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writes:Im 16 going on 17 and i haven't had a girlfriend since i was 7 or 8. im started to have the crushes on certain girls and i want to talk them but don't know how. people say be yourself but how can you be yourself when your nervous and all those other things i mean i don't know what to do. I don't even know how to have sex or anything i don't even know what sex im interested in im so confused right now about sex with anybody any sex person. i masterbat to anything and any type of sex. i don't know what i want, im so confused. but there are these girls i like. i wanna ask them out but i don't know how to be a boyfriend i don't know what to do im so confused those any one know what i can do, i mean i really want to date one of them, is there anything i can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Hi,
Sounds like you are over thinking this. Try to slow yourself down. I like the previous advice- saying hi/bye each day. Its a start and definitly the pace you need to slow to. Girls are just people like you. So once you're over the initial steps of saying a few words, try and build up to sentences- how was your weekend? Have you seen any good movies lately...take your time it will come out when you are ready. By asking a couple of friendly questions, you will begin to know what her interests are so you can eventually have a whole coversation. Then you might want to start working out whether you should ask her on a date. Slow steps will help build up your confidence. As for being a boyfriend/sex..... Take that slowly too. Once you're dating, you just need to work with your partner and get to understand them. You need to try to relax more. Your sexuality questions will become answered over time, right now take time to breath.
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Umm, wow, how do I answer this question.....
First advice, masturbating is not 100% healthy for you. My opinion, you should stop... especially if you get into a serious relationship.
Personally, it's best to start a friendship first before going into a relationship. Just be a friend to that person, it's not to hard just to say "Hi (Insert name here), cya tomorrow." to the same person everyday for a week. Once you've done that, you can take things further. As for deciding whether if you are straight, homosexual, or bisexual, I do not know and I have no right to answer that. It's up to you in your heart to figure that one out.
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