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writes:A year back one of my husband's sisters-in-law saaid in front of every one that my son try to attack her. She was telling lies to proove my son wrong in front of all the family members. She is a currupt person, but still all the family members believed her instead of my son.After that incident we stoppped talking with this lady and her husband, (my husband's brother) because we knew they were wrong. But internally my husband misses his brother, and in any argument he tells because of our son he stop talking to his brother.I don't understand how to solve this situation. My husband critisizes all the time to my son, even though he is a very obedient son. Before this, everything was ok in our family.Please help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunt tilly  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Family feuds are heart breaking, and sometimes not that easy to rectify. Don't let this spoil your relationship with your husband or son, as they are your own little family. Be strong together but explain to your husband that you understand he would like to have contact with his brother, let him know that this is fine with you as his brother is obviously only siding with his wife which again is quite normal, but they also have to understand that you are going to defend your son and stand by him. Your husband and his brother would probably be better off meeting up on neutral ground away from family when they have any contact. This will save any further arguments, and as long as you are comfortable with this kind of arrangement then you and your husband can get on with your lives.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 May 2008):
 There comes a point where you have to decide to move on and drop the issue. You will never get to the bottom of it when there is no way to 100% determine who is telling the truth. Of course different family members will side with one or the other that is natural. You all have to accept that there was an issue but family is more important that finding out who was wrong or right. Maybe your husband could start seeing his brother alone once a week with the understanding the incident is not discussed any further and try to rebuild their relationship x
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (2 May 2008):
 This is more common than you think, so your not alone. My partner has hardly spoken to his brother for 15 years. All because the brothers wife said something completely stupid but very hurtfull at a family gathering. The family have all learned to live with the fact the brothers dont talk, but this still hurts my partner. You can do nothing about this because your husbands brother will no doubt stick by what his wife said, even if its a lie.
The best way to handle this is to ignore what she said. As long as you and your husband know for a fact that she is lying, then stick by your son (he is your family after all).
Its hard to understand sometimes how people can be so wicked to other members of thier family. This would never ever happen in mine, so its alien to me.
Just let them get on with it, and tell your husband he should see his brother, as he may not always be able to.
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