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writes:I dated this man for 3 months. Then all of a sudden he just stopped calling. When I finally did talk to him, he told me that he needed a break. So for 2 weeks I didn't hear from him. Out of the blue last Friday, he called and I wasn't able to get to the phone, so he left a voice mail. He told me that he knows that I needed more of an explanation for what had happened. He said that he fell for me very hard but that I scared him and that he hoped to talk to me but he understood if I didn't want to talk. I was sick over the weekend so I didn't respond to him right away. I called today (Monday), he didn't pick up so I left him a message, that yes I would like to talk with him. He has never responded, so I really don't know what to do. I am totally at a loss and I don't know what to do.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 He fell for you too hard? I think it's quite the opposite. He is making it all your fault because he feels guilty of breaking it off. When a man does that you don't really need an explanation. He is either unstable, or not that into you. For 3 months he couldn't come up with a reason for not continuing, but feels he's a bad person for disappearing without a word. Your silence would tell him that you accept it, so you can both move on. Even if he calls you later, don't answer it. You should only consider someone who is consistent, outspoken with his intentions and not afraid of love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): This for me would start alarm bells ringing when you fall for someone you do not run the other way quite the opposite
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): You called him back that is all you can do, now try to relax. The ball is now in his court and you have done what you can. Now that he has shown you the way he is and how unreliable he can be you need to be asking yourself if this is the kind of person you want a relationship with. Best of luck and please take care. I would try to be friends first if you in fact decide to still date the man......
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reader, tobson +, writes (21 February 2012):
I think you should be honest and just tell your boyfriend that you family is curious and ask what you can tell them and what not. If you cant just tell them that you cant tell them at the moment.
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reader, itcantjustbeme +, writes (21 February 2012):
 Not knowing all the pieces, I would think what he's really trying to say is he's not willing to commit to anything and this may just be a ploy...
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