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also i have had my own fair share of life experiences from living with a junkie and alcholic and violence and have lived to tell the tale.i have had my own experiences with the law and solicitors and courts and social services from having a confused and rebellious son.
currently after an accident i was left disabled and spend the majority of my time at home online and i have two wonderful sons(one of which has had his own share of problems) and a wonderful husband....i take each day as it comes and it does get better as i am living proof |
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I lost my virginity, should I have waited?
Q. hi .. im 15 and i lost my virginity a few weeks a go with a girl who i love A LOT and i don't regret it at all .. but i was wondering if i rushed into it and should have waited .. thanks ...
A. 10 May 2007:
your virginity can only be lost once im afraid and it should be with a special person....
if you think that the other person was special then that was for you...
you will never forget that person for the rest of your life
Im glad you didnt... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and I'm thinking about asking 15-year old girl out, what do you think?
Q. hi i am 18 and started talking to this girl who is 15 and we been talking for a while and that lot and i am starting to find her attractive and was thinking of asking her out i am not out for sex or anything for 1 i am a virgin anyway and plus i ...
A. 10 May 2007: talk to this girl first and see if you can find her point of view on going out with older boys?
i am glad that you dont just want her for sex as she is underage...
im sure she would be really flattered that you asked her out,but if shes not read... (read in full...)
Our marriage has become boring. What can I do to get the spark back?
Q. my wife of 7 years last night told me she was unhappy with the marrage and felt like that for a year. she says that she feels like she is living with a brother rather than a husband and she doesn't know why she feels like this. we get on great lik...
A. 9 May 2007: sounds like things are just a bit stale t the moment....
you say that you offer to put things on (videos etc)
dont offer just do it...
why not put up the pole dancing kit and give her a sexy show,it will show her your not embarressed and may even... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will only love me if I loose weight. Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend told me that I need to lose weight. We just got back together after we broke up for a couple of months and he said that I looked like I gain weight. So I told him you don't love me the way I am? He said I'll love you if you lost some ...
A. 9 May 2007: definatley dump him...
you dont need someone dictating to you how you should look and what you should wear,if he fell for you once then it wouldnt matter if you gained lots of weight you would still be the same person inside.....
what if you told... (read in full...)
Should I try to make things work with this guy, even though he's not ready for a commitment?
Q. Dear cupid I've recently been involved with a guy from my college. We started off as friends, and then started seeing each other for around 2 months, before he decided that he wasn't ready for commitment. Since then we've been on and off a couple o...
A. 9 May 2007: if your friendship is as good as you say then keep it that way.....
dont spoil it by sleeping with him
things are never the same after sex
move on and see someone else he will still be there as a friend and you can talk to him about future boyfr... (read in full...)
Does everybody need to feel important?
Q. I feel extremely conscious about what other people speak or talk, especially those around me. Actually what i crave is some sort of attention from others so try to look for any talk that is about me. It makes me feel important as that is the feeling ...
A. 9 May 2007: you will lose friends if you only want to talk about you,if you compliment others ,in turn they will compliment you....
when you find someone and you will ,they will want to know all about you and this in turn will make you feel important
... (read in full...)
Why did she behave so strange and how can I move on?
Q. I moved to a new place of work about 2 months ago and met a girl. We started texting phoning flirting and eventually I asked her out. I was gutted when she said no at first and we stopped talking for about a week. Then she started texting me again ...
A. 9 May 2007: it sounds as if she does like you but is quite insecure as she only pounced on you when she had a drink......maybe she wasnt treated very good in her previous relationship and she may be scared that you are being so nice....
texting is really a bad ... (read in full...)
After 10 years together he's going with another woman behind my back. Should I stick it out?
Q. Why can't I leave him? Should I follow my heart or head? I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, we have a house together which we have shared for the past 4. Last August I found out he had met someone else - someone different to me and he w...
A. 9 May 2007: You are only young and as you say you and him have only ever been with each other, there is a big world out there, just put this down to an experience.....
dont go back-its always heartwrenching at first then when youve met someone else you thin... (read in full...)
He says that we will marry and have children, but cant seem to believe him as he wasnt there for me!!
Q. I'm really confused about the way my boyfriend feels about me. He says he loves me, says he's going to marry, says we'll have children. He says all the right things, like i'm the most important thing to him and he just wants to see me happy. (h...
A. 9 May 2007: there could be number of reasons why he never came to you straight away especially if he was drinking-maybe he was over the limit?
the fact that he did actually come to you must tell you something-even if this was the next day
and as for telling ... (read in full...)
I'm dating the girl at works Ex, she already has someone new so why is she so cross at me!?
Q. I had a friend at the firm where i am working, not a best friend but a good friend. After a 3 year relationship with her boyfriend, they broke up, for some reason i dont really know. Later on me and her ex boyfriend started to chat and to see each ...
A. 9 May 2007: leave her to stew......she never wanted her ex,shes moved on.its probably the fact that she knows you and probably is jealous that you and him could be happy....
be very carefull that she doesnt try to split you guys up as she knows you both and ... (read in full...)
How do you make a bloke leave his wife without actually asking him to?
Q. how do you make a bloke leave his wife without actually asking him to?...
A. 9 May 2007: to be truthfull YOU CANT
a man will leave someone when hes ready and if he wants to....if hes told you he would leave his wife for you when its the right time-hes lying
dont even try to persuade him
keep well away and find someone who is not a... (read in full...)
So confused about our situation, finding it hard to read if he does have feelings for me!?
Q. im totally confused about if this guy has any feelings for me. we are not in a relationship, we are very close friends. but that can also be questioned, coz when i first met this guy i was interested in him and i thought he was too, and thats why we ...
A. 9 May 2007: yes definatley phone him to appologise for the way you spoke to him, from what you say it sounds as if he is concerned for you but in a friendly way
to find out for definate why not phone him and say "i have a friend and she doesnt know if this... (read in full...)
I haven't been able to trust my BF since he made out with 12 guys on New Years Eve 2006!
Q. Hey, I have been having some problems with my boyfriend of almost 9 months, for what feels like a rather long time. On new years eve last year (2006) my boyfriend cheated on me with 12 men while he was drunk. I saw him make out with them and sinc...
A. 9 May 2007: ask youself if you can really trust someone like this???
12 men in one night???? lucky guy
have you asked him if he is gay or bi sexual and how would you feel if he was????
call his bluff and dump him-then see whos swinging from the rooftops... (read in full...)
My marriage is in trouble being of his lying, other females and his running away when he doesn't like something!
Q. I don't know what to do with my marriage. We have been together for almost 5 yrs 2 of them married. We have 2 kids together and everytime he gets mad he leaves. Whether it's for a week or a month he leaves us with NOTHING. He works and I stay at ...
A. 9 May 2007: stand up to this guy and leave him because if you dont he is going to kill any confidence you have.....
he is not trustworthy and if he is sleeping around ,how do you know that you have not caught anything
what kind of man is he if he can just wal... (read in full...)
I'm 6 months pregnant, we are in couples therapy but he is still sleeping with someone else! How do I walk away?
Q. I'm having a difficult time walking away from someone and I need to. I am six months pregnant and really love this man, but he is sleeping with someone else and he can't make a decision. We have been in a relationship for over 3 years and were pla...
A. 9 May 2007: hes just got you where he wants you..you know about this other woman yet you are still with him......he will treat you like a doormat forever more because you will let him and things will only get worse when the baby arrives
get out whil... (read in full...)
I've not had sex in 3 months and suddenly find im masturbating more! Is this normal ?
Q. I'm 25 and its going on 3 months since I last had sex. Lately I find myself masterbating more frequently and watching porn. Is there something wrong I've never been like this before. ...
A. 9 May 2007: nothing wrong with masturbating weather your in a relationship or not. as long as its done in private
(you dont want to be arrested)
it sounds as if you could do with a proper seeing to
so ditch the pornos and go and get some real action (just... (read in full...)
He hardly ever calls me, surely if he loved me he would be calling me ?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been seening eachother almost everyday; the thing is that the year is almost done and he doesn't call me. I know that long distance relationsips don't work but he's the kind of guy who makes thing work. I love him and I ...
A. 9 May 2007: Have you tried calling him? he may feel that your not interested if you dont call, he maybe genuinely busy
give him acall and ask to meet up, if he brushes you off or does not reply to your call then call it a day and move on,
no one likes being ho... (read in full...)
Ive been having a sexual relationship with my best friend, help I'm now falling for her!!!!
Q. Hi, For the past few months, me and my best friend have been in a sexual relationship. i think im falling for her, and dont know what to do..we both dont, because no-one could ever find out about this, and we have always like boys and this has jus...
A. 9 May 2007: it sounds as if she maybe bi-sexual and you are just having gay feelings
you need to stop this now or you wont have a frienship for much longer
try going out with a boy and if its not for you then persue your girlfriend,but go out in the open don... (read in full...)
In an affair and would love him to leave and be with me... how?
Q. hi this is crazy i got myself an affair...20 years age gap me being the young one. we are both very into each other but i dont know how much longer i can carry on. my feelings for him drive me crazy and snap for him. this was not planned or thought ...
A. 9 May 2007: Dont do it in years to come he could be doing the same thing to you.
you dont say if you are in any other sort of relationship...
steer clear from this man,they say all the right things to make you feel good and get you into bed then they go home ... (read in full...)
Worries about doing it anal...
Q. I am willing to try anal with my partner. We are both VERY nervous about this new "spice". Can you please give me information on the best tips on doing this. Will it hurt? What about his "thing" comming out 'diry'? How can I prepare for it? Thank ...
A. 9 May 2007:
if you dont want to then dont do it...dont be forced into something you dont want to do. it will hurt if you are not relaxed
as for his thing coming out dirty- make sure your bowels are empty first
make sure you use plenty of lubrication ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me getting attention from other people!
Q. my boyfriend doesn't like me getting attention from people especially guys because my brother is a famous football player...and some of the guys who idolise my brother asked me for an autograph..help i know hes jealous he told me himself but hes ...
A. 9 May 2007: not many males would admit that they are jealous but face it we all are really.... maybe his is not so much jealousy but insecurity
you will have to try really hard to reassure him that it is him that you want and no one else
explain to him that... (read in full...)
He says my blow jobs are out of this world, so why the need to finish him off by hand ??
Q. I have been sleeping with this man for about a month. I really enjoy giving blowjobs and he seems to enjoy them aswell. He keeps saying that my blowjobs are 'out of this world', that I am a tease and how much he loves that... however, I'm not quite ...
A. 9 May 2007: to really blow his mind do both ..
first start off as normall giving him a blowjob then start wanking and just before he comes pop your mouth around at the same time as wanking him off...
and if your into that sort of thing try it with n ice cube... (read in full...)
We were together for 4 years, he is now with someone else but he stills tries to touch and kiss me!
Q. i was in a relashinship for about four years and was madly and deeply in love with him and still am. we broke up over something very silly, he is with someone else now. he still rings me and talks to me regualer he also visits now and again just a...
A. 9 May 2007: if hes with someone else then let him go.... it sounds as if he doesnt want you to move on. if you let him kiss you it could lead to more and he will be having his cake and eating it. yes you can still be friends as in saying hello and being polite ... (read in full...)
I spoiled my son's party which I regret, now I feel as if I can't live without them.
Q. i met lucy 12 years ago just after I split from my first wife she helped me through a messy divorce. We have had a steady relationship, just the odd argument here and there. Until now we have got 2 kids one boy who's 8 one girl who's 1 and a half. ...
A. 9 May 2007: It sounds as if things are hard for you especially when her parents are saying things to her also....
you should write her a letter and expalin how you feel and that things would be easier if you both had your own place.
Ask the doctor to give the... (read in full...)
Falling for my 45 year old boss!
Q. i think i am falling for my 45 yr old boss. i will be 24 yrs old. he is divorced and has a 10 and 13 yr old. he told me he really likes me and finds me attractive. we have been out many times together with my friends and other coworkers. i cant stop ...
A. 9 May 2007: Simmer down girl and steer clear, sounds like this divorcee could be looking into entering single life again, he may tell you he likes you nd finds you attractive to see how you react, if you fall for his charms he is in a position to use you
rela... (read in full...)
How much sex is "just right"? Am I too sexual for this girl?
Q. If you are really in love with a girl and you have been with her for 7 years.... how many times should you be having sex a week if you really are attracted to eachother. I really want to have sex more and it seems like only twice a week maybe three ...
A. 9 May 2007: there is no right or wrong answer to this one ...there are no laws to say how many times a week you should have sex.
how does your partner feel about this? mybe you should talk to her,you may have a very high sex drive and hers may be low. comu... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 19 and I think I'm pregnant - can he go to jail?
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for 2 1/2 years. My parents do approve of us dating, but I think I'm pregnant. Can my boyfriend go to jail?...
A. 9 May 2007: Yes technically he could go to jail for rape even though you consented to sex.the legall age for sex is 16 and even though you may be mature enough to make adult desisions you actually cant...laws are there to be kept.....
the only way your boyf... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fake my sex experience with this guy who is way ahead of me in that area?
Q. Okay so I'm officially dating this guy, it's a secret though. We are crazy about each other, and we've been hanging out everyday afterschool, it's really hard though cause he lives on the otherside of town, were thinking about having sex, he's way ...
A. 9 May 2007: Why all the secrecy? if it should be then he would be proud to let people know that you are his girlfriend.....Ask yourself has he got other reasons to keep you quiet? is he embarressed? has he got someone else?
If you do sleep with him (per... (read in full...)
My confidence is really low and I'm a size 18 (UK), do guys really want a girl this size?
Q. I like this guy alot but my confidence is really low, I'm a size 18(uk) and im quite tall so its kinda spread out but do guys really want this especially when they're like 18? any thoughts? ...
A. 8 May 2007: its not the size of the person its what you are inside that counts,
look at the likes of dawn french she is a catch for any man
most size 0's are bitches anyway....if your comfortable with the way you look believe me it shows
just tell yoursel... (read in full...)
My friend thinks I'm stalking him and is saying nasty things to me, why is he being like this?
Q. Hi there, Me and a guy were friends. We are part of the same group of friends. We all went out as a group most wkds. Well we ended up sleeping together, a few times. It all seemed fine neither of us wanted a relationship due to coming out of...
A. 8 May 2007: Maybe he thinks you see him as boyfriend material as you have slept with him.next time a situation arrises for you to sleep with him kindly decline.
Try finding another group of friends to hang out with for a while just untill things cool down just... (read in full...)
We kissed, and now she feels we cannot be friends anymore. Do I ask her out or let her go?
Q. i used to go out with girl about 6 years ago and were pretty close, then we spilt up and went our different ways i got married and had a child, then about 2 months ago my wife and me spilt up i was devasted at first. then about 4 weeks ago i bumped...
A. 8 May 2007: Explain to her that you were both at fault as you were both drinking and that it wont happen again and that you really enjoy her friendship and would like for it to continue,but if things have gone too far , you dont mind holding back and waiting ... (read in full...)
I dont feel a thing when we have sex!! What else can we try!?
Q. I can't orgasm with my boyfriend! He and I have had sex three times, and each time, nada. I love him and I'm crazy about him... but whenever he "enters", I don't feel a thing. The longer he tries to get me there, the more uncomfortable it...
A. 8 May 2007: there are plenty of gels and creams availiable to get you in the mood and leave tingly sensations.... or is it that you are trying too hard and only thinking of your own pleasures? you say your partner is very attentive, but this works both ... (read in full...)
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