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writes:One of my friends asked me to go out the other day, and i said i didnt want to. And she put the phone down on me.I have seen her do this to a few of her other mates and then she starts talking behind their backs.Should i confront her.I think she is being very childish, or do you think its me thats being the childish one for not answering her calls.Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (20 January 2007):
 My goodness, what a spoilt brat! I know a girl like that too- wonder if it's the same person :) To be honest I reckon the ONLY thing you can do here is not let it bother you. You're both too old for this silly bitching behind each others' backs thing now. If she carries on doing it then people are going to pull away from her cos it's just not acceptable to do it anymore. As for when she hangs up on you, just think to yourself screw her. Trust me, it'll make you feel much better!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Your friend sounds sort of immature. What a bratty moment that was!! You could confront her about it, yes. I think "Max Steel" was right on when he said that if you do confront her, talk to a few of your friends and see if they feel the same way.
But what I would suggest you do, is just ignore these little "hmmph!" hang-ups. They're very childish, you're right. And what is the best thing to do with a child? Ignore the tantrum. That's what I think I would do.
But a confrontation would be alright, as long as you're mature about it and just tell her that when you're trying to be honest with her, she hangs up the phone on you and that makes you feel like she doesn't appreciate your honesty. Tell her that sometimes you don't feel like going out, but that doesn't mean you don't like her company. Just means you feel like having a "you" day.
Just some thoughts.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Your friend sounds like an ass... and pretty spoilt too, throwing a kinda tantrum when she doesn't get what she wants (sorry if I'm a little harsh, just having problems of my own...) dont blame yourself, she's at fault. Talk to a few of your other friends and see what their opinion is. Then you can confront her about it and she wont think its only you with the problem (dont go to her WITH your friends, it'll look like you're ganging up on her)
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reader, salsere +, writes (20 January 2007):
I think you should confront your friend and tell her how it makes you feel when she hangs up on you.
Explain that you love the friendship you have with her but you also have other friends too.
Maybe your friend feels left out and thats why she does it, there are a few things you could do, include your friend and take her with you. or sit down and explain that you are doing other things with other friends but havent forgot about her and orgainise to hook up with her another day.
As for her talking behind peoples backs be very careful in dealing with that if you confront her, make sure all your facts are right and can be backed up with facts too. The last thing you need is to lose a friendship over something someone else is telling you, make sure you trust that person otherwise it could not be true and peoples feelings may get hurt, yours included.
good luck x
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