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writes:I split with my boyfriend around 4 months ago. We hadnt spoke in those 4 months, then he text me on new years eve asking if we could talk. He asked me if i was over him and i said no, not completely.. i asked him and he said yes. My heart sunk, so he said just friends? So i thought its better than nothing i suppose? But.. Last night we was talking, and he said he still loves me, that totally messed my head up! but to top it all off, he's been ignoring me all day today. I dont know whether he actually still loves me, or whether im just the second best spare part in his life, as he recently split with his girlfriend. Please could you help?
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I know this, because to be bluntly honest, some people I know has done something similar. Now, reason why they ignored someone is because they couldn't take them anymore. It was just not going to work out. The others went ahead This would fall under #whatever in a man's handbook. However, it could be just the opposite.I will list both instances.#1: Handbook Classic TrickThis guy is playing mind games with your head to take advantage of you. The belief of the a girl like you will over-think things too much to the point of being lost within their mind-flow is true to a certain point. Now again, this is not a fact, this is a quoted opinion. If this is true, he's probably trying to make you vulnerable, and then hook up with you. The ignoring part, is probably him just trying to drive you insane (why else would you be driven to the point of asking for help?).For if the following above is true, keep your wits and guard up! Worst case scenario, is he's just in for the sex, and then to dump you later. Again, I would point that out because of him RECENTLY breaking up with his girlfriend.... and weaseling back in as "Just Friends".#2 IF he REALLY does mean it:Now, if it's for love, his ignoring you is to test how far you can stand it before you charge after him and hug him to death. He'll probably ask you out on a date if he REALLY does mean he loves you. My advice is make sure you act like he's an entirely new guy, rather than someone you know. A guy who really does love you will be willing to rebuild trust with you again.For if the following is true, then make sure you start from the beginning. He's ignoring you to drive you mad. You can continue to go crazy, or if you really want to throw a curve-ball back at him, send him a text saying that you are going to ignore him, or better yet, send nothing back to him for about 2 weeks. If he responds back by then, then talk to him again. If not, that cannot be good. Get to him in person asap, and tell him how you feel.~~~~FINAL THOUGHT:Recap, he may still have feelings for you, but make sure you keep your guard up. The moment you let it down, he could take advantage of you, and possibly for the WORST. If he really loves you, he will respond back at some point, and be willing to make sure to start all over from the beginning.
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