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writes:I just want to bring up a serious issue happening on dating sites like Match.com, yahoo personals, OKcupid.com. I have my profile on some of these popular dating sites that I mention and from my experience some of the people on there are scammers. I was recently deceived by one of these scammers. I met someone who I thought was a sincere attractive person. She was very pretty and very deep. I mean I thought I met my soulmate but I wanted to take it slow. Well we started emailing each other for about two weeks. She told me she was falling for me and that she thinks we could really have something special one day like marriage and a family. It all sounded good to me and I was into her.Well all that went on until I wanted to meet her. She told me she had to leave on a business trip the next day but when she gets back she wanted go out with me. So a couple days past and I get an email from her telling me she was robbed and needed money to get back home to see me. I asked where she was and she said in Nigeria. She needed $700 that I didn't have at the time so I told her to ask her family instead. She said her mom and dad died a few years ago to cancer and insisted that I help her out day after day. So I told her to call me. She called and this lady sounds legit and I told her to please stop asking me and to ask her family or friend. But she still insisted I give her $300 so she can ask someone for the rest. So that gave me a red flag that something is not right. I search on google for nigeria scam and behold there were a ton of information about scammers on dating sites from Nigeria. When I found that out I didn't want to believe it so I sent an email about this to her and I never heard from her since. My heart was broken and I was depressed because I really thought I found the right person and it devastated me.After that experience I found many women getting in contact with me and everytime I told them about the scam they never replied and deleted their accounts. So I just want you guys to be careful on dating sites. I don't want anyone to go through what I went through and be hurt at the end.
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reader, texas_gal +, writes (12 February 2010):
I am sorry this happened to you. Thanks for sharing so that others can learn from your experience. There are ways to check the IP (internet protocol) address an e-mail is coming from to get an idea of where that computer is located. There are also websites devoted to identifying and dealing with problems like yours. Lovescams.com is one. You can never be too careful. Most sites offer a list of safety tips; it's a good idea to read and review them regularly. The internet is a wonderful tool. It can put the whole world at your fingertips. It's too bad that so many people have corrupted it for their own base and selfish motives. But don't despair; there are plenty of good people out there. Better luck next time!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 My philosophy is: Payed dating sites are just another form of sex solicitation.
Almost all the paying dating sites have illigitamate photos and profiles on them, they usually have a very small staff in the background sending messages and interests in people just so that you join and pay the fee.
Dating sites should be free, and the best one you will find with real people is: www.plentyoffish.com
Most scams and dating sites focus on males who have no idea of scams and how they really work. But when I recieve them I love it, because I make sure they get a hard time. you can actually have some real fun there but dont EVER give your personal details - they will use that to call your bank and pretend they are you and take your money over the phone. Always ask a potential partner and let her know you wont give her any money because you know there are scamers out there. On dating sites you can have a good laugh with the girls if you let them know you worried they are a scammer. it can be quite funny too.
NEVER EVER GIVE money to someone you have not met personally or in a social group and have not become at least acquainted with or becomes friends with first. IT'S THAT SIMPLE!
In Australia the banks block credit cards from sites like these that they think are fraudulent or that lack proper business ethics, so if you stick you cc number in the bank will reject it.
Honestly but there are some people out there who do not use their brains!!!
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reader, Flyguymyeye  +, writes (11 February 2010):
Some guy in the uk got caught by the same scam, huge amounts of debt and ended up killing himself,
Can't believe people fall for this, use your brains people!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I agree there is an entire criminal network out there looking to scam lonely people. Sadly many of the online ladies will turn out to be men stuck in an internet cafe somewhere in the world hiding behind a fake female picture. Online dating may work for some people but it is always wise to be cautious about a person until you really know them in 'real life'.
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