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*akgandy
writes:Three years ago I fell totally completely in love with this boy. We dated for about 8 months but broke it off because there was a 30 minute distance between us. He dated another girl for about 2 years who broke his heart. but all through these past 3 years we've still kind of been hooked on each other. always finding ourselves right back in each others arms. over the summer before i left for college we started talking again and i ended up falling all over again and getting let down all over again. Now i am recently dating someone new who is helplessly in love with me and swears he would die without me. but once again my love walked right back into my life. we went to dinner the other night without my boyfriend knowing and it was just like old times sparks were flying, the next night he drove an hour to see me and stayed up with me til 5 when he had to leave to drive another hour home to be there in time for class. everything just felt right, perfect, like it fit, dont get me wrong my boyfriend is nice but this love just seems magnetic. should i play it safe with my boyfriend, or risk getting hurt again by the one i truely care for?
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reader, Alittlebroken  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Hi Makgandy,Please please please don't make the mistake of letting this person back into your life. I was in the exact situation as you- my ex made all these promises which he failed to keep. I always thought we loved each other the same amount, but it turned out that he was always letting me down, and I realised that deep down he can't care about me. So I broke it off; for good. Don't get me wrong, it was the hardest thing to do. Like you say, the love feels magnetic, you feel like you are two halves of the same whole, everything fits, it's like you are meant to be. But if you were meant to be in the first place, you wouldn't have let the 30 minute distance get in between you two. Also, is your ex really nice to you just before you sleep together? That's what mine was like- always amazingly lovely when he wanted something. You have a boyfriend that would do anything for you- don't let him go. Trust me if you carry on this cat and mouse game with your ex you will get hurt- and it will take you years to get over. I am still affected by mine and it's been over a year. That magnetic "love" that you share, that pull, is passion- and it's only there because of the push and pull relationship- the treat her mean keep her keen. Don't fall for it!!!!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I don't get why you broke up because of a 30 minute distance. That's not that far away. You two are obviously meant to be together. Just ask your guy (not the boyfriend) how he feels, is this what he wants? I mean, you seem really happy when you write about him (just the impression I got) and it seems unfair for your current boyfriend. Would he rather you lie about loving him or be honest with him and just break it off because there really isn't much there.
But you have to be sure, don't walk blindly into a place you can't come back from. Best of luck to you
I hope that helps.
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