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writes:I never met my real dad or his children.After 40 years.I met my bio father and his kids. I grew up with two other brothers from my mom's side and I never had a sister in that family.After several weeks, I am now very close to my half sister.She is 33 and I am 40.What troubles me?I feel strange! I look at her as my sister yet I find her to be very attractive. I dont have that "eeeeewwww" feeling that I would expect to feel.I have no sexual intentions. Yet I feel a sexual attraction and it bugs me!So. The more she wants to get to know me, The more I want to hide! Do I have mental problems?Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Though I don't have a sister, I've got first cousins who wouldn't have had to ask twice, so I think I understand it to an extent. I've often wondered how it would be possible to have an attractive young female around and not be aroused. If it's a relationship you value, I'd be careful about alienating her - i.e. expressing your feelings of lust and creeping her out, never wanting to be around you again. Does she reciprocate these feelings? Even if so would either of you be cheating on someone else? Spouse? Girl/boyfriend? You don't want to destroy a perfectly good relationship with someone else over it.From what I gather, siblings having consensual sex isn't rare, but there are obvious pitfalls - legal, social, familial. She gets pregnant and then what? Or if others in the family get wind of it, what happens? If you decide to indulge mutual lust, be aware of the potential consequences.
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reader, carebearer  +, writes (30 August 2007):
I agree with anoymous female, Im sure I heard about somehting like this on a chat show before. Your not a freak or anything like this it does actually occur. Something about people who are long lost meeting up and cos they share dna its what attracts them or something.Dont worry Im sure you will get over it in time but definately try and see a therapist or doctor or someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): there is a phenomena called 'genetic sexual attraction' where relatives who have been apart for long periods feel attracted to each other beacuse their mind is confused about how to react to the new bond been formed between them, perhaps you have thisgo and talk to a councellor they can help you channel your feelings in a more platetonic fashion.
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (4 August 2007):
 you do not have mental problems. But there is something very wrong with this situation. Half is alot different than step and even that is wrong. She has the same parent as you. She might as well be your sister. but in is still incest. You just do your best to get rid of those feelings. Good luck hun. THis just be hard for you.
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