the two of you are not the type for a candle lit dinner, but it is relaxing to not have to do the cooking. You can order in.
Instead of going dancing or to a fancy restaurant you can take a walk by the sea.
Or you can go with her to a spa and have some relaxing massages.
Give her some nice underwear and let her know you would like to see her in those tonight. That will let her know you still find her attractive, and most women need to hear that from time to time.
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