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writes:hi friends,i am 20 years old and my sexual partner is 27. he is as of now my Fbuddy. we both share mutual trust and love in our relationship.i am quite a pest. i expect him to be the boyfriend and do all the expected acts of kindness.we stated having sex 5 months back. intercourse stated off on a daily basis , 2 or 3 times in a day even. now he often does not text me back or call. we have sex once in 2 weeks. i cant figure out what the problem is. i have spoken to him about it. he says its just work and preoccupied mind about his future plans.i don't feel desired anymore. moreover i feel that we have sex so that he can just oblige me. please suggest a solution as to things go back to normal and he starts craving for me just as before.he really cares for me and admits it to. there is no change in normal behaviour but inclination or urge to have sex more often has died in him.i really need help to calm my mind and to analyze the situation better.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (9 February 2013):
 Hes finished with u. Pick up a kleenex then move on.
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reader, Stelladra  +, writes (9 February 2013):
Sometimes even though a man is attracted enough to a woman to have her as a fbuddy for awhile, he loses respect for her because she is always willing to have sex with no commitment. Then the attraction eventually fades for him and the sex no longer appeals. Also if a man meets someone with potential for a real relationship , he'll lose interest in the fbuddy too. Lastly, even if he is your only fbuddy, he may think there are others and that is a turn off too. My hubby says if a man thinks a woman gives it up to him too easy, he thinks she gives it up to any man too easy (even if that's not the case).
Let him go and next time, wait to have sex with someone serious about you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (8 February 2013):
 I believe that your "issue" is that HE is still in an "FBuddy" relationship.... whilest YOU (to yourself) have modified (internalized) the relationship to a more "traditional" relationship in which the partners are more to one-another than Fbuddies.....
His behaviour is not surprising. To him, YOU are his Fbuddy... and he doesn't really think that he "owes" you any more alligience or attention than to be available to have sex with you.....
If you want a relationship that is NOT an "Fbuddy" relationship... then you need to find a guy who wants - and agrees to - such a relationship. This guy is not that guy....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): The clue is in the name because rarely does anything meaningful come out of these relationships. And he might have been giving you the talk but that's easy to do. And he might be interested in the sex at first but after a while he will become less interested and with no real feelings of
love and comitment then he will distance himself away from you. And thats one of the main reasons that these fbuddy relationships don't work because quite often one person will develop feelings and then be left
hurt. So because you have had this relationship then it is unlikely that he would want a serious relationship with you.
And if you cut him off completely then he may want you again but it would only be for the same thing and then he would get bored and distance himself again and then he would be getting what he wants and you would be left hurt again.
So what you need to do is learn from it and get to know a person that you like and who likes you and wait until there is feelings before sleeping with them and if they have feelings for you and they want to be with you then they will comit to you.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): Hi
You said it yourself that you are Fbuddies. It sounds like he is no longer interested in sex or anything else from you. Its time to move one and next time dont just sleep with someone unless you are in a committed relationship.
If you continue to hound and pester him , he will cease all contact with you. Stop chasing him.
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