Why don't women with low self-esteem stay loyal to emotionally strong men?
Q. Why don't low self esteem women choose to be loyal to emotionally strong, masculine men, who are good to them? (a generalization)...
A. 7 August 2011: People with low self-esteem think they don't deserve good things in their lives and expect bad things to happen to them. So they self-sabotage. Also, they may be used to patterns of behavior which they learned in childhood and which fostered the ... (read in full...)
Psychiatry work related question...
Q. Can you become a psychiatrist because you enjoy helping people but have a hard time solving some of your own issues? ...
A. 22 July 2011: It is a long road to becoming a psychatrist: College, medical school, residency...Part of the training to be a psychiatrist is going through therapy yourself. It is important to develop self-awareness about one's issues, if not actually resolve ... (read in full...)
I found porn on my 53 year old dad's computer
Q. My dad is 53yrs old.. a very simple, sober and decent man who practices meditation daily. But today when I went on his laptop, there were loads of porn (hardcore) websites in his browsing history. Is it normal for a person like him to be looking ...
A. 23 March 2011: You were on his computer. Is it possible that someone else has been on his computer, too? A visitor or another household member?... (read in full...)
I found porn on my 53 year old dad's computer
Q. My dad is 53yrs old.. a very simple, sober and decent man who practices meditation daily. But today when I went on his laptop, there were loads of porn (hardcore) websites in his browsing history. Is it normal for a person like him to be looking ...
A. 22 March 2011: Porn is wrong in any situation, anytime,anyone,anywhere, anyhow, anywho, whether in any aspect of making, selling distributing, or consuming porn. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
As long as there is a demand for ... (read in full...)
Why is my period taking so long to come?
Q. i started my period in december of 2008 and most of the time i'll have my period every 1-2 months. but i haven't had my period for about4 months. i know that about 2 months is normal but its never been so long. so what my question is why is it ...
A. 10 October 2010: Sweetie, I was just trying to get clarification. I did not mean to offend at all. I actually commend your decision to remain a virgin until you are married. You sound comfortable with yur doctor's advice. Wishing you all the best life has to ... (read in full...)
Should this man be trusted?
Q. Ok.. I just started dating this man who is 35. I am 24. I have known him for about 2 years but we hadn't dated before, though he had asked me out a couple of times. One of the reasons I did not date him before, aside from me being unavailable, was ...
A. 21 September 2010: I totally agree with everything followtheblackrabbit said! The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Your instincts are telling you he has behaved badly in the past. He may be fascinating, strange, and emotionally unavailable. This ... (read in full...)
Strange pain is making me miserable...
Q. Okay, I know this is a relationship site, hence the name, but I have a question about the relationship between my body and mind and miscommunication. Sarcasm aside, lately I have been having strange pains. My knees hurt, muscles in my back I nev...
A. 21 September 2010: I don't think going cold turkey from sports would have this effect. You are young and previously very fit and healthy. One month of relative inactivity is a shourt time to decline so much. It may be coincidental that you have some stressors at ... (read in full...)
Girfriend coming back from a trip after long-distance arguments. What to do?
Q. My Girfriend is away for a one month language course in Europe. It has been 3 weeks now, and she is coming back next week. Before she left we werent doing very well, fighting and even getting physical once or twice. But we keep getting back ...
A. 21 September 2010: You two don't sound like a match. When she gets back, or even before she gets back, just tell her you are not a match and there is no use in prolonging the inevitable. It doesn't sound like you make each other happy or even enjoy each other's ... (read in full...)
Why is my period taking so long to come?
Q. i started my period in december of 2008 and most of the time i'll have my period every 1-2 months. but i haven't had my period for about4 months. i know that about 2 months is normal but its never been so long. so what my question is why is it ...
A. 21 September 2010: I'm glad you have seen a doctor and you sound reassured. But did the doctor run any kind of tests? Sure, cycles can be irregular when you first start, but like I said before, it's been 1 1/2 years now and your cycles should be rather regular now ... (read in full...)
Why is my period taking so long to come?
Q. i started my period in december of 2008 and most of the time i'll have my period every 1-2 months. but i haven't had my period for about4 months. i know that about 2 months is normal but its never been so long. so what my question is why is it ...
A. 25 August 2010: If you started your periods in December 2008, it has been over 1 1/2 year. Normally your periods should become regular within 1 year. If they aren't, you should see your doctor. It may be a hormone problem or some other kind of medical problem. ... (read in full...)
Over 65 and my wife no longer wants sex
Q. My wife has no more interest in sex. When I ask her what the problem is? She just says that she has lost all interest in sex. My question is, If I have sex with another woman would that be cheating? P.S. We are both over 65....
A. 24 August 2010: This is a relationship problem, not just hers or yours. You both need to be evaluated for medical problems, medication problems, and then psycho-social problems. Did her lack of interest develop slowly or suddenly? Did it occur in conjunction ... (read in full...)
Blood pressure medication causing a problem?
Q. Im 29 yrs old me an my boyfriend we have sex on an off for 9 yrs. now we r dating but have had for great sex for 9 yrs. the just put him on high blood prassure pills. he is 40 yrs old would the pill have anything to do with his ability to get an ...
A. 24 August 2010: Medications for high blood pressure can cause erectile dysfunction. Not all drugs have the same effect. He should talk to his doctor, maybe change the med or lower the dose if possible. He should also try other ways to lower his blood pressure ... (read in full...)
I have had my period twice this month and both have been light, why is this?
Q. Hi :) Ive had my periods twice this month, and the 2 times ive had them, its been REALLY light and i dont know why :S can you please help me ? Thanks ...
A. 24 August 2010: You are very young still. It may take a year for your periods to become regular. In the meantime have you been under more stress lately? Are you taking any medications that can interfere with your hormones? You say your periods were light, so ... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: Where are you? What is the legal age of consent there? This is the most important question you should be asking right now. Don't take any chances. If you are truly in love, cool it until he reaches the age of consent. If you still want to ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and very itchy!
Q. I'm very glad to see there is a health section on here! Hopefully someone can give me some advice. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant, and I noticed that in my first trimester my stomach was a bit itchy. Now for maybe the past week (sorry if this i...
A. 24 August 2010: I really hope you are getting adequate prenatal care. You could have a yeast infection. Since it is symptomatic (bothersome itching), it would warrant treatment. Some infections can cause premature labor later on. So please see your health care ... (read in full...)
Niece gave me BJ while sleeping
Q. I went to visit my sister while i was driving thru calif. We had a BBQ and lots of drinks. Well around midnight i went to bed and passed out. About 3 am i was woken up to a really good blow job but the lights were off. I was thinking it was one of ...
A. 12 February 2010: This is outrageous behavior on your niece's part! First of all, she took advantage of you with your defenses down, being both asleep and drunk. Secondly, it is incest. What accounts for her behavior? She may have been inappropriately sexualized, ... (read in full...)
A precaution for dating sites... don't fall for scammers!
Q. I just want to bring up a serious issue happening on dating sites like Match.com, yahoo personals, OKcupid.com. I have my profile on some of these popular dating sites that I mention and from my experience some of the people on there are scammers. I ...
A. 12 February 2010: I am sorry this happened to you. Thanks for sharing so that others can learn from your experience. There are ways to check the IP (internet protocol) address an e-mail is coming from to get an idea of where that computer is located. There are ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason for these heat rashes?
Q. Hi! I'm 18 years old and for several years now I've been having heat rashes. Sometimes I just get so hot I wanna go swimming in ice and the next moment I'm cold again. What could be the reason for these?...
A. 12 February 2010: Are you describing fevers and chills? If so, there is a long list of medical conditions that could be causing this, from infections to inflammatory diseases to connective tissue disorders. Please see a physician right away and tell him everything ... (read in full...)
It gets hard, but I can't finish! Am I having prostate problems?
Q. Hello, I'm 43 years old, all my adult life I've enjoyed good sex most days, and when not with a woman my hand has been perfect, and never had any problems. About a year ago, I began to notice that it was getting difficult to shoot. At first ...
A. 12 February 2010: Yes, see a urologist. You may have benign prostatic hypertrophy (BPH) or prostatic enlargement. This can cause problems with urination and ejaculation. Sometimes there is retrograde ejaculation, that is, you ejaculate but the semen, not able to ... (read in full...)
Who should I lose my virginity to...
Q. hi. im 13 14 on valentines day and im a virgin. i was going to lose my virginity to my ex. i loved him so much and i still do but i just wasn't working very well. i could only see him about 3 times a week so we finished last march. we were going ...
A. 12 February 2010: You are very young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Please wait to have sex until you are mature enough to handle the emotions that will accompany it. Wait until you are in a mature, healthy, committed relationship. The man you lose your ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 10 February 2010: So, okay. It's been 5 days and you've gotten 76 answers. Obviously there are a lot of people who care about you, even if some of us are having a bit of fun. Why don't you let us know how you are doing? And, by the way, how's the tree?... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 6 February 2010: I think you are taking a huge risk for a small, momentary plesure, one that can be satisfied in much safer and healthier ways. You are young and inexperienced. Why not wait until you are emotionally ready for sex and somewhat knowledgeable about ... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 6 February 2010: Yes, worry a lot! But do something about it and get your mother or another responsible adult involved! Have you even told your mother? If so, what was her reaction?
I am very sorry this is happening to you. At the same time I am proud of you f... (read in full...)
He is a horrible abusive man but I cant let go of him
Q. I can't let go of this abusive, horrible man. He has such a hold on me! I love him a lot, I don't why but I love him so deeply and I just can't let go. If he apologizes and wants me back, I just can't seem to resist. I still see more pros than cons ...
A. 6 February 2010: You are very young. The areas of your brain that control major decision-making, evaluating the environment, planning, and other "executive" functions won't be fully developed for another 4-7 yrs. Please don't let your brain get stuck in your ... (read in full...)
Sexy dreams and attraction
Q. If you dream about having sex with someone, does that mean you want to be with that person?...
A. 4 February 2010: Not necessarily. It could just be "day residue", that is, your mind doing some "mental housekeeping," kind of cleaning up the left over bits and pieces of things that you saw, thought, felt, came across, heard, or otherwise experienced that day.
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Some interesting facts on porn to share
Q. hey everyone,this is my second article for dear cupid site..thx for the over whelming response over the first. In this article i am going to talk about PORN ADDICTION i have come across a lot of people on this site seeking help for themselves or th...
A. 3 February 2010: As they say, better late than never. Another good saying is IF YOU'RE NOT PART OF THE SOLUTION, YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM! Pornography is NOT a victimless crime. It promotes domestic violence, degradation of women, child abuse, dissolution of ... (read in full...)
Has my sister's man been molesting their child?
Q. I have a younger sister who is in a very abusive relationship. Eleven months ago she had a baby by this person. A few months ago they broke up and eventually, he wormed his way back into her life. She just found out (by a doctor) that she has her...
A. 3 February 2010: It has been a while since this Q was posted but I have to respond. There are many possibilities here. The best way of dealing with them is to gather FACTS.
All three people can be tested to see if they indeed do have herpes and if so, if they ... (read in full...)
Sleeping problems...
Q. I have had no decent sleep in the last week and i have sleeping problems anyway as they are heridtary on both sides of my family. my mum has terrible trouble trying to sleep as do i before like 4/5 am. i can feel tired go to sleep but wake up every ...
A. 3 February 2010: Insomnia is a very serious issue. Have you been evaluated in a sleep lab? Have you been evaluated by a TEAM of physicians including a psychiatrist, ENT doc, cardiologist, pulmonologist, and neurologist? What exactly is the "hereditary sleep ... (read in full...)
Near menopause... help!
Q. Hello ladies in menopause or pre-menopause. Could you please help me, if you have any good ideas for me. Well, I still get my period, but getting close to finishing soon I guess. But I have 2 very disturbing problems, and I wonder, if anybody here ...
A. 26 January 2010: Okay, so the alien-seeming feelings aren't so alien after all. It sounds like you are articulate and insightful, making you a good candidate for a little psychotherapy to explore these feelings. Have you seen a psychiatrist? Psychiatrists don't ... (read in full...)
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