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writes:why do you think women attract men who are abusers and liars and cheaters? I seem to always meet these type of men. It is usually within the first couple dates that I notice the signs and then I leave them. I just wonder why this keeps happening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): If you keep focused on what you don't want, that is exactly what you will attract. I know, becuase I did this all the time. Now, I have changed my thinking on exactly what I want.
It's called the law of attraction and it works for everything in life.
Watch "the Secret"
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reader, carebearer  +, writes (2 July 2007):
Ive met quite a few losers in the past, and used to ask myself why me, all my friends meet such good men. Did they heck! I realised that I just wasnt gonna put up with an abuser, head-screwer or any other kind of low-life.
I looked at my friends partners and thought, hangon they meet the same types of guys as me, but when I walk away they stay in the situations.
The reality of it all is that many men lie, cheat etc cos they know the women they are with will put up with it. Knowing what you want means knowing what you will get.
So Good Luck, dont be sad or despondant your PinceCharming is waiting around the corner.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (1 July 2007):
 I have to agree with "Happytochat" on much that she said. And we have to get the losers out of our lives if we want to ever meet a really good man. But not only that, I can understand at first that maybe you might have dated a guy once and then it was that date that you "figured" him out. Sometimes, even at the first "hello", there are ways to kinda get you to figure him out, so your not just wasting your time...is he wanting to take you home and you just met him, does he portray that bad boy image already, does he try to make moves on all the women..like in a bar or club - Mr. Don Juan as I call him. Cheaters are smooth talkers, they tell you everything upfront that you will want to hear...and that's why you come back for more. And when it's your off night, it's someone else's on night. It's tough and it sucks...I know...but don't give up. Be strong, secure in yourself and always with a smile. Patience...and one day you will meet the right man.Good Luck to you!!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 July 2007):
Those types of people prey on those they see as weak, insecure and easily taken advantage of. Perhaps you are giving them signs that you are easily taken advantage of, easily fooled, insecure and weak. Be careful with what you say to people and what image you give off. Learn to stand up for yourself in all aspects of life, that way peopoe cant do these sorts ofthings to you. Sure they will try but once you let them know its not accepted they wont try anymore. The more you deal with them and get rid of them, the more you will represent a strong image that people such as liars, cheaters and abusers will realise there is no point in tryign with you because you wont put up with it. One of the main reasons why people such as you mentioned target insecure people is that insecure poeple often are so insecure they dont think they can do any better so they put up with these people. Work on any insecurity you may have so its clear you are a secure person and therefore wont put up with such people.
Hope this helps...
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