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writes:I have been working with this guy for a few months. When we first met we flirted quite often then it turned physical. We never slept together but had oral sex. I knew before that that he had a girlfriend. I should have never done anything with him then but now.. I know I'm starting to develop feelings. I think about him constantly! Today my friend (that also works with us) said in a conversation that they had, he said it was his fiance but he told me girlfriend. I really don't want work to be awkward but I really don't know what to do. Please help me out..
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (6 September 2008):
 You should walk away from this situation before it get any more awkward. Think of your man at work, he's having oral sex with another woman and is around her every day!! That's something you would be ok with right? NOT!!! Why would you do that to yourself, or the other woman? If your hormones are that dang crazy outta control, find a "single" man for gods sake. Women like you give the good women a bad name. Get yourself out of that category! You're in for a heartache to say the least, but you've already caused one to a woman that doesn't even know it yet. Shame on you!! Here's a clue, he told you girlfriend and she's actually his fiance. I'm sure that hurts, well that's only a mere fraction of what his fiance will feel when she finds out and a fraction of what you would feel if "your" man did it to you. Chalk it up as a learning experience... find yourself a "good" man and don't lower yourself to those standards again.
Good luck, hope this may help and keep us informed
Michelle
I'm very blunt and hope I don't come across too strong, but that's the way I am. To the point! Leaving no guesswork! Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): He's cheated on his girlfriend and he'll cheat on you! He is not a trustworthy guy and is most certainly not husband material.
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reader, Aunt tilly  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 It makes no difference if its a girlfriend or fiance, the act was well out of line on both you sides. He committed the act knowing he had someone, and you were no better than him because you allowed it to happen. He,s a cheat and I feel sorry for his fiance. Get out there and fined yourself your own man who preferably is,nt attached to anyone.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 May 2008):
 It doesnt matter what her title is he's still with someone else and he if he can cheat on her might cheat on you. Put it down to experience and find someone else who's single x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): What to do? Accept the consequences of feeling awkward that you gave a guy you work with a bj that you barely know, as you did not know him well enough to know his girlfriend was his fiance....what are you doing messing around with someone's boyfriend? How would you like that? The guy behaved poorly and cheated on his fiance, count yourself lucky that you have the chance to dodge a bullet and go on with your own life and forget about it.
Next time reconsider what you do with men you work with.....you have to see them the next day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): This is a problem. This guy is no good, and you shouldn't bank on him to ever return the feelings - and even if he did - you already know he's a cheater! Cheaters show blatant disregard to the person who cares about them most, making them people you really don't want to get involved with.
Keep your distance. If he's only now engaged and already cheating, his fiance is in for some tough times. You don't want to be with a person who would make somebody else feel that way just so he can give in to some desire he has.
Good luck. There's somebody out there with all his good qualities, who is an honest man. Give it time and you'll meet that person.
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