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writes:Mod Note: two adjacent questions from same poster have been combined.I'm a freshman in high school and I'm having major "relationship" problems with this senior boy. I don't even know what's going on between us. The other day I was walking in the hallway and he ran up behind me and gave me a hug and then he just kissed me. It was really weird because he's like one of my really good friends. I just kind of walked away and then I saw him again in the hallway later and again..he kissed me..then again as I was leaving school. I don't like him in that way though! And what's really annoying me the most is that he's telling everyone we're together! I just don't know what to do because I don't want to be a total jerk and tell him off but I feel like that might be my only choice..and ideas on what exactly to say to him but still let us stay friends?My second problem is this :Okay sooo there's this guy I met the other day. He's my bestfriend's cousin and I mean I've known him for a while, well, not actually know him personally but I knew who he was, and I never really took much interest in him till I met him a few days ago when he drove me and my friends to the mall. He's 19 and he's in the army but he was back for the holidays and i don't know what it is about him that just makes my heart melt! He just went back to the army last week and I haven't stopped thinking about him ever since! When he was leaving to go back, I gave him a huge hug and he like picked me up then the next day he wrote on my Facebook wall saying "miss you already" the only thing is I'm like 14 sooo maybe he just thinks of me as a sister and maybe I'm looking into it too much? I think I need to get over him because you know I'll literally never see him but I just can't help it! I can't stop thinking about him! Is this just a silly teenage crush?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2012):
 No, no no, you are 14! You should not be dating a 19 year old. And not one who is enlisted, for now he will be moving around the country and possibly overseas and could even get deployed, all things that are HARD to cope with for an adult much more so for a young person such as you. I do think it's a crush and crushes are fine as long as they don't hold you back from seeing what is around you.
As for the guy who is kissing you at school, do you just stand there and let him plant one on you? Why don't you push him away when he gets that close that he can kiss you? Don't let him hug and kiss you if you don't want it, push him away and tell him to go fly a kite!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
 tell the first boy if he touches you again you will call the police because you do not want to be touched at all and it's assault.... then DO IT....
as for the second boy... let it go honey, he's in the army and he's too old for you for right now....
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reader, tobson +, writes (9 January 2012):
Dear poster,
you need to step up for yourself here. This boy is obviously promoting himself on your cost. He has no business kissing or hugging you if you dont want that. His behavior is NOT ok. Push him away and let your friends know that he is not your boyfriend. If it does not stop you should talk to a person of trust (teacher, parents...) You are not a jerk, he is.And as such you need to treat him.
To the second question Let it go - he is 5 year older than you which is huge in that age. Of course you are flattered by his attention, but a 19 y/o would not seriously consider a healthy relationship with a 14 y/o. Most intimate contact would be illegal and most problematic. Hell, see it this way even if you would be his age, I would be most concerned about him posting a "miss you already" message on your facebook wall - considering that he barely knows you.
Good luck and all the best
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