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writes:I dated a girl who loved me more than I loved her for two and a half years. We broke up because she was hurt by this, and afterward I realized how much she meant to me. She shut herself off from me and says she is no longer in love with me. She says I wasted her time. My entire attitude about her has changed and I want her back... she's willing to hang out as friends. Has anyone overcome this? Should I just give it up? She's the love of my life.
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera +, writes (20 September 2010):
 Personally, you could hang out with her as friends, but from my experience, it's like a dong and it's master. Once the master says sit, and dog doesn't do anything until the dog sees a treat. If the dog sits for a treat, and master just holds the treat for hours on end, it's torture.
Same thing with you, think your the dog. Wouldn't you hate to be dragged into a friendship that has no potential of getting further into a relationship?
All I can say is, just be her friend for as long as you can wait for her. Show her you've changed, and that you'll do anything for her, (not all at once, but slowly, like hold the door for her, be a gentleman, etc). If she is emotionally inclined to go back to how it was, then she will. If not, you may have to give up, buddy. This master just will make you wait forever in torture, intentionally, or non-intentionally.
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