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Hmmmmm nothing, i am just me!!
I am 31 years of age and though im still YOUNG i have lived long and have had many different experiences in life meaning the good and bad!!
I will always be honest and never hold back, i dont think my opinions are the right ones all the time, but what i do know is i would only ever tell you something that i would be prepared to do myself.
Where do you live? ....
I come from England
What makes you tick? ....
Everything..........my brain is in overdrive 99% of the time.
What's your relationship status?
Not married but been with my partner 16years and have two children.
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How can I establish a better relationship with my stepson?
Q. I have 2 biological children who live with their mom, also have 2 step children who live with me.Can relate to daughter who is 16 but feel resentful and awkward with stepson who is same age as my children (boy n girl) have problems with contact with ...
A. 12 February 2007: Your step children are never going to go away while you are in a relationhip with their parent.
I am sure if you would just cut them some slack and try to make more of an effort with them that you will find that you will get on with them a hell of a... (read in full...)
My son is 7 and he's been bullying at school. What can I do?
Q. help. ive been summoned to my sons school because he's been bullying. He's 7 and is hanging around with the known liars thieves and bullys and has now been taking part in their nasty fun. My sons dad is a violent and mental bully who i endured for 5 ...
A. 12 February 2007: Your son is only 7 years old so i wouldnt be too hard on him. But being 7 years old he should know right from wrong! You have to sit your son down and talk to him, ask him why he is doing what he is doing.
ask him how he would feel if that happ... (read in full...)
If he pays for the movie and meal and we are just friends, does this mean it's a date and he likes me?
Q. Ok i get nervous everytime im with a guy whether there a friend or bf. Like when i go 2 the movies or out 2 eat and stuff like that cuz i never know whos payin. Well last nite me and a guy friend that i secretly like took me 2 a movie. I pulled out ...
A. 12 February 2007: Well, this one is a toughie!
it's a case of just because he paid doesn't mean he wants to date you, but then he did pay so he must like you bleah bleah bleah.
i personally would give him a call and ask him out, tell him you had a fab night at the m... (read in full...)
She had one missing condom in the box. I know I didn't use it--so who did?
Q. been with my girl for 6 months..love her, trust her, ect..about 3 weeks ago she bought a box of condoms b/c we both decided we should start using them b/c of the possibilty of getting pregnant. I have been sick for the past 2 weeks and have not been ...
A. 12 February 2007: you said you trust your girlfriend in the first line of your sentence, so therefore you should trust what she is telling you.
Dont jump the gun and think the worse, you have asked her and she has told you, getting yourself worked up about it may ... (read in full...)
I love sex but he doesn't satisfy me. What should I do?
Q. I really like him and sex plays a big role in my book but he's not very satifying. What do I do???...
A. 22 January 2007: Show him the ropes, show him what you do and dont like.
every indiviual is different in the way they are satisfied, and some men do not know how to push the right buttons and wont know if they are shown.
Talk to him, tell him what you would li... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my friend, should I take the risk and tell her?
Q. I'm a teenage male who has a lot of mates who just use me. I finally found someone who actually cares about me and I feel strongly about her as well. I have feelings for her and we always joke about things (sexual or otherwise) so i dont know if she ...
A. 21 January 2007: Well, if you dont ask you wont know!!
If you are flirting with her and she is flirting back the chances are she is attracted to you too.
She could be sitting in hope and waiting for you to ask her.
i know your shy and you dont want to be ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he said he misses me but he hasn't replied to any of my texts!
Q. Hey so heres the problem.. i was with this guy for 5 months and we both liked each other alot until one day he stopped talking to me.. it jus ended like that. I was devestated but i eventually moved on and realized if this guy was gunna hurt me ...
A. 21 January 2007: You said he has moved on and he has a girlfriend!!
you have moved on too - Dont look back - keep going!!... (read in full...)
I'm wondering-is there potential with this guy and how can increase the attraction?
Q. Hi All This is a follow up question to my previous "dating drama". Background: My date - He's 41, tells me he is single and used to be a commitment phobe, but now has overcome this and is no longer fearful of commitment(!) He is incredi...
A. 21 January 2007: Being a pilot would suggest he is a very busy man!!
when he said he would call you once his battery was charged, he probably had every intention of doing so, but maybe something cropped up and time he got around to thinking he should make that cal... (read in full...)
How do you walk away from someone you love a lot but can't get along with?
Q. i have recently broke up from my lesbian lover,i totally love her but we just cant get on,we just dont understand each other,how do you walk away from some1 u totally love but cant be with,no matter how we tried to make things work,we couldnt,now i ...
A. 21 January 2007: walking away from someone you love is the hardest thing anyone could possibly do.
But IF you know it will NEVER EVER work, and you have tried, tried and tried again but still nothing changes.
your just going to make yourself and her unhappy,... (read in full...)
We brke up..how do I make him regret what he did? What should I do?
Q. well my boyfriend and i have recently broke up, he dumped me on aim!..we were fighting because he was wid a girl and lied about it..then he is on the phone wid one of my best friends like ervynight and she the first one he i/ms...and now her and her ...
A. 21 January 2007: Maybe he lied to you because he finds it difficult to be upfront with you. Just because he talks to other girls doesnt mean he is up to anything. If you cant trust your boyfriend then maybe you should just let him go.
but if he was with this oth... (read in full...)
He stares at me a lot..so how do I know if he really likes me?
Q. hey, i need some help! there is this guy, he is in my class but we don't talk toghther but there is eye contact between us! when i walk for example to throw soemthing in the garbage as coming back to my seat i notice him looking at me! so i need ...
A. 21 January 2007: ok you could just ask him out right?????
but if that isnt an option, find an excuse of going up to him, maybe ask him if he has a spare pen or something you can borrow, smile at him to see if he smiles back. If he does smile at you a lot then t... (read in full...)
Met this new guy but don't what to do with the current bf. What can I do?
Q. Hey every1, I have a problem I have been with my bf for about 3 years and things are Ok but i have recently (3 months) meet this new guy and we have become quite close and my feeling are all over the place, My bf i rele close wit my family n stuff ...
A. 21 January 2007: 3 Years is a long time, maybe you should try new things with your partner before you throw it all away on a new man.
dont give up on your partner just because another man is paying you some attention, you fell inlove with your man for a reason, get ... (read in full...)
Should I forget about the work guy or finish my long term relationship?
Q. I fancey this bloke at work and slept with him once. i know now he likes me and i like him. He is not making any further moves because his friend likes me. The other problem is im with someone else and have been for 6 yrs its getting very bor...
A. 21 January 2007: 6 years is a hell of a long time to just flush down the pan!!
If things are getting boring with your partner then you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, find new ways of putting a new spark into your relationship.
I know it takes tw... (read in full...)
He's moving and I will miss him so much! How do I cope?
Q. theres 4 of us and we are all great friends. one of them said that he is leaving to move some where else. that means we wont be able to see each other no more. all of us were really good friends but me and him are closer. what should i do sinc...
A. 21 January 2007: It will be hard saying goodbye to a close friend, but its not a real goodbye, there are many ways of keeping in touch with friends, Email, Instant messaging and the good ole fashion pen and paper.
As for your other two friends, this would be a grea... (read in full...)
I told her about my affair with a married women and she was upset! Have I lost her?
Q. I like a girl but i don't know if she will ever feel the same as i upset her before. I first met this girl about five years ago. She was a friend of my sister and we started going out mainly as a group of four and although we seemed to get on...
A. 21 January 2007: She has lost trust in you.
You telling her about you sleeping with a married woman broke the trust you once had.
you do have a history with this girl and maybe she thought she knew you better than she did, it may have came as a big shock when you... (read in full...)
Three girls in school I like but I'm not able to take it to the next level..any advice?
Q. Hi, so I've been kinda having this problem for a long time now. This year is my last year in high school and there are three girls that I flirt with in different classes. Now, I'm 100% that they like me by the way they act and talk, but I've never ...
A. 21 January 2007: if you would like to date one of them, then i think you have nothing to lose but all to gain. Go on be a devil ask them out!! Your a 100% sure they like you so go for it.
Next time you see one of them you really like, ask them what they are up to a... (read in full...)
We had trust issues so he broke up with me! He'a all I had! How do I cope?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 yrs. and we were in love, Until the day he thought i didnt trust him. But i do but sometimes people say things that seem so real. Well he broke up with me and says we dont want a girlfriend but i'm ...
A. 21 January 2007: firstly you shouldnt listen to much to what other people say. they are not in a relationship with you and your boyfriend are they.
You know deep down if you can trust him or not. Ask him for a fresh start and tell him that you sometimes feel real... (read in full...)
How do you get over a bf that you know you can never have again?
Q. how do u get over a b.f that u can nvr have again ok i bet u want the story in 4th grade i had the best b.f named eric but on his b.f after a yr we dated he died n im 13 now n in 7th grade n its hard for me to date but i do but everytime i think of ...
A. 21 January 2007: the fight you had hurts you because you never got to say sorry or even make amends with him.
But darling, he knows your sorry and never meant it. You said you never got the chance to go to his funeral, but you should go to his grave and tell him ... (read in full...)
I'm not sexual so why are there so many men sexually attracted to me?
Q. I want to know why every man that I meet seem to be sexually attracted to me and I am not a sexual person is there something wrong with me....
A. 21 January 2007: No there is nothing wrong with you at all, your just not ready to be sexually active yet, you are probably just waiting for the right one to come along and good for you.
if men are finding you sexually attractive just take it as a compliment of bein... (read in full...)
Violent bf has asked me to come back! How can I stay strong and say no?
Q. I have just split up with my violent boyfriend but he is asking to come back. I told him no but how can I stay strong? We were together for 10 years and we have a son...
A. 21 January 2007: You know for your own sake that to go back would be a huge mistake.
Think of your son and what he it does to him when he sees his father act in that way towards you, if you keep them thoughts im sure that will be enough for you to stay strong, if y... (read in full...)
She wants to be friends but should I still ask her out on a date for Valentine's Day?
Q. i want to ask this girl i really like out on valentines day. before i went on holiday i asked her out on msn, she said she just wants to be friend's right now. i went on holiday for 4weeks. now i'm back. suprisingly every girl who rejects me never ...
A. 21 January 2007: Well, how much do you care for the friendship you have?
do you really want to spoil the friendship by asking her out again?
Maybe ask her out just as friends, rather than a date. And just take it from there.... (read in full...)
I love him but don't have the courage to tell him! Any advice?
Q. I am in love with this guy and I do not have the courage to tell him how I feel. i dont know how he feels. we have this connection with each other. ever since we met, he tells me things about his personal life that even my best friends wouldnt tell ...
A. 20 January 2007: I can see that this one is really hard for you, when you have such strong feelings for someone its always a huge risk of - do i or dont i say something, will i or wont i spoil the great friendship we have!!
you have to weigh up the pros and cons... (read in full...)
I told her I didn't want to go out and she hung up on me! This gets to me..should I confront her?
Q. One of my friends asked me to go out the other day, and i said i didnt want to. And she put the phone down on me. I have seen her do this to a few of her other mates and then she starts talking behind their backs. Should i confront her. I think sh...
A. 20 January 2007: I think you should confront your friend and tell her how it makes you feel when she hangs up on you.
Explain that you love the friendship you have with her but you also have other friends too.
Maybe your friend feels left out and thats why she does... (read in full...)
He treats me so bad! Why do I love him? Any advice?
Q. Hello, My heart is so broken. I am in love with a man who for some reason does not respect me and can not treat me consistently and kindly. He keeps me stringing along, says he loves me and then ignores me. Wants me to live with him and marry me...
A. 20 January 2007: Hey there,
Girl i am so sorry you are feeling the way you are feeling, but YOU know deep down that this man is no good for you.
You have already told yourself its not your fault, i know its hard for someone to just sit and spurt words out of... (read in full...)
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