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writes:i've got to a point where i feel like i cant have fun without my boyfriend, even tho, realistically, i know its not true .. i ony see him once a week, mainly, and when im not speaking to him or with him i feel really down, even tho i know its just in my mind and i can be perfectly happy without having to be with him or speak to him 24/7.. when hes not around i get moody and down and snappy and i listen to sad songs and just make myself worse.. if i dont see him ill get in a mood with everyone, even my mates and i know this isnt right..dont get me wrong though, our relationship is great and, over the past year we've had our downs, sure, but we really are just like best friends, we talk about everything from our childhood and the future..i used to think these feelings were just because i miss him, as we dont see eachother often, but now im thinking maybe theres someting else, like im becoming possessive and ill just get to the point where ill think i cant live my life without him and i know thats dangerous .. anyone got any helpful words for me? i need to stop feeling like this !!
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reader, bettynotsweaty +, writes (22 February 2009):
dont worry, i do something very similar in relationships, and have to watch myself constantly, its a very easy thing to slip into.
the best plan is to actually do things without your boyfriend - go out, meet friends, do a new activity that he has nothing to do with. get your life as a single person by yourself back, because, if you read nick hornbys about a boy, there should never just be two people.
well done for realising that this is happening - i only realised when my ex and i split up, and suddenly i had no friends to go drinking with, because i'd spent the past year only doing things with him, and quite frankly, lost alot of friends by being dull and couply.
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