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writes:i have split from my wife a couple of months ago, we where together for 18 years. the last two weeks we have got on great and i stayed over in the family home a few times. she has told me that she wants to get back together in a few months. now she says i cant call down to the house because someone might see me because she claims state benefit. then she told me she doesnt like me sleeping over because i wake her when i am going to work and i take up too much room in the bed. she also said she likes har own space. i feel like she is using me. is she playing mind games, and can i trust her because she says one thing and then changes her mind?
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reader, Alittlebroken  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Hi,It sounds to me like she is a little confused. It doesn't sound like she is using you; women do need a lot of space sometimes, and it sounds like that is what she needs right now. If you had problems in your marriage maybe she just needs to work them out in her head, in her own time. I can totally understand what she means when she says she wants to get back together in a few months- she needs time and space to herself and time to enjoy her own company. I would advise not to rush her and give her time if you want your marriage to work. I can also understand that mind games and her changing her mind all the time must be upsetting for you. Maybe wait a month or so and have a talk with her about how she really feels as no one likes to be led on.However, if she begins acting more strangely I would be careful, are you sure she's not seeing anyone?I hope this helps,Gabrielle
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