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writes:I hate my wife more than I have ever hated another person! I also love her more than I have ever loved snother person!I have read that love and hate are the opposite sides of the same coin and that indifference is far more damning than hate.Well, I hate my wife! I cannot stand her. I feel like my life with her has been wasted. She doesn't care, she doesn't reciprocate.I often find myself hoping that I die young or else that she does. No sex. No affection. Constant nagging, even though I pay for everything. I wish I was dead. Will filing for divorce make me happy? I love this woman and yet she treat me like crap. I am tired of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): Counseling, counseling, counseling.
When you love and hate someone, remember you are fucked up as well, get to a counselor and figure it out.
All the time in the world for divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): What was wife like when you first met, dated, and married.
When did she change and become so cold, unaffectionate?
What is it that you love about her?
I'll be better able to understand fully with more information.
Is it really lack of sex and sexual frustration? Were you more suited on an intellectual level and not so much romantic, intimate level?
Does she laugh at your jokes?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
 I understand exactly what you are going through.
Yes Hate and Love are the same emotion at opposite ends IMO.
Will divorce make you happy? No one knows... but honeypie is right a full formal trial separation sounds like a plan to start with to see if life witout her is better than with her.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Maybe go for trial separation? It might give her a much needed wake up call and give you a chance to see if life without makes you happy.
I agree with tobson, could it be worse being single?
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reader, tobson +, writes (9 January 2012):
Nobody can tell you if you will be more happy after a divorce. But from what you write, could it be worse?
If you rather want to die than to keep on living the way you do you should change your life. And if she is the reason, you feel this way, yes maybe a divorce will make your life better. Beside that I cant comment as you dont give enough details.
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