My live-in BF has never once in the whole 2+years touched me in a sexual manner!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 3 months, in the beginning it was good, he would hold me and kiss me and say loving things to me, he moved in with me after three months and then things started changing. He became less affe...
A. 2 May 2012: Gezz, no you do not have sexual issues. I am at the exact same (well similar) point with my girlfriend of two years. She never touches me, never initiates, never wants to change anything up and mostly turns me down. It got much worse since we moved ... (read in full...)
Is this kind of behavior inappropriate for a married man? Does it mean he is attaracted to me?
Q. Extremely confused by this older married man!? There is this man at my work who is constanly flirting with me. He is about 20 plus years older than me, I am only 22. We do not work together but cross paths a few times a week or more. I have known ...
A. 21 February 2012: I think most things have been said but one I would like to add: what he is doing is borderline sexual harassment and highly inappropriate, you might enjoy the attention but if you objectively look at it he is harassing you. ... (read in full...)
We dated, he dropped out of sight and then told me he fell for me too hard?
Q. I dated this man for 3 months. Then all of a sudden he just stopped calling. When I finally did talk to him, he told me that he needed a break. So for 2 weeks I didn't hear from him. Out of the blue last Friday, he called and I wasn't able to ...
A. 21 February 2012: I think you should be honest and just tell your boyfriend that you family is curious and ask what you can tell them and what not. If you cant just tell them that you cant tell them at the moment.... (read in full...)
Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?
Q. I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men ...
A. 18 January 2012: I dont think it is a deal-breaker, my girlfriend rarely gives me bojobs. However it sounds as if you have an other issue with it, were you pressured into giving them? Why do you feel used?
I personally like to give oral and I dont think it is tr... (read in full...)
Did I wreck a chance at a third date?
Q. I met this guy online and after a couple of months he flew to see me. On our first real meeting he brought a friend and all three of us had drinks. He covered my portion of the bill. The second time I met up with him over coffee, I paid although ...
A. 11 January 2012: wow
well from my perspective as a guy: yes I do like a woman who steps up and takes the bill once in a while. No worries here. No fear of emasculating anyone...especially over coffee. I can understand that for a dinner date he might prefer t... (read in full...)
What do you say when a guy cancels at the last minute?
Q. I text him yesterday telling him that i couldn't do what we originally planed today but i was still free today and we could do something else instead if he wanted to. He text me back yesterday and said i could come to his and watch a movie instead. ...
A. 9 January 2012: Well you channeled on him first. Maybe he just did not have a set date and was very busy. Or maybe family came - ..who knows. Give him the chance to come up with a new date.
I think your text was fine and I advise to just wait and see how he w... (read in full...)
Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....
Q. I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...
A. 9 January 2012: Dear poster,
average size/length of a male penis is between 6 and 7 inches. However the diameter counts too and many women dont even like a large penis to much as it causes them pain.
Instead of thinking about what you can change (penis en... (read in full...)
A guy is showing interest in me, but I've never been in a relationship - what should I do?
Q. Hey, I've been thinking about relationships for a while now. im 21 year old female and i havent had a relationship with a guy since i was 10 years old! i thought when i started uni at 19 my chance would get higher! but nothing....until a week ago. ...
A. 9 January 2012: Dont over-think. Yes you should not get into a relationship just because you want to "push the guy count to 1". But that does not mean you cant give it a chance. Go out with him and have fun, it is ok as long as you feel comfortable with it. Dont ... (read in full...)
My husband is becoming overweight and unhealthy - wouldn't he stop doing this if he loved me?
Q. Hello Everyone, first of all i would like to thank this site. everytime i am in trouble this is the only place i can go and at least release my problem. I grow up to what they called, disfunctional family. I got no love from my own parents spec...
A. 9 January 2012: I dont really understand what the first part about your dysfunctional family has to do with your husband gaining weight.
I dont think it is fair to say that he must not love you because he is "trying to become fat". As somebody who loves sweets w... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but lately I hate her! Will a divorce make me happy?
Q. I hate my wife more than I have ever hated another person! I also love her more than I have ever loved snother person! I have read that love and hate are the opposite sides of the same coin and that indifference is far more damning...
A. 9 January 2012: Nobody can tell you if you will be more happy after a divorce. But from what you write, could it be worse?
If you rather want to die than to keep on living the way you do you should change your life. And if she is the reason, you feel this way... (read in full...)
Differences in views and clingy insecure boyfriend is driving me insane!
Q. I've been in a long distence relationship for almost 5 months now. He is a very nice guy. We get along. He makes me laugh. But sometimes If he's just with me because he's desperate. We met an a convention in the summer. at the convention he had his ...
A. 9 January 2012: "We have very differnt views on a lot of things (ex:him = uptight ultra conservative,old fashioned, christian extreamist, wants to be in the military + me = openminded (about religion)liberal not at all old fashioned)"[....]" I just can't see us ... (read in full...)
Boy troubles! Do I tell the boy at school to get lost? And is there hope for me with the 19 year boy in the army? I like the army guy.
Q. Mod Note: two adjacent questions from same poster have been combined. I'm a freshman in high school and I'm having major "relationship" problems with this senior boy. I don't even know what's going on between us. The other day I was walking in the h...
A. 9 January 2012: Dear poster,
you need to step up for yourself here. This boy is obviously promoting himself on your cost. He has no business kissing or hugging you if you dont want that. His behavior is NOT ok. Push him away and let your friends know that he is n... (read in full...)
He wants pictures of my private bits, what should I do?
Q. I talked to this guy once on the phone, i'm not sure how old he is, he is divorced and has a daughter that lives with his ex and he sees his daughter on the weekends. we chatted a little bit and he wants me to send pictures of my breasts and my ...
A. 9 January 2012: Say, what do you want to get out of this "relationship"? Sex? Well you might get that but I seriously doubt that there is the intention to have a real functioning relationship. I mean you dont even know how old he is? Maybe he smells incredibly, or ... (read in full...)
My debaucherous past is ruining my present
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a bad history in terms of getting myself into stupid situations and doing bad things (to myself not others). I have just rekindled an old friendship that I was really happy about as I am trying to move on from my more d...
A. 8 January 2012: Well two things:
- you need to handle the situation, dont downplay it but make clear that this is the past
- your friend: you need to let him know that you want to keep the past the past and not have him talk around like that. If he is your fri... (read in full...)
People tell me I am a great catch but I can't seem to get into a relationship! I hate being single!
Q. I hate being single. There I said it. I would like to feel loved, and be part of a relationship, to share things with a special someone. At nearly 29 years old, I have been single for most of my adult life and it is really beginning to aff...
A. 5 January 2012: Dear poster, I can totally feel with you. I had my first girlfriend when I was 26, also my first Sex about 3-4 months before I met her. We are still together, happy most of the time. I found that some people just need more time to find t... (read in full...)
Please help me deal with my boyfriend having cancer!
Q. It is quite a complicated problem well it is to me but here goes...basically last month i met this lovely guy who i really like and he likes me too. We have gotten really close and i think i am falling in love with him. The only thing is we were ...
A. 5 January 2012: To quote wikipedia: "Testicular cancer has one of the highest cure rates of all cancers: in excess of 90 percent; essentially 100 percent if it has not spread ". I have worked in cancer engineering as a research assistant and I honestly would t... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl again? Or is she just being nice?
Q. Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exa...
A. 5 January 2012: I dont see much hope. She never followed up more than one answer on your conversations and never asked a question. However I d ask for that yogurt again. After all you dont have anything to loose. If she says NO you will have your answer.... (read in full...)
G/f says she hit her ex. Will she hit me?
Q. I just started to date this beautiful girl. She is everything I had ever wanted and acts just like a lady. However a couple of things are concerning me, 1. Is that her ex bfs things are still in her place, yet she says they broke up 3 months ...
A. 5 January 2012: My opinion to some of your questions:
1. that is weird and a small red flag, she could at least have put them in a box.
2. she probably will, if it happens you should def. consider this relationship - violence is just not acceptable.
3... (read in full...)
Should I cry until I can't cry anymore and eventually will just forget about him
Q. I've been in this ldr for almost 2 years. We met on a chatline and instantly connected! Every time me tried to meet up,something would always happen on both of our ends, so although we had never seen each other we did skype and video chat and send...
A. 4 January 2012: Dear poster, I am sorry what happened to you and hope that you will feel better soon. What wonders me it that the only time he ever made it to see you in 2 years (and a 5h drive is really not that much in the US) his mum would be rushed into the ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and lost
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 6 months (I am 32, she is 25). When we 1st met, it was love at 1st sight. She had a tough life growing up and got in lots of trouble but with the help of a very supportive family, she was able to get back on ...
A. 3 January 2012: I agree with aunt honesty, you need to work on your anger management. Dont let other people drag you down, if they call you names, well just ignore them because there is no way to win with dignity.
On the other side I can side with you. The sign... (read in full...)
I stood by this girl when no one else would but as soon as things were fine she dropped me!
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently, a new girl moved to my school and has felt very homesick and has been kind of bullied by some of the people in our class. I was the only person who stuck with her through all of this, the only person who made her feel better ...
A. 1 January 2012: Dear 13-15 y/o male American,
Be proud to have done the right thing and having stood up for your ideals.
Unfortunately there is also nothing you can do. Apparently she never was a true friend to you and everything you could do would only hurt th... (read in full...)
I don't have feelings for my girlfriend and feel guilty because of my real intentions behind having a relationship with her. What should I do?
Q. Recently,on dating site, I have got 42 years old American woman interested in me and it's been two weeks since we have expressed love for each other.I'm 30 years old. She has 11 years old daughter from her first love who left here 6 years ago. She...
A. 31 December 2011: I think you have already discovered how immoral and wrong your intentions are. You should try to achieve succes on your own not on the back of somebody else or you will lead a miserable life - no matter how much money you make.... (read in full...)
A horrible work performance review ruined my holidays!
Q. I'm 26, recently out of grad school and I've got my first job. I perform every work task I get quickly and efficiently and I though I was doing great. I actually thought I was exceeding my boss' expectations! So when he said he was very unhappy with ...
A. 31 December 2011: I actually disagree with some of the answers here, I do not think that the solution should be to pace yourself or to create "fake work". I think you need to sit down with your boss and match your expectations. If you get done with your work too qu... (read in full...)
I feel like a closet girlfriend. Is it time to move on?
Q. Hi I'm shy slightly overweight and I've been seeing my bf of 17 months regularly. He comes over between 1 and 3 times a week, lives just 4 miles away and we love each other. I love him because he's attentive in many ways, has a lively personali...
A. 30 December 2011: wooo - you are together for 1.5 years and he has not told his parents yet. That would make me think a lot.... (read in full...)
An ex wife, an Autistic son, a crazy ex girlfriend, and another son-that's my B/f's life. Any thoughts on how best to handle this situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for nearly 2 years. We were talking about marriage..etc. He has been divorced for over 10 years and has a 10 year old Autistic son from his previous marriage. He is a dedicated father and pays ...
A. 30 December 2011: I agree with worldlywise. Take a step away and wait what happens. I would not be surprised if that woman would use a paternity claim as means of hurting him. ... (read in full...)
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