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... Send *urtandUnsure a private message | | | *urtandUnsure's profile:I am a socially diverse woman of twenty years. Over the course of my life, I've been called an old soul. Personally, I believe its because I have a good head on my shoulders thanks to my parents. With that said, I'm currently going through my own relationship issues, and I believe I can help people with the lessons I have learned. So if you have some words of wisdom for myself, or would care for words of my own, drop me a line.
"A ship in the harbor is safe, but that's not what ships are for" -William Shedd
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Broken up with my first love, is there still a chance or how can I move on?
Q. I'm 18 about to turn 19 and me and my ex went out for about 3 years. We met in high school and the beginning of our relationship begun bad, she left a guy for me, then for a month we went out and then we broke up. after a while the same the same ...
A. 10 January 2011: I first came to this website in search of help, like you. But now I feel the need to help those in need of advice too. First everything's are difficult, Im finding this out for myself right now too. I've read all there is to read about ... (read in full...)
What are motives for just wanting to be friends after a serious relationship ends?
Q. I wrote about this before, and now It’s been a week since my boyfriend ended things. He says he just wants to be friends with me, that he doesn’t feel those girlfriend/boyfriend feelings for me. He told me he’s not in love with me and that I would ...
A. 10 January 2011: Give it time, I know its hard hearing that. But time does wonders, or kills. Im speaking from experience as my now ex has told me he wants to be just friends after a serious relationship of 3 years. I wish I could be of more help, but just give it ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a relationship is likely to end? Even it all looks OK now?
Q. Hey everyone, From your experience, when you were in a long-term relationship with an ex-boyfriend (or ex-gf), did you ever have a feeling (or signs) that you guys will eventually break up? (it's my first relationship and it happens to be lo...
A. 9 January 2011: Don't live your relationship in fear of you two breaking up. Holding the axe over one another's heads is a bad idea, asking for relationship troubles. I never saw my 3 year relationship coming to a close, but it ended with him cheating. Something I ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex so I won't be the only virgin
Q. So I'm 16 and a half and junior in high school. I'm a virgin and this fact hasnt really bothered me really. Now im finding out that alot of my friends are having sex or doing other sexual things with either their girl friends or random chicks. I ...
A. 8 January 2011: You're young, there's nothing wrong with you. Don't give in to peer pressure. I don't want to sound like a teacher er anything, but your the same age as my younger brother and I would be saying the same thing to him. Do you remember taking ... (read in full...)
I have a disfiguring condition. Will he stay with me?
Q. I feel so confused... Iv been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, and he was my first love, i was his. It feels so right and we both are very much in love. We started dating from when we were at school, i was always quite shy and he was loud..and ...
A. 4 January 2011: I agree with everyone else who has already responded to your post, anyone would be crazy to leave you. From the description of your skin condition, it sound like you have vitiligo. My brother had it, his knuckles, elbows, and knees were affected. Im ... (read in full...)
Any good ideas on how to keep yourself occupied so you don't think about your ex?
Q. The person I fell in love with broke up with me a couple days ago and I've never gone thru such pain of missing somebody. I would love to get back with her but I know that it'll cause only more pain and stress... so how do I keep myself occupied and ...
A. 4 January 2011: Aunt Honesty has said it best. I suggest confiding in a friend and letting those emotions out. Pent up emotions do more harm then good. Speaking from experience, time heals. Slowly, but it does make it a little easier. Explore life on a new level, ... (read in full...)
My dreams are taking their toll on me!
Q. Let me start by giving you a bit of information on my current situation. My ex and i were together (on and off) for 3 and a half years. In June '10 we broke up and a day or 2 after, he got with another girl. Of course i was heartbroken, but after a ...
A. 4 January 2011: If he jumped from dating you, to another girl in such a short amount of time, chances are he doesn't know how to deal with being 'alone'. Don't treat this relationship he's in right now as real, she's a rebound. If you truly believe he wants to be ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my ex's partying ways.
Q. The love of my life (6 years) broke up with me a month ago. Apparently she had been cheating on me with one of her friends, and decided to be with the friend. She had also started ignoring me and cancelling our dates to go to wild parties and bars ...
A. 4 January 2011: It sounds like you are a very compassionate person with an even bigger heart. If your dad is the same, then yes you could be following in his footsteps. Or rather, you wish to help people with problems you were faced with while growing up. You ... (read in full...)
If we stay together, how can we rebuild trust?
Q. If you read my last plea for help, you know my situation consists of my latest boyfriend coming forward to tell me he cheated. We've since then Nov 12th, split and I have not talked to him since. Many think 'once a cheater, always a cheater', but ...
A. 18 December 2010: You all have made very valid points, for that I am thankful. You each have pointed out something I've not thought of considering. The drinking point is tough, he's turned down alcohol at every social our mutual friends have attended with him, but ... (read in full...)
Can't put closure on my ex until I have some questions answered...
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for almost 4 years now and i have been in another relationship since then, a really serious relationship. it was my choice to leave my ex because we were young and there was a lot of problems going on. so some guy ...
A. 16 December 2010: Im trying to find closure every day with my latest ex. Its hard, but sometimes you just need to bite the bullet and seize the day. It can be a text saying hey, can we grab lunch er something. If he replies and says sure, let him know what you want ... (read in full...)
Is this saying true???
Q. hello, i was just wondering if anyone believed in the old saying never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love? I've found myself in a situation that goes right along with this....
A. 15 December 2010: I believe in the saying, and it appears in your heart, you do too. This little fling with the other man is probably contributing to the fights between you and your current if you think about it. This other boy makes you feel great - like your ... (read in full...)
Can't put closure on my ex until I have some questions answered...
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for almost 4 years now and i have been in another relationship since then, a really serious relationship. it was my choice to leave my ex because we were young and there was a lot of problems going on. so some guy ...
A. 15 December 2010: If you still talk to your ex, I think you could casually bring up your past relationship and find closure. Let your current know how you're feeling, if he's as good to you as you have stated, he will understand and probably urge you to get over your ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my best friend from thinking of me as his future girlfriend?
Q. How in the world, am I spouse to make my best friend stop thinking about me as his future girl friend??? he is my oldest and best friend, I just dunno how to make him understand that I don't love him the way he loves me. Every now and then he have ...
A. 15 December 2010: My best guy friend is the same way. I told him to back off, and that there was never going to be anything between us. He wouldn't accept it, so for a few months I would be very short with texts, not return his phone calls, etc. Basically cutting him ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for me to tell him 'no contact' with the girl he cheated on me with?
Q. My bf cheated on me with the same girl, several times. He claims that he no longer has sexual relations with her, but they do talk in a friend basis. He thinks I should be ok with him hanging out with her, but I'm not okay with it at all! Should it ...
A. 14 December 2010: I sure would! I'm currently going through a similar situation as you, the girl was a friend of a friend and if she ever crosses my path, I will break her face. If you still have trust in your man, and can forgive him for what he's done, then your ... (read in full...)
He was my first everything, and cheated. Where do I go now?
Q. My screen name says it all, I am hurt and unsure, and here's why. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, Im in love with his family, as he is mine and things between us has always been wonderful. We never fought, and he respected me for ...
A. 12 December 2010: Thank you, it does help. I just need to build up the courage to talk to him, and be ready to accept his answers. Whatever they are. Thank you =]Ill let everyone know how this plays out for me. Maybe it'll help someone else who's in the same boat as ... (read in full...)
He was my first everything, and cheated. Where do I go now?
Q. My screen name says it all, I am hurt and unsure, and here's why. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, Im in love with his family, as he is mine and things between us has always been wonderful. We never fought, and he respected me for ...
A. 10 December 2010: Thank you Cerberus_Raphael, I really appreciate it. Honestly, there has been no communication between the two of us since the first weekend of him telling me. I asked him to give me space and time,and that he has given me. In my heart I wish he ... (read in full...)
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