She wont committ, she hardly ever has sex with me and wont even tell people we are together! What can I do to get this relationship back on track?
Q. Been with my girlfriend over 4 years now. After first 2 years we split because I did something stupid, I stole from my employer. She ended it because she said I was not the man she thought I was! After 3 months we got back together, mainly...
A. 18 May 2011: It sounds like you really want to try and make things work with her, but she is avoiding whatever issue she is having. You need to tell her to talk to you- it's make or break. She either commits to a proper relationship with you and tells peop... (read in full...)
Do sociopaths attach strongly to their victims--even if they don't feel empathy?
Q. I was with a girl for a long time who I believe was a sociopath. I dont wanna go into the details, but she had all the characteristics: she lied constantly, said very sweet things to me--as well as a bunch of other guys, was promiscuous and viewed ...
A. 18 May 2011: Please get away from this girl while you can. I understand it will be a long road ahead and hard for you to deal with as you clearly have feelings for her. I was with a sociopath for over a year- and I understand how easy it is to fall back into ... (read in full...)
How best to deal with these emotions after a break-up?
Q. So me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and 3 months and we recently broke up. After all that time I still just didn't feel "in love" with him. Of course, I cared about him and love him but not like that and it made me feel guilty which was ...
A. 18 May 2011: Hi, I have also recently broke up with someone after 2 years because I didn't feel 'in love' with them. I completely understand what you are going through and the overwhelming emotions. I think the only way to move on is with time. Time really do... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3.5years wants space, saying she has feelings for another bloke. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm after some advice. So here it goes. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3.5 years. We have practically lived together for 1.5 years but have only in our own place for the past few months. Things have been goo...
A. 31 August 2010: I'm so sorry to hear that she has decided to end things. You need to be strong now- you sound very level headed. I would advise no contact at this point, as hard as it is to let go, this will be the only way you can move on. She has put you through ... (read in full...)
Better to have loved and lost?
Q. Three years ago I fell totally completely in love with this boy. We dated for about 8 months but broke it off because there was a 30 minute distance between us. He dated another girl for about 2 years who broke his heart. but all through these past ...
A. 27 August 2010: Hi Makgandy, Please please please don't make the mistake of letting this person back into your life. I was in the exact situation as you- my ex made all these promises which he failed to keep. I always thought we loved each other the same amount,... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3.5years wants space, saying she has feelings for another bloke. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm after some advice. So here it goes. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3.5 years. We have practically lived together for 1.5 years but have only in our own place for the past few months. Things have been goo...
A. 27 August 2010: I really wish you the best of luck on Sunday. You definitely have the right attitude, and you are not deluded; if this girl doesn't pick you she is crazy. Guys like you are few and far between. I agree, it sounds like she is not ready to commit. ... (read in full...)
I have no self confidence because I am small in height
Q. hi every one i am a guy 19yo and my height is 5`3.4` . i am very depressed from my self , my all friend more then 6` and when i am sitting with them i look like a small kid but i am a student of first year and good in studies , i don't know wha...
A. 27 August 2010: Hi, I just wanted to say that there is nothing wrong with being small in height. I have a friend who is your height and he actually found a girl that is shorter than him and they recently got married! They are so cute together! Also look at cel... (read in full...)
We like each other in a non cousin way
Q. I am 31 years old and I have recently made contact and have been communicating with my male cousin on face book after not seeing him for 23 years. He is 34 now. As kids we were very close and shared a close bond. I have vaque memories of us kissing ...
A. 27 August 2010: I think go for it! Did you know that in England cousins are allowed to marry each other anyway? As long as your family would have no issues with this I see nothing wrong in pursuing this further. If you are both attracted to each other you might as ... (read in full...)
Happy days... :)
Q. Hey guys! I haven't been on DearCupid in MONTHS, and I'm happy to say that, upon returning, I can still see some really great advice being given and received EVERYWHERE! You haven't changed a bit :) Except... I was just browsing through the ar...
A. 26 August 2010: What a lovely story. Nice to see that young guys appreciate cuddles and hand holding too, not just sex! What a lovely romantic little story, it lifted my spirits!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend raped me!
Q. MODS NOTE: OP's own title. I am 20 years old. I have always been committed to abstaining from sex til marriage - not "everything but", I mean really abstaining from sexual activity. The furthest I went with my first boyfriend was us both taking o...
A. 26 August 2010: Please get rid of this guy. Your virginity was so important to you and he knew that you were saving it for marriage. He took advantage when you were vulnerable, when you had been drinking, because he knew you would be helpless. This guy is ... (read in full...)
I felt something was wrong so I looked at his phone, he does not know this, what do I do?
Q. recently my husband went on a trip with the boys. which he often does. I have always had great trust in our relationship. He called and texted everyday to check in. Upon returned, he asked if the washing machine was empty while he was still in ...
A. 26 August 2010: I would recommend confronting him about this- god knows why other people are advising you to just ignore it! I completely agree with anonymous- better to talk about it now than be sorry in the future. If you confront him and he has nothing to hide- ... (read in full...)
Online date doesn't look at all like her photos. I'm not attracted, even a little repulsed by her appearance!
Q. I met this woman online, very quickly the relationship escalated emotionaly, we exchanged many pictures and shared with eachother about our feelings, hopes and fears on a very deep level. We decided to meet, so i went down to where she lives ...
A. 26 August 2010: I think it is very important to feel attracted to someone when you are considering a relationship with them- so don't feel like you are being shallow; you can't force yourself to find someone attractive. I would be careful about leading her on ... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with a guy I briefly dated a year ago...how do I stop this???
Q. I am obsessed with this guy I briefly dated and it's tearing me apart mentally!!! I want it to stop. A year ago I met him online and I totally fell for him. He's in the military and soon after we met he had to leave on deployment. He was away for ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi,
I totally understand how you feel. I am currently with an amazing guy too but can't seem to get over a guy who I broke up with a year ago! I can understand why you would want to make a fake account so you can talk to him- we have all been the... (read in full...)
Do Gorgeous Women only date Equally Gorgeous men?
Q. Question... Whats the secret to getting a really beautiful woman? You know the type you run into every now and again that make your heart stop and fill your veins with ice water? Is there a secret method for attracting these higher echelon b...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi Solidus,
I think that most of the time, the study that you heard about, seems to be correct. I actually did a Master's in psychology and did a scientific experiment on couples; I measured how attractive each person in the couple was, and then... (read in full...)
In a wonderful, new relationship, but I still can't get over my ex! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am turning to you because I am really struggling to figure this out. Basically I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man, S. We have been together for one year and he is caring, funny, handsome, and thinks the world...
A. 26 August 2010: Thank you for your responses guys. Thanks anonymous, I have spoken to my current partner about this previously, and he has been very supportive; at the same time this is my problem and I need to deal with it on my own, there is only so much he can ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I made the right decision!
Q. My boyfriend and I have have been together for nearly a year, the other night something happen that scared me. We were lying in bed and I accidentally hit him in his, er, area, it was a complete accident and I apologized straight away, but he turned ...
A. 26 August 2010: You need to break up with him. First of all, he hit you, when he knew that you had hit him accidentally; and secondly you feel like something is missing in your relationship anyway. Get rid of him before he really hurts you.... (read in full...)
Have a big penis and don't know where to put it.
Q. Im a 20 year old guy who has kind of a wierd problem or dilema. The problem is that I have an above average size penis(8 inches long and almost 6 inches around(its true, Im not kidding)) and I just have no place to put it in my pants. Sometimes ...
A. 26 August 2010: I would say that that is quite large- but it's a good large, not too large. I had a boyfriend who's penis reached nearly his knee when non- erect- now that's too large- I didn't want to go near it! Women don't usually stare at men's crotches so I ... (read in full...)
Does familiarity kill desire?
Q. Do all men lose desire for their partner when they've been together for a while? Does familiarity kill desire? It is my dream to have a relationship with someone, that lasts, with someone who I can connect intellectually and emotionally with, sh...
A. 25 August 2010: Not all men are like that, although things do change with time, as you get to know each other. I think you should talk to him about this issue- although I know it might be hard. To me it sounds like he loves you, but in a more friendship kind of ... (read in full...)
I'm getting violent w/ my BF... but I want to stop!!
Q. I really need some advice, I've never been a violent person. But recently i've started getting violent toward my boyfriend. Not really violent, but it's bad anyway. It scares me so I don't know what it's doing to him He tends to make me fe...
A. 25 August 2010: Please see a counsellor or a therapist. Your anger may have built up over a number of years for a different reason, and now you are taking it out on your boyfriend. I had a similar problem where I was getting angry about everything and wanted to hit ... (read in full...)
He locks up his PORN!!
Q. My lover lives abroad but we see each other as often as possible. However there is something that bothers me about him, he keeps his porn actually locked in a drawer and wont let me see it (although he did once ask if I wanted to watch a porn film ...
A. 25 August 2010: I think that if you are worried about what kind of porn it is, you should just break into the drawer and have a look at it. If it is something violent or something that you do not approve of, at least your mind will be at rest; everyone has ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming desperate for sex!
Q. i think im starting to become desperate for sex....is that possible after having sex alot with your ex...after not having sex can you begin to need to have sex.....i haven't had sex for only 3 months nearly and basically everything i read about a ...
A. 25 August 2010: Don't start going around and acting desperate... Get some toys! I got an amazing vibrator from ann summers, if you're inexperienced you'll soon learn! And there is so much porn out there these days, you'll find something you like!... (read in full...)
I trusted him and he cheated on me
Q. well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi,
Having been hurt over and over again in previous relationships, I would advise you to break up with this guy. And yes, there really are so many nice guys out there who would never do that to you, especially not after 2 months! Please have eno... (read in full...)
Is my wife using me?
Q. i have split from my wife a couple of months ago, we where together for 18 years. the last two weeks we have got on great and i stayed over in the family home a few times. she has told me that she wants to get back together in a few months. now she ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi, It sounds to me like she is a little confused. It doesn't sound like she is using you; women do need a lot of space sometimes, and it sounds like that is what she needs right now. If you had problems in your marriage maybe she just needs to wo... (read in full...)
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