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writes:I'm really confused about the way my boyfriend feels about me.He says he loves me, says he's going to marry, says we'll have children. He says all the right things, like i'm the most important thing to him and he just wants to see me happy. (he says all this without me asking... it always seems genuine)But... recently I went through a hard time and he wasn't there for me. I'm not a person who asks for help easily and I asked him to come and see me to help me (we live 100 miles apart). He was out drinking and didn't come until the next night, by which time I'd kind of convinced myself he does not care for me as much as he says.I do love him, but I would reconsider being with him if I thought I couldn't rely on himDo I believe what he says? Do I bring it up with him or just wait and see how he reacts if i ever need him again? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 May 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
I think this particular incident you should let go. If you rman had been drinking and you live 100 miles away, that could be a danegrous thing for hi. If he was over the limit, perhaps he was too drunk to drive and he could've put other drivers in danger.
If he seems genuine and he's never given you another reason to doubt him, I don't think this should make you doubt him. He came to you the next day, yes?
I just think that he might've made the right choice. I am a huge advocator of NOT drinking and driving, and you don't want him to put himself and others in a dangerous spot, do you?
Sounds like he's a good guy who DOES care about you. Don't let him go over something like this.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, AdamPayseno +, writes (9 May 2007):
 People aren't perfect.. He made a mistake.
He sounds like a nice guy.. genuine which is rare in the 'market' - You have to cut him a little slack.
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reader, NJmomabear +, writes (9 May 2007):
 Don't wait until you need him again if your really in doubt. Make up something just to see what he does, like your car broke down or something. Do this a few times to see what his track record is going be.
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reader, aunty jane +, writes (9 May 2007):
 there could be number of reasons why he never came to you straight away especially if he was drinking-maybe he was over the limit?
the fact that he did actually come to you must tell you something-even if this was the next day
and as for telling you how much you mean to him without being promted speaks volumes.......this sounds like a great bloke and i dont think you should fault him on living so far away
i think you can rely on him-most guys just wouldnt turn up
if you are unsure take things easy
but it sounds to me as if youve got a keeper
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