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writes: Recently i had an exchange of words with a girl who i am seeing for about 7 months but we are not committed. I know i said some harsh things but its only because i care for her and even though i tried explaining this recently, she wouldnt respond. Today i saw on her twitter that she is packing some things because "she is going on a trip." By the way she said it with a smiley face after the word trip :), i know she is going on some type of overnight date with a guy. Besides, yesterday she tweeted "my parents are disappointed in me" and when a girlfriend of hers asked her "do you have a boys?", she responded with "oh i have so much to tell. i havent told anyone. i am scared." Now, why would she be scared about a new boy in her life and not tell anyone? Is it possible he is a married man? Also, since she usually tells her friends everything on twitter, i find this overnight date quite odd and soon after our verbal dispute. At first i thought maybe she put those things there to get back at me, but it hit me that she doesnt know i see her tweets. Her twitter page is private. A friend of mine is on her page and its through her that I know what shes up to. Call it sneaky, but its not like you girls dont go through our cell phones every chance you get right? lol.Anyway, I feel not only hurt, but guilty. Guilty that i think she is going through with this because of the hurtful things i told her and hurt that she would resort to going on an overnight date to rebel on me (if in fact that is the case). I called her an "attention whore" and i know that must have been the straw that broke the camels back. I felt bad the second i said it. This was due to her going on facebook chat and saying things about another previous argument we had to get pity from her friends. Bottom line, I know Shes a big girl and she will do what she wants with whom. I know this already. My only question is, if it is what i think it is, would she feel ashamed in the end? Selfishly, I really want her to. If this is how she rebels, she should feel stupid. Sometimes girls, and guys too, need to learn the hard way. And should i rekindle with her should she come back and start talking to me again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow good tip. thanks and i will take that into consideration.
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 From my knowledge, let me give you a shorter version of my advice, because I don't exactly know what to say here:
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For starters, you might want to change your act, and show her you still care about her. You might want to do anything possible to show her you've changed. You probably can't do this overnight, but you can within about a week.
Also, based on past experiences based on some friends I know of, a lot of proper women HATE being called a "whore", and will pretty much shut you to of their life after this point. She'll will probably tell her friends, and they'll "reassure" her that you are a complete jack***. So the door is closing, and you don't have much time before its slammed down on your hand.
Then, this is a "casino" instance. You'll have to go all in, if you even want to have a chance with her at this rate. Be careful, you can choose to wager less, but in the end, you may get less. If you wager it all, you could get everything, and yet, could very well end up with nothing... but you need to get in the casino and fast before it's too late.
This is where you need to be a man, and tell her how you feel. Explain into detail, and tell her how much she means to you. If worse comes to worse, at least end it as the dreaded "just friends", because if you give her long enough, you may have enough money to go all in again with another "casino" instance... or just wager your way back up to the top.
False, I am NOT a girl, but True, a Man's Cell Phone is certainly one of our few holy grails that we can hold onto... and we don't like it went women taint it (& yeah, I agree, lol)... but remember, don't mention anything about the twitter feeds if you can help it.
It maybe more damage than something good in the end. You don't want to taint the holy twitter feed.
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