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9 February 2013: I have recently noticed women of all ages calling men they just met "the one" or saying "I think he's my soulmate". I see them picking out wedding china already in their minds on their third date. Ladies let these men show you with time if the...
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Can't deal with my husband's anger and negativity, but leaving him means leaving the U.S.
Q. I am marriaged to an American for more then 12 years now. I went to USA to work and study with a scholarship in Arts. We met through a friend from my Master´s Degree University. He is an Artist too,but from another University,but doesnt have a Mast...
A. 7 February 2014: I agree with everyone here. Bet part of the reason you are so lonely here is you're trapped with an abusive man. If you left him, (which he clearly tried to make you believe you couldn't with the omission that you needed him for your green card), ... (read in full...)
Tired of husbands childish traits. How should I cope?
Q. Sometimes I really dislike, maybe to the point of hate, my husband. Most of the time he's a great guy. But he has some childish traits that can go beyond irritating. He likes to push buttons and tease to the point where I get genuinely angry,...
A. 6 February 2014: Ok I'm going to be a bit different here, to me teasing can be playful and fun or it can be a subtle form of verbal abuse so what you do greatly depends on which this is. If he is saying things like you burn your food or you know you love my gorgeous ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling isolated, lonely and I'm going stir crazy. What can I do?
Q. I moved from a big city to a very small town to be with my fiance. In my fiances line of work, he can't talk about anyone or his work because of privacy laws, so there is never any work talk from him. Due to his position he can't really become fr...
A. 24 February 2013: Has anyone else noticed the comment about how she said when they are out for dinner her husband is looking at other women? I agree with all the other comments here but my only worry is that comment about your husband. He should not be looking at ... (read in full...)
16 weeks pregnant and my Bf is acting distant. What can I do? He's not affectionate now. It's made me feel lonely.
Q. I'm 16 weeks pregnant and I'm 28 y/o. 5 years ago I was* married and had 2 miscarriages. I found out that my (now ex husband ) was cheating on me so I filed for divorce. Now, after years of thinking id never be lucky enough to get pregnant aga...
A. 24 February 2013: Get out of this relationship stat! A man who would not help his pregnant girlfriend who fell on the stairs and just stood there laughing?? Well there is something seriously wrong with him and this picture. He obviously was into you when you didn't ... (read in full...)
My father in law creeps me out. I spoke to him, but what more can I do?
Q. My father in law is always staring at me and gives me long hugs where I feel he tries to get a grab. I've told my fiancé I don't feel comfortable being alone with his dad so he really tries to stick around. Yesterday though they were both outside ...
A. 21 February 2013: Don't talk to his father at all! Stay away from him from now on no matter what. Tell your fiancé what he said and make sure he hears you and takes it seriously. Tell him his father has made you so uncomfortable that you no longer want to be around ... (read in full...)
My husband as an actor has to simulate sexual scenes onstage and I don't like it at all! How do I cope?
Q. I'm going through a really tough time just now. My husband of 19 years is an actor- 8 years into our marriage( we married very young) he trained in acting and has done lots of fairly small screen/stage productions. He's a good-looking guy and ...
A. 19 February 2013: This is a really tough situation to be in and I don't know that any woman would like it. My question to you then is do you trust your husband? Does he have character in that he won't easily be swayed by a pretty girl? And in the end it boils down to ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from abusive ex boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid 2 days before i got dumped by my bf of 3.5 years. Long story short for past 1 year he was verbally and emotionally abusive and always called me names. I was always crying, depressed and scared to even talk to him. In the end he dumpe...
A. 17 February 2013: Find your local woman's abuse shelter and ask for support. Even though you are already out of the relationship if you tell them you are tempted to return they will help you. A friend of mine needed to do that this year and they offered so much hel... (read in full...)
I have body image issues and want to know how to build confidence.
Q. My confidence is really low right now, because of the way I look. I'm pear shaped... which means I have small boobs, and a big lower body, including matronly hips, a big ass and thick thighs. I know some men supposedly don't mind these things ...
A. 17 February 2013: You have to learn to love yourself before anyone can love you. And one thing I learned in life is some men like skinny women, some curvy, some like big bottoms, some like big busts, some like athletic builds so basically there will always be a man... (read in full...)
What makes for a successful relationship?
Q. What are the attributes you look in a relationship that it will work. What make relationships successful and what things to look as traits that make it worthy and long lasting?? I am hurt and being cheated upon so I need help to find the ri...
A. 16 February 2013: Look for a woman with character. So many ofus fall for superficial things like looks but character is what really matters for a long lasting relationship. Because in the end looks fade but you are married to someone's character for life. Look for ... (read in full...)
Co-worker does not speak after sex
Q. Ok so, this guy started working with my company about six months ago. Very cute I'm very attracted to him and he is also younger then I am, I'm 38 and he is 26. We would see each other but not talk, Im shy I'm not sure if he is the same way. One ...
A. 16 February 2013: Seems like you were his booty call. He was probably attracted to you and sensed you were to him so decided to make the moves. He either lost interest after sex, some men do or because of the age difference it was never his intention to make it ... (read in full...)
I cheated after he lied, and then I found out he cheated first. He won't forgive me. Help!
Q. So long story as short as possible: Last month I found out (through snooping) that my boyfriend of three years was using cocaine last year, and I found a bag of prescription drugs in his belongings. When I found the cocaine he called me a nosy ...
A. 16 February 2013: Get out and don't look back. This is your get out of jail free card. Take it. This is a super toxic unhealthy relationship involving drugs, cheating, emotional abuse (calling you a bitch, telling you you're crazy and a piece of shit), lies built on ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a child, I dont. What should we do?
Q. I’m 31 year old man and I’m having a trouble in my marriage. My wife ( she's 32) wants a child, I don’t. We are married for 4 years. We discussed this subject many times before our marriage. I told her I never want to have children and asked whether ...
A. 16 February 2013: Wow how very sad for both of you. I don't think your wife lied when she agreed to marry you knowing you didn't want kids. Between the ages of 28 and 32 a woman can have a change if heart, I did. I would let her know what you told us that you ove... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 16 February 2013: I told you so. Glad you took my advice and talked to her. So glad to hear it has worked out. We women are confusing. :) Good luck to both of you!... (read in full...)
Are my fears valid? I am afraid that if I lose weight, I will get noticed just as a person up for sex and they will take no notice of my personality.
Q. Is anyone having a hard time losing weight, because they fear that they will attract guys/girls for the wrong reasons? I am significantly overweight, and am invisible to the opposite sex. I am perfectly presentable, and kind, and likeable othe...
A. 13 February 2013: Sounds like you are using weight as a form of protection because without it you feel vulnerable. You think people (men) will notice you and stare or maybe harass you. I went through that in my twenties. I was a very pretty girl and I couldn't g... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 13 February 2013: I think this girl is a bit, shy, nervous and cautious. I think she might have been really looking forward to a date with you the first time you asked her but then you blew her off for a month. And she sounds smart enough to figure out there wa... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 10 February 2013: I can't say much more than what has already been said but I will say, ask someone in the restaurant who has been working there a very long time if he has a history of cheating. My guess is yes, he does. The wife sounded almost like she'd had to tell ... (read in full...)
Help, I need some help on what programs, strategies and ideas might help with my brother. He is Autistic,has Apergers and Anger Managerment issues.
Q. My autistic brother has anger management issues and it's ruining his chances at a stable, good future. He's 25 and he still lives at home because he can't hold a job. First he worked at a company where he assembled car parts. When things went ...
A. 10 February 2013: Your brother is really lucky to have you. I can see how much you care. Sounds like your brother has come a really long way too. I hope you guys get the support you need from the autism society. Please keep me posted.... (read in full...)
How can I be so very upset about our breakup? The breakup was OK and he was OK as a BF.
Q. Hi. I don't understand why I am upset over my break up with my boyfriend a week ago when I am the one that broke up with him, I didn't get dumped after all. We were together for 4 years. Started off OK but some issues like money and marriage and...
A. 10 February 2013: That is completely normal. I ended a long term relationship in my twenties and it took me a year to fully heal and be ready to move on. You not only loved this person for four years but you also imagined your future with him and sadness too can be ... (read in full...)
Help, I need some help on what programs, strategies and ideas might help with my brother. He is Autistic,has Apergers and Anger Managerment issues.
Q. My autistic brother has anger management issues and it's ruining his chances at a stable, good future. He's 25 and he still lives at home because he can't hold a job. First he worked at a company where he assembled car parts. When things went ...
A. 10 February 2013: There are lots of organizations that can offer both yourself and your brother support as well as the rest of your family. Contact the autism society in your area ASAP. They will direct you to support. The ones in my area have programs to teach an... (read in full...)
In a subtle way, how do I encourage him to feel able to approach me? I want something to happen.
Q. I really want this guy who I see every week day and have nothing in common with him other than he works at my daughters school. We have exchanged constant stares over the last year, I feel that he is aware that I like him as when I return his gaze...
A. 9 February 2013: I agree with all cripes suggestions. Or you could ask him to show you where something is in the school even if you already know it like where the school library is or the cafeteria or principles office. Pick the area that is furthest from you. If he ... (read in full...)
Let a man prove to you over time he is bf material
Q. I have recently noticed women of all ages calling men they just met "the one" or saying "I think he's my soulmate". I see them picking out wedding china already in their minds on their third date. Ladies let these men show you with time if the...
A. 9 February 2013: Oops that was supposed to be in tips and they put it in questions...... (read in full...)
How do I get him to take me on an actual date without sounding rude?
Q. Hi, 3 days ago I met a man at my friend’s birthday party and we hit it off immediately. :) We talked the whole time, and he asked for my number and we've been texting and calling a lot. The day after we met, he asked me to please come over, it wa...
A. 9 February 2013: Just say you don't feel comfortable going to a mans home you don't know that well yet and that you'd prefer a public setting. If he says he's too tired then just tell him you'll go out with him when he's less tired then. If he isn't willing to take ... (read in full...)
How can I make new friends who are genuine friends? Not people whose intention is "just in case they need a favor"?
Q. This question is about new friends that I make along my way, that always want favors from me. I’m in my 30s with 12 year old child. We moved to a new state about 2 years ago, and I want to make friends. Everyone I meet seemingly very nice in a b...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi I went through the same thing. I moved to a new town too about 4 years ago and met similar people. It's only this last year I met a couple good people. One thing I did learn is to read people a bit better so at the first sign of a user I drop t... (read in full...)
Why has my Fbuddy become so dis-interested in joining me for sex? He says he cares.What can I do?
Q. hi friends, i am 20 years old and my sexual partner is 27. he is as of now my Fbuddy. we both share mutual trust and love in our relationship. i am quite a pest. i expect him to be the boyfriend and do all the expected acts of kindness. we stated...
A. 9 February 2013: Sometimes even though a man is attracted enough to a woman to have her as a fbuddy for awhile, he loses respect for her because she is always willing to have sex with no commitment. Then the attraction eventually fades for him and the sex no longer ... (read in full...)
Is he worth my time anymore? He says he's apprenhensive about calling me his Gf. Yet he's happy to share my bed
Q. So basically, I've been seeing this guy (let's call him C) for 2 and a half months now, I've been keeping count! I don't know about anyone else, but I think 2 and half months is a long, long time to be "seeing" someone and not even be official yet! ...
A. 9 February 2013: I hate to break it to you but that's just man speak for "I want to continue sleeping with you without p^^S^^g you off but I am not into you enough to make you my girlfriend." Go out right now and get the book "He's just not that into you" it was ... (read in full...)
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