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writes:hya,i need all the help i can get i've had the hardest life with domestic violence n sexual abuse which left my emotions shattered. i am 16 and i had a long term bf which i truly loved he was the only this that has ever made me enjoy life...we split because he cheated with his ex gf and it forced problems upon us so we split he is now back with her...but i was recently at his house for a party and he told me he loved me so much and would be back with me soon...but now he doesn't want to know again i think its because im around too much...i know we are right for each other as his mother has even said....what do i do please help spmeone. thanks xxx charlotte
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reader, Aunt tilly +, writes (2 May 2008):
 You are only 16 my love and you have got your whole life in front of you, I realize that this is another knock back in life for you and your trust has been abused again. To stop this never ending merry go round that you are on and to break the ccycle you need, to sort yourself out, that means sort all your past out get rid of any emotional baggage, this will in turn help you deal better with what ever life decides to throw at you. You need to get on track and let me tell you once a cheater always a cheater, he knows exactly which of strings to pull, and from what i,ve read he,s making a god job of it. You stand up for your rights girl and dont let anyone make a fool out of you. It may take you a while to ever trust but eventually you will meet the most wonferful person in the world to share your life with. And do you know what the best thing of all is about that you,ve got time you dont have to rush. Tell him you dont want anything more to do with him because your fed up of being used, and that you are a better person than that. You be strong love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Youve got used to being used as a doormat. So much so that you now relish it. You are such a lost person. I think you should dump him if he's yours to dump. Your behaviour crys out victim and boys like your bf will continue to treat you badly. Read up on assertiveness and learn to stick up to these people that walk all over you.
Good luck
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reader, alan949  +, writes (2 May 2008):
I'm sorry that you are in situations such as these, but after reading this I really don't think that he is "right" for you... For one, someone who is right for you wouldn't cheat on you with their ex. And was he maybe drunk at the party or not in the right state of mind in general? And if he seems to be weird with you being around him so much, then I don't he means what he says. Although he says that he "loves you so much" he really isn't showing that he means it. I would say either confront him about all of this, or just ditch him. You can probably find someone more meaningful who will treat you better than this guy... Hope this helped a little bit, feel free to message me if you want
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