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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my ex-girlfriend and i have been apart for a little over 3 months. She kept leading me on the first few months after breaking up. She'd say she still loved me and missed me and would call and text quite often. Up until a few weeks ago did i actually get final closure. She told me she'd leave it up to me to start talking again because she didnt want to make things harder and wanted me to decide when the time was right. 2 weeks after this she sent me a video message with a song playing from a concert she was at. It was of course our love song when we dated and it really caught me off guard, especially after not talking for a few weeks. She said in the message how she thought i'd like it. After it she kept asking how i was and what not. I'm really confused at what she is trying to say and what the point of sending that to me was. I can't imagine she'd think i wouldnt buy into it and only think of it as a 'friendly gesture' . She knows me well and knows that it would make me think and mess with my head. What do you think she's honestly saying with that message????
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I think she's using you to make herself feel attractive. Cut off all contact until you're really over it. Give it a year at least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): She's playing games with you, or she regrets ending it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe ended it with me, sorry i didn't clarify that. After we talked for a bit she told me text to catch up more if i wanted to... I didn't text. First time I think I ever denied her of something. Dont' know if texting her to talk more or rejecting her a bit would have a bigger effect. What do you think?
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reader, bettynotsweaty  +, writes (22 February 2009):
politely ask her for some more space. she is either - being mean, in which case you need the space to properly clear you head, move on, and possibly change your phone number. or she is a confused girl, in which case you need space to sort out in your own head whether you want to be with someone this confused. if you decide you do, then bonus, because the extra 'space' will leave her wanting you more.
if it was me who sent that text, id think she was trying to restart a friendship, but doing it a slightly unthoughtful way. she was possibly slightly drunk (if it was me, very drunk) at the time thought, 'what the hey', and then hoped she could sweep it under the carpet the next morning.
girls are not always particularly clever
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Did you end it, or did she? She is not ready to let go of you. She wants you to want her!
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