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writes:i've been chatting to this guy over the last 3-4 months, he seems really nice, we just talk about school, family, parting the future.... recently he's started asking to see me on webcam (i havn't let in, yet) i kinda wanna do it because i feel like i can trust him, but his advances are getting more sexual like 'don't cover up too much'... its really putting me off him how do i explain to him that this is not what i want, its not who i am x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): jus tsay im not taking any clothes off. And also make shure that you can see him on webcam aswell, just to check....
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 Just tell him. "I'm not comfortable with that. Let's just keep chatting like this." Stand your ground!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): I see no reason why you both can't converse via web-cam.
Lots of people do it. And lots are not dumb enough to strip for someone they have yet to see first.
My advice, go ahead and talk to the guy on the cam, you can't just assume someone is a sexual predator just because they want to see what you look like.
If he asks you to do anything that you find yourself uncomfortable with doing, THEN the alarm bells should sound and red flags should raise.
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reader, bemused +, writes (22 February 2009):
 Hi hun. A lot of people seem nice on the internet as it is safe. They do not have to establish relationships with others in the usual say...face to face and that is what can make it dangerous. I agree with the other posters. What do you know about this person. What is his age? You are sixteen or seventeen...he could be in his forties. Have you asked to see him on the webcam?Does he have a criminal record and for what? I know I am being harsh here but I need to get through to you that you could be heading into a dangerous situation here. It would be my advice that you stop contact with this guy immediately. At the age you are at you should be out dating and having fun with your friends...not talking to creepy guys on the internet.
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reader, bettynotsweaty  +, writes (22 February 2009):
tell him your are one of those policemen posing as children to catch paedophiles on the net.
if he acts innocent then see if you can stream some webcam porn through your webcam (i.e pretend its you). gauge his reaction.
or suddenly start to mention a new guy at school that you like, start dating etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Tell him how it makes you feel and that you are not into that! You have the right to say NO! As others said be careful on the internet, you never know who you are really chatting with!
I met a guy from my area, who seemed really nice, and we chatted about maybe going out on a date, so I took a chance and gave him my phone number. When he called, the first thing he asked me was do I want to come over and chain him up in the basement! I hung up and changed my phone number because he kept calling!
Please be careful out there, it could be a dangerous world no matter how harmless someone seems!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Everytime he says something like that knock him back. Tell him it's not funny, not cool. Make sure he gets the idea that it's making you uncomfortable. Make it very clear you are not interested in that kind of thing, don't bother with a webcam, it'll make it harder to refuse.
Whatever you do, if you haven't already, don't give him too much personal information about yourself, like address phone number etc. he could be a creep.
If he doesn't back off and stop with the sexual stuff, break off contact and tell your parents. Whatever you do don't delete any of the chat logs or records of your contact with him (e-mails,network comments etc.), you never know if you will need them as proof.
Be careful with this, people can be anyone they want to be online, so no matter what you think you know about him, it could all be lies.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (22 February 2009):
 Alarm bells start ringing right about now.
Who is he? Have you met him personally? Are you sure is he who he says he is? Age? Dangerous people lurk on the internet.
Or maybe I'm getting it all wrong and this "guy" is the same age as you and you know him personally and he is a typical teenage lad desperate for a peek.
But whatever the case is, you absolutely do not have to explain yourself to this person with decisions you make regarding your webcam use. How can you trust him when by all accounts you haven't met him?
Be careful and take care.
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reader, taraness88 +, writes (22 February 2009):
dude you probably shouldn't be talking to a guy online in the first place, he sounds creepy! if he's advancing so quickly then it seems like there is only one thing he is after. :/
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reader, lodge123 +, writes (22 February 2009):
its not that hard. u say
lets get one thing straight- i aint stripping for u etcetc
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