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i found the site following an issue with the aforementioned boy, and found it helpful, with genuinly helpful people out there!
i want to give people the oppurtunity to learn from my mistakes, of which there are many. it seems unfair that everyone should have to make their own to learn.
my other areas of expertise are hospital dramas, solitaire, su doku, art and literature.
that and trashy gossip magazines.
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How do I deal with the annoying age comments I keep getting?
Q. Thanks to anyone helping me out on this one. Ok, maybe I am too sensitive but in the last week alone three different guys have brought up my age. I am in my late forties, not exactly train wrecked yet but guys have either said I look good for my age ...
A. 26 February 2009: take the 'good for your age' as compliments, made by idiots. you can reply by saying, 'well, i guess you look, about your age too, though that doesnt make you pretty'. humour is always the way to go! ... (read in full...)
When he says its not important to him what would you think?
Q. Let's say you have been married to your husband for 13 years and his mother has been in contact with his ex but he hasn't. The ex-wife tells your husbands mother that they are still not legally divorced. He was able to get married to you in Las ...
A. 22 February 2009: good grief, scream right in his face!
the very fact that he says it is not imporant to him, but is important to you - my god, he is the one who could get done for bigamy, and the fact that he doesnt really seem to be over his ex wife of over 13 y... (read in full...)
I need to stop feeling like this!
Q. i've got to a point where i feel like i cant have fun without my boyfriend, even tho, realistically, i know its not true .. i ony see him once a week, mainly, and when im not speaking to him or with him i feel really down, even tho i know its just ...
A. 22 February 2009: dont worry, i do something very similar in relationships, and have to watch myself constantly, its a very easy thing to slip into.
the best plan is to actually do things without your boyfriend - go out, meet friends, do a new activity that he has ... (read in full...)
Is anybody else besides me bothered by how acceptable and common it is for people to cheat on one another?
Q. Is anybody else besides me bothered by how acceptable and common it is for people to cheat on one another? It bothers me a lot especially when I'm on here reading about people saying they've cheated and saying "Oops!" like it's no big deal and then ...
A. 22 February 2009: yes. i broke up with my ex because his entire group of friends were like that - he went on a stag weekend, and he and the groom were the only ones who went home alone (bearing in mind that they all had serious gilrfriends/wives, and roughly half ... (read in full...)
My online man's advances are so sexual, how do I tell him that he's turning me off?
Q. i've been chatting to this guy over the last 3-4 months, he seems really nice, we just talk about school, family, parting the future.... recently he's started asking to see me on webcam (i havn't let in, yet) i kinda wanna do it because i feel like ...
A. 22 February 2009: tell him your are one of those policemen posing as children to catch paedophiles on the net.
if he acts innocent then see if you can stream some webcam porn through your webcam (i.e pretend its you). gauge his reaction.
or suddenly start t... (read in full...)
Is my son going to be tall?
Q. Hi, i have a child growth question for anybody who knows what they are talking about. I have a son who just turned 15 and he is around 5'7 or 5'8. I wondering if he will be fairly tall. Im only 5'9 and my wife is 4'10 but he seems tall to be our ...
A. 22 February 2009: thank god i'm doing Paediatrics on placement at the moment!
a) your son hasnt had his major growth spurt yet, so expect a couple more inches at least.
b) the range of his height is - your height in cm, plus his mum's height in cm(add 6.9cm to... (read in full...)
Was I right to end it with him over lying?
Q. I just broke up with my bf today over his lying to me. He is being scammed at work by a coworker and loaned this guy nearly $5000! The guy disappeared and never paid him back. When I got wind of this he told me he had only loaned him $500. The...
A. 22 February 2009: with the money, its possible that when he found out he was being conned, and wanted to hide how much he had been taken in, and then wanted to act like he hadnt ever been taken in (i.e that he'd known all along). i take it theres no way of him ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to make our sex life fantastic and have an orgasm with him?
Q. I am in a wonderful relationship with a man I really, really adore. I am happy in every respect of the relationship, except the sexual side. I'm not really sure what the problem is. It's quite complicated so I'll try to explain it as best I can. I...
A. 22 February 2009: no, i know what you mean. honestly this whole thing with small penises is ridiculous. big ones just hust!
my boyfriend is similar - i can tell he gets annoyed when he hasnt made me come, as if it wasnt as good as the previous one where i did, w... (read in full...)
What do you think she's honestly saying with that message????
Q. my ex-girlfriend and i have been apart for a little over 3 months. She kept leading me on the first few months after breaking up. She'd say she still loved me and missed me and would call and text quite often. Up until a few weeks ago did i ...
A. 22 February 2009: politely ask her for some more space. she is either - being mean, in which case you need the space to properly clear you head, move on, and possibly change your phone number. or she is a confused girl, in which case you need space to sort out in ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my BF to tone it down in the bedroom?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a different relationship than most you could say. i am 16 and he is 27 but we are in love with each other and we dont see ourselves with anyone else. My boyfriend has like a fetish of spanking me and pulling on my hair when ...
A. 22 February 2009: he is not allowed near your pants until you sort out a safe word (something you would never normally say during sex) that if either of you say, the other instantly stops what they are doing.
if he does not respect you enough to agree to that,... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's convinced I think she's ugly and think her friends are hot...
Q. My girlfriend has the worse self esteem issues. It all started when I check out her friend in front of her and say she (my gf) better looking then she is (I was a bit drunk as well). She didn't really care at first until we got home. She scream at ...
A. 22 February 2009: dont drink again ever if you are going to do stupid things like that. alcohol however, is no excuse.
apologise profusely (this may require presents), and give her free pass to compare yourself with whichever of your friends she finds more attr... (read in full...)
What do girls like? Gift wise, surprise wise...
Q. what do girls like? -gift wise -suprise wise -generally -having done to them in bed please reply all u women! x...
A. 22 February 2009: gift = flowers generally, unless you are out and she says something like 'i'd love'. the best present i ever got was a pair of earrings an ex bought me, after persuading me not to buy them because we were in a rush. it shows you are listening (see ... (read in full...)
He's upset with me, how can I win him back?
Q. This guy I met 2 months ago. Since the beginning he seem to like me and he was Ok to me. It happens I entered as a contractor in his office, so he started working with me helping me a lot in what I did. We even talked about paying him commission o...
A. 22 February 2009: apologise, and sort YOUR problems out (why did you need this guy's help so much with your work?).
check it is actually something you did that upset him (maybe his dog just died)
maybe give him a little help back?
... (read in full...)
36A breasts, how can I make them look sexier and womanly?
Q. Hello again everyone, i have a bit of a query. okays i have 36a breasts and i was wondering about ways to make them look sexier and more womanly, just to make me feel better about myself, i always thought they were huge when i was growing up but now ...
A. 22 February 2009: get properly fitted.
i find balconette bras help, but experiment.
padding is a girls best friend, and honestly no-one will notice.
high necks (to hide spots) with lots of ruffles (to make boobs look bigger). with short skirts - focus on another a... (read in full...)
How can I learn to make our sex life fantastic and have an orgasm with him?
Q. I am in a wonderful relationship with a man I really, really adore. I am happy in every respect of the relationship, except the sexual side. I'm not really sure what the problem is. It's quite complicated so I'll try to explain it as best I can. I...
A. 22 February 2009: i was the same until my current boyfriend.
things that worked for me = lying facedown with spread legs and him entering from behind (you get your clitoris and he gets your g spot). that and accepting myself - my body, my odd sex face etc.
but i... (read in full...)
WHY does sex hurt the first few times if we're meant to reproduce?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and don't plan on having sex anytime soon but I was wondering - why does it hurt the first few times you have sex, either when you lose your virginity or when having sex with a new partner? Our bodies are pretty much created ...
A. 22 February 2009: sex = exercise. if you havent used those muscles before, they will hurt (hot chocolate the next morning helps me - aside from the obvious about lube and condoms and sensible boys).
parents = idiots alot of the time. read philip larkin, play your... (read in full...)
I love him even though we're 5 years apart... is it right?
Q. I have the most amazing boyfriend, but I'm sure you've heard that before. Anyways, I've never felt so happy before. I love him so much. Too bad my mother doesn't let me date. And the fact that he's 20 and I'm 15 becomes a problem. He promised...
A. 22 February 2009: be careful about the thrill your getting from disobeying your mum and doing something naughty versus your true feelings for this guy.
saltwater is right, in that people change alot in the ages 16-21, and your boyfriend may also change alot from... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my casual lover that my period is late!
Q. i have been talkin to this guy for almost two months but we arent datin or bf or gf or anything bc we both just got out of long relationships and are scared to get close to someone else. well weve had sex a couple times and i missed a couple bc this ...
A. 22 February 2009: take the test.
sort out in your mind first what you would do if you are pregnant (and i mean you own mind).
then, let him know, (when i did this to my boyfriend (thank god, false alarm!) i think i just came right out and said it while we... (read in full...)
I even dropped out of uni due to my fear of meeting new people, help me?
Q. Hi, I am a seemingly normal happy 19 year old male with a loving family and a lot of friends! However I have a huge problem on my hands. My question isn't laid out very clearly and I'm literally just writing as I think so sorry for structure is...
A. 22 February 2009: as emilysanswers said, it sounds like a bit of an anxiety disorder, and im sorry that it got so bad it affected your studies.
i know this is going to sound super scary, but the best bet is going to be to go see a doctor, or a university coun... (read in full...)
My period came but it was unusually light, could I be pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend have had sex but the silly thing happened of the condom splitting. If i have came on my period the next day can i be pregnant? but also i took a pregnancy test on the 14th and one on the 17th and they were both negative. Iv came ...
A. 22 February 2009: two negative pregnancy tests and a period do not lie. pregnancy tests are 99.5% correct, therefore 2 of them would be like a 1 in 2 million chance. plus, if you had your period the next day, the chances of you even being fertile when the accident ... (read in full...)
She says we're just friends but we act as much much more.
Q. Me and my best friend had always been very touchy feely and used to flirt like crazy without noticing unless it was said to us. Okay so about 3 months ago I began dating my best friend. Then about a month ago she decided to break things off as she ...
A. 22 February 2009: i can see why youre confused over this! my boyfriend and i got together in slighty similar circumstances, where we were really good friends first. i remember being petrified when we first got together that once we had kissed, there didnt really ... (read in full...)
Can going on the contraceptive pill make you fat?
Q. Can going on the contraceptive pill make you fat?...
A. 22 February 2009: the contraceptive pill will not make you fat all by itself. what it will do is increase your appetite, so youre more likely to eat more and thus gain weight. i'm on the pill myself, and have started it twice without gaining any weight, and ... (read in full...)
Can going on the contraceptive pill make you fat?
Q. Can going on the contraceptive pill make you fat?...
A. 22 February 2009: the contraceptive pill will not make you fat all by itself. what it will do is increase your appetite, so youre more likely to eat more and thus gain weight. i'm on the pill myself, and have started it twice without gaining any weight, and ... (read in full...)
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