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writes:I can't orgasm with my boyfriend!He and I have had sex three times, and each time, nada. I love him and I'm crazy about him... but whenever he "enters", I don't feel a thing. The longer he tries to get me there, the more uncomfortable it is- after a while, I just feel raw. I feel really bad, because he's so attentive, and wants to help me get there... but nothing works... We've tried more foreplay, different positions... all we get is a little frustrated.I don't mind not reaching the O, just being with him and seeing him feel so amazing is good for me, but it bothers him so much that I think it's preventing him from getting there. I'm afraid he's taking it personally.Any and all advice appreciated!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know its been forever since I posted this, but I wanted to holla back, and say THANKS for all of your help!!We've worked it out, and I'm one of the lucky ones, on the road to FANTASTIC sex! In my case, the secret was a good, long warmup, and he had to really get to know me. TMI, SORRY! :PBut a really good book for all the girls out there with problems: "What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex" by Hilda Hutcherson. It's available on amazon for $10 new or from $3 used. GREAT Book, dont live without it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, we'll see how it goes next time we're together. I dont quite feel comfortable "doing it myself" in front of him- a little too reminiscent of a live porn show!! Just like I'd feel weird if he started doing it himself in front of me.
I've also considered faking orgasms for the time being, just until we sort this thing out... But I'm afraid he won't believe me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): hey im kinda goin tru the same thing . but ive read on the internet nd its actualy not that uncommon strange thing for me is i can get myslef to the big O but wen im with him i cant i duno if its a insecurity problem or not but its gettin on my nerves now cos we do it alot so i wana start gettin sumthing out of it ive tryed the tinglelube nd the vibrating ring but dnt get ur hopes up there not that good to b honest tho i think u have to get urslef realy in the mood nd learn how to do it urself nd then show him how u like it or even do it urself in front of him GOOD LUCK GIRLS
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): Oh, girl! I'm in the EXACT same boat as you.
It's so weird, I don't know why I can't... I feel so weird.
It bothers my boyfriend so bad, too.
I'm glad there is someone else in the same situation.
I would like to know, as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm always thinking of him, asking him to show me how to make him feel good. But he says that he just wants to see me getting to that big O, and wants to know what would make ME feel good.
Hah... Very "Gift of the Magi", in a twisted sense. (The man thinking only of the woman, the woman thinking only of the man, and both of them ending up with useless gifts in the end)
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reader, aunty jane  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 there are plenty of gels and creams availiable to get you in the mood and leave tingly sensations.... or is it that you are trying too hard and only thinking of your own pleasures? you say your partner is very attentive, but this works both ways.....have you tried him not entering you for a while as you could both enjoy yourselves orally
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