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writes:I talked to this guy once on the phone, i'm not sure how old he is, he is divorced and has a daughter that lives with his ex and he sees his daughter on the weekends. we chatted a little bit and he wants me to send pictures of my breasts and my pussy (vagina) and he told me he wants specific pictures and what he wanted to see. he would then send a picture of his penis to me. i haven't talked to him on the phone yet. i have his phone number but haven't gotten around to calling him yet. should i take these pictures and send them to him online? i want to talk to him on the phone to find out how old he is and why he wants these pictures. He also said that he is lonely and doesn't have sex at all right now, and that he would be my boyfriend and do things for me and get things for me if i send him these pictures. he wanted to meet me last night but i haven't talked to him on the phone yet. He lives a little ways away from me, about a two hour drive i think. should i send him these pictures that he wants me to take and send to him?? should i talk to him on the phone? why does he want me to send him these pictures? is he worth my time or should i just ignore him and not talk to him anymore??? he seems like a nice guy and he seems to be sincere about being a potential boyfriend and doing things for me but i don't understand why he wants/needs me to send these pictures to him first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I've been in this situation before and I ended up sending him pictures of myself. Stupid mistake. He ended up putting them online and didnt tell me until I found out. Dont do it, you dont know what he's going to do with them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Goodness gracious,
You talked to him once on the phone ONCE…t hen you say I haven’t talked to him on the phone yet…do you mean since the first time you talked to him or are we getting two different stories?
You are not sure of his age
He wants nude shots of you… shots that your mom, dad, grandma, boss, kids, neighbors or anyone else could see if you sent them….
He would send you a picture of a penis…. His he says,… honey have you never seen one… google images has plenty if you need to see what one looks like….
Should you take this pictures and send them… NO what makes me sad is that I have to TELL YOU NO…. how do you not know this?
You want to talk on the phone and find out how old he is why? What does his age have to do with the fact that he’s a predatory creep???
WHY does he want these pictures? Because he’s a predatory creep… because he’s a LOSER
Why do you want to have this man as a boyfriend? Because he said he would do things for you and get things for you? Are you that desperate for things? Perhaps a charity in your area could help… there’s also FREECYCLE for things… if you need… you just ask and if folks have and aren’t using it they will give it to you without you having to resort to sending T and A shots…
NEVER meet him at the last minute… heck does not meet him at all…. And gawd if you do make it a date
Make him take you out to a nice dinner and pay for it AND MEET HIM THERE do NOT GET in a car with him or go anywhere private with him. ( I vote for NOT meeting him at all and cutting all contact with him but I know human nature and I have to give you the options for how to do this safely in case you do not listen to me) If he is two hours away MEET IN THE MIDDLE if you must do this at all and I do not advise that.
Are you sure you are nearly 40???
DO NOT SEND these pictures
DO NOT call him
DO NOT get in a car with him
DO NOT go to meet him in his city
DO NOT GO ANYWHERE with him in private
DO NOT give him money or your time
WHY does he want the pictures? Masturbation or blackmail or to share on the INTERNET… or with his friends “hey guys look what this gullible chick sent me…” and he forwards it to all his friends… NICE
He is NOT worth your time
I vote for blocking his email and phone numbers and IGNORING HIM
Explain to me how a man who asks for nude shots of someone is a nice guy… I don’t see that.
He’s not a potential boyfriend… I just did a 2 hour LDR with a man for a year… he NEVER asked for pictures of me nude or otherwise…
RUN FOREST RUN!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Holy Moley, have you been living in a cave for 30 years or more? Of course you shouldn't send him any crotch shots; you also should lose his number and change yours. After that maybe you should hire a tutor to get you acquainted to 2012.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): I cannot believe,at your age, you are asking this question.
Why do YOU think he wants these particular photos of you?
(If you don't mind some random stranger having possesion of pictures of your most intimate 'bits' - then go ahead,send them, he will probably share them on the worldwide web...)
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Oh dear. I think he wants to use your pictures to masturbate over. This is not good. I would try to stop these phone calls now and look for someone new. Thanks.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2012):
 WHY? You don't even KNOW the guy and you want to send him pictures of your privates? Really?
You haven't even talked to him or met him in person - yet you are ready to share picture of yourself that you normally don't go around and show off to strangers ( I assume).
You have NO idea what he will do with the picture, he could post them on the web, forward them to all his friend, I mean really? You are 36-40? Where is your common sense?
Sorry if I seem "preachy" but I just don't get why people "think" they can develop a REAL relationship through texting.
If you think he might we BF potentiel, TAKE the time to get to know him. Which means talk on the phone, face to face, do stuff together (and I don't mean sex)- see if you have a connection.
The whole sexting seems at best, desperate to me.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (9 January 2012):
 It depends on what you are looking for really doesn't it? If you need in your life a crazy sex maniac that is twisted...then by all means ...please send them!
I mean... WHO DOES THIS??? Who sends vagina pics to a stranger??? #baffled
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): That is not a man interested in you romantically. He is just using you. A man that respecta a woman wouldn't ask such things. They would be asking for a meet up, a drink, a conversation.
He's a form of sexual predator and its about getting off and as maquerade711 says; will move on to find someone else to fulfill his kink.
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reader, masquerade711 +, writes (9 January 2012):
 The only plan he probably has for those pictures is masturbating to them a few times before he moves on to another girl and asks her for the same kinds of pictures. You need to be extremely careful about who you share this stuff with, because once you've sent it, it could end up anywhere, on any web site, and you don't want that.
I would advise extreme caution. CindyCares is right...any man who wants to be your boyfriend will take an interest in YOU as a person. And would only ask to see your private areas in person, in some kind of intimate setting. I met my fiance online, and he never once asked for any pictures of me naked, and to this day doesn't have any.
Just be careful. You're an adult so you can make your own decisions, but don't give away anything you don't want to - it's your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): People who exchange these kind of pics are lifes losers. Usualy sex starved or cheating on their partner and believe they are doing nothing wrong. Dont get mixed up in it, it is laughable and desperate.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Because he'll use them as masturbation tools. He'll watch at your pics and will have a nice wanking session...with your help.
And have no doubt about this, he has no intention whatsoever of becoming your boyfriend. Someone who wanted that, would definitely show you an interest in you as a person first ( your tastes, interests, values, personality etc.. ) and an interest in your vagina later.
If he wants to see the goods first, that's all he wants from you. After you'd send the pics, either he'd disappear, or he'd try getting you involved in some seedy
squalid long distance cybersex only thing.
The decision is up to you, you are an adult and if this is your idea of fun, who are we to forbid it to you. If you want something more, of different, don't waste any more time on this loser.
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reader, tobson +, writes (9 January 2012):
Say, what do you want to get out of this "relationship"? Sex? Well you might get that but I seriously doubt that there is the intention to have a real functioning relationship. I mean you dont even know how old he is? Maybe he smells incredibly, or is an Alcoholic. Do you really want to send sexual pictures of yourself to some creep you dont know.
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