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writes:I have been seeing a guy for 6weeks and want to ask him where he thinks the relationship is going but I'm afraid I'll spoil things or push him away. How should I approach the subject with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 I'm with carebearer.
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reader, carebearer  +, writes (2 July 2007):
I would honestly say that if 6 weeks into dating you need to ask a guy where its going may be a bit of a bad sign. Especially if you are worried that such a question will scare him away.Chances are that you may already know the answer and know the kind of reaction you will get. Nontheless it is best to try and establish things early rather than later (6 months down the line). I would say, pick a nice restaurant, with good food you will both enjoy and subltley raise the topic. I dont think there is much point in beating round the bush, you could say "Well we've been dating for 6 weeks now- does it feel like that to you?" Fease him out here, does he answer sharply or is he more like "yea i know it's been fun" Then ask him "So where does it put us? (If he's really keen he'll answer straight away like we will have a relationship. Or you might have to do some more prying,"Like, are we just dates or are we on the verge of moving up a level"I m not sure of the exact wording, but i dnt think you should suggest sex. see what he says.Goodluck
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reader, sarahbeth101  +, writes (2 July 2007):
well maybe when you guys go on a date see how he looks at you and touches you, and by that you should feel where its going. but if not just ask him where you think it will go. and if he is the one for you he shouldn't care or get mad of you wanting to know where this relationships going :)
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