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12 April 2008: Ok, it's a bit late but it was written before Christmas and hopefully (despite the Word format) it might be lot a little better presented this time A Christmas Carol Christmas Eve is passing And midnight mass has gone The priest has c...
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11 April 2008: I'm not sure whether anyone will be interested in this or even why I should want to pass it on. I'll give you no background to it, some of that may be obvious. A Footprint in the Sand The tide rolls up the beach Like saltiness of tears ...
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This curiosity I have about my husband and his co-worker is driving me crazy!
Q. My husband has a co worker at work. I am not saying anything is going on between them it's just curiousity for the moment. I noticed that there are a considerable amount of text to and from her. Even one text was in reference to a job and she was ...
A. 13 April 2008: Hi,
It's very easy to read 'trouble' into this working relationship, apart from the volume of text, I would assume that there is nothing that you've read that suggests anything unusual is going on. You need to talk to your husband about this, te... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me and what should I do about my feelings for him?
Q. I have a huge infatuation with a work colleague but we are both in 6-8 year relationships. I can't be sure if he is flirting with me or if he's just being friendly - he winks and smiles at me, we often exchange prolonged eye contact, he stares at ...
A. 12 April 2008: Hi,
You should get lots of answers from those of us who have been there before you. You'll get lots of advice about what you should do and if it's mine it'll be 'do as I say, not what I did'! :-
OK, that said, as both of your relationship... (read in full...)
How often should I call my girlfriend the days I can't see her?
Q. After seeing my counsellor I realise now the only problem in my life is women. I have been on 3 dates in my entire life, longest relationship lasted 5 weeks. I now know it is because of low communication (i.e. when I didn't see her I would only send ...
A. 12 April 2008: Hi, It can be difficult to know how often to call, it can be overdone and she feels swamped. It may help if you tell her that you'll call her tomorrow and assuming she says OK, then make sure you do. Keep on this line on each call, say that y... (read in full...)
I need hugs and help aunts! Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to have forgot...
Q. Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to of forgot. I feel devastated, am i just over reacting, come on aunts i need hugs and help, what do you think?...
A. 12 April 2008: Hi,
May I add my congratulations too. As the Wiz says maybe he is planning something special for this evening, it is a Saturday after all.
Unlike most guys (apparently!), I do remember our anniversary (not too difficult as it was Armistice Da... (read in full...)
There's nothing going on! How do I make him trust me and put his mind at ease?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months just broke up with me. I’m 26 and he’s 24. The reason we broke up was because he thought I was cheating on him with a coworker (technically my boss, but I do not report directly to him). I travel a lot for business and he ...
A. 11 April 2008: Hi,
Firstly I will accept all that you say about your relationship with your co-worker but if I put myself in your place and I was travelling with my secretary, even after all the years we've been married, my wife would not be happy about it. Ok, ... (read in full...)
'Poetry'
Q. I'm not sure whether anyone will be interested in this or even why I should want to pass it on. I'll give you no background to it, some of that may be obvious. A Footprint in the Sand The tide rolls up the beach Like saltiness of tears ...
A. 11 April 2008: Apologies for the presentation of this, it looked so much better (easier to read) in Word before it was uploaded.
The title is 'A Footprint In The Sand' and each verse is 4 lines long, rather than the jumble it came out as.
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Why does he need to look at other women?
Q. why my husband look other female ? and when i catch hem he say i didn't look at other female . what bother me is the lie do u think he miss something ? what i should do help thnax ...
A. 10 April 2008: Hi,
Altho' I have been married for 30 odd years, I still look at other women when we're out together. I am not comparing them with my wife, I may try to justify it by saying it's natural. I know it used to upset my wife in the early years of our m... (read in full...)
In love with a Capricorn Male, Is this someone who might care for me and is scared or do I need to give up on him?
Q. I am in love with a capricorn male. I am a cancer female who is separated and will soon be divorced. I left my huband for this capricorn male. He has flirted with me, sends text messages and says he would go out with me but has cancelled all date...
A. 10 April 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say, it looks as tho' you have read into the relationship what you wanted to read. You got positive responses but no commitment. It could be that he is not ready to take it as far as you but it looks to me as tho' he is either n... (read in full...)
It's hard for me to break with him because, he is making me feel so happy even through internet.
Q. Iam in love with a married man We meet each other online, it started as friendship, then we touch in each other deep understanding. He is making me so happy although we did not meet because he is living in other country. I am so lonely, and at...
A. 9 April 2008: Hi beautiful soul,
I make the assumption that you are single. Mandy's answer is fairly clear.
He is enjoying the safe excitement of an online relationship. He is safe, you are unlikely to climb on the next 'plane and turn up on his doorstep? Ac... (read in full...)
Do girls care about the size of a penis?
Q. I'm just at the average size for the male penis. I was wondering, do girls care about size..i mean, they have to a little right? I'm 17 and only 5.5-6 I'm thinking that's small for my age.. is it? ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
I have a pet phrase, "it's not what you've got, it's what you can do with it!" There is a great deal more to love than sex. As you say your are at the average size, so you don't have too much to bother about. And, in general, most females ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with a married woman. How do I get over my obsession??
Q. i am obesessed with a woman of 37..i am 57...we were workamates...nearly had sex..i panicked..now all i do is think about her..every waking minute of my life...i imagine her making love to her husband..my question is..how do i get over an ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi oldersister,
Ah now I see! If it wasn't for us married men telling all to 'Dear Cupid', there would be no site! :-) Hating to sound like an MCP (which I'm not), where would you be without us mere males? gd&r.
All the best,
Oldbiker... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with a married woman. How do I get over my obsession??
Q. i am obesessed with a woman of 37..i am 57...we were workamates...nearly had sex..i panicked..now all i do is think about her..every waking minute of my life...i imagine her making love to her husband..my question is..how do i get over an ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
One of the criticisms I have of 'Dear Cupid' is the ability of, and I will accept all the slagging that will come my way, mostly women to criticise men such as 'Stanisround' and I've been on the receiving end myself. I never realised how diff... (read in full...)
Is it fate that has brought me to this point or a culmination of choices?
Q. I feel... well let me just say that "I feel" and I am comfortable and yet off balance. My question is this, and I've seen it asked here before... but I will ask it again. I am in love with a friends wife. I have been for 3 years (which is ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
My original question is at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-married-but-i-believe-i-have-fallen.html
There is some extraneous junk in there but the basis of the whole story is there. I'm trying to put the whole unhappy mess together wh... (read in full...)
Is it fate that has brought me to this point or a culmination of choices?
Q. I feel... well let me just say that "I feel" and I am comfortable and yet off balance. My question is this, and I've seen it asked here before... but I will ask it again. I am in love with a friends wife. I have been for 3 years (which is ...
A. 6 April 2008: Hi again,
Apologies but to read your words, "at some point I will be with her again, just not now, and not under these circumstances" is such a parallel to a friendship that I have, that it stopped me in my tracks. I think I know exactly what you... (read in full...)
How can I hold onto a friendship?
Q. How can I hold onto a friendship? My friend (a married female) has moved away and I am desperate to keep in touch, we have exchanged e-mails and spoken a couple of times in the last 6 months but mostly my e-mails and texts go unanswered and then...
A. 6 April 2008: Dear oldersister,
I understand the direction you're coming from and what you're saying, it would take too long to write a detailed answer but simply there is nothing deeper than friendship between us, we are both married, we both helped each oth... (read in full...)
Is it fate that has brought me to this point or a culmination of choices?
Q. I feel... well let me just say that "I feel" and I am comfortable and yet off balance. My question is this, and I've seen it asked here before... but I will ask it again. I am in love with a friends wife. I have been for 3 years (which is ...
A. 6 April 2008: Sorry for leaving this a couple of days before replying, I found an answer difficult to figure.
I know what you mean about there being something different in your relationship with your friend as there is with your wife, it happens.
I also ass... (read in full...)
Is it fate that has brought me to this point or a culmination of choices?
Q. I feel... well let me just say that "I feel" and I am comfortable and yet off balance. My question is this, and I've seen it asked here before... but I will ask it again. I am in love with a friends wife. I have been for 3 years (which is ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi,
You mentioned that you both had been drinking at the time of her disclosure, you are friends, you've known each for a few years, a couple of glasses of wine, a relaxed atmosphere, maybe that made her say more than she would have done. And, of ... (read in full...)
Is it fate that has brought me to this point or a culmination of choices?
Q. I feel... well let me just say that "I feel" and I am comfortable and yet off balance. My question is this, and I've seen it asked here before... but I will ask it again. I am in love with a friends wife. I have been for 3 years (which is ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
One thing I think you may have to remember that what you don't have is always far more enticing that what you do have. It becomes far more difficult when you're in contact with that on a regular basis, you're so close to it, it appears ... (read in full...)
I've been emotionally cheated on, is it possible to move on?
Q. Anyone out there ever been emotionally cheated on? Is it possible to move on. I work with my husband and the girl and have to see them on a regular basis. I found out he had been secretly flirting with her, and they even had a secret handshake. He ...
A. 22 March 2008: Hi Anon,
While it may not help, flirting appears to be part of office life and if it stops at that, it should be OK. If he's taking her out for meals, coffees, then it is more than just flirting.
I believe that you have to let him know how muc... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 22 March 2008: Hi Mandy,
Happy? No I don't think so. Far too much guilt to carry.
But maybe to inject a little humour into it all, I recently had to fly out to the Far East, a total of 4 different flights all of which had James Blunt's 'All the Lost Souls',... (read in full...)
My husband says I should control my sex drive 20 years after our marriage, what should I do?
Q. I've married to my husband for 20 years. I've always love sex and have high sex drive. Into my late forty now my sex drive has gone down a bit but I still like to have sex though I dont have an orgasm every time we make love. My husband said I am ...
A. 22 March 2008: Hi Anon,
Firstly your husband is playing to type by dismissing your desires as abnormal. Does he have a stressful job, is he tired in the evening, does he bring his job home with him? These strains can make it easy for him to say he can live wit... (read in full...)
Should I just try to forget about him as we're both married, or really open up before he goes to visit his wife?
Q. I have been happily married and with my husband for 12 years. I am in my late 40's, and my husband is in his late 50's. Lately, my sex drive is through the roof and my husband is not interested. In the past few months, I have become friends with ...
A. 22 March 2008: Dear tempted,
It is easy to say forget your new friend and stay with your husband, problems can always usually be worked within a relationship - if you can both sit down and talk about it, sometimes easier said than done. The grass is NOT always g... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 22 March 2008: For anyone who is interested, here is an update 7 months later.
A couple of months after my last message, my workmate left the company. Without going into too many details, we had very stupidly been using the office e-mail system for personal mess... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 24 August 2007: Dear anon
I'm sorry that the individual is using his position in an attempt to blackmail you (really the only way to describe it), I would never do that. I may be in a similar position but she wanted to progress her career with the company ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 10 August 2007: Hi Mandy, Thank you for your reply and I appreciate your candour. I now understand your viewpoint. As this week has gone on and with some of the answers that I have received, I have been able to look at my feelings in a different light. I have ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi Eyes Wide Open,
Please note that the separate lives was a suggestion to stanisaround.
My own view is that it is something that I would not be able to do. ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi Mandy,
I'm not too sure if you're advising me on my relationship or passing comment my reply to stanisaround.
If it is the former, then if you go back to my original question, you will see that there is no relationship with my workmate oth... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi Stanisaround, It does help to talk. I think you have a far closer relationship than I have with my workmate, altho' I feel that I'm in love with her, I would rather have her friendship than nothing at all. I could not bear to lose all contact... (read in full...)
I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate!
Q. I'm married but I believe I have fallen in love with a workmate. I am 57 and have been married for 34 years, she is 37 happily married with 2 children. I have used some of this to answer someone else's problem but I need some advice myself on how I...
A. 8 August 2007: Thanks to both for your replies To Aunty Em - I do accept it as a fantasy on my part but we both value each others friendship and I need to keep it at that level. That friendship has helped her get thru' the death of her younger brother and me thru'... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with a married woman. How do I get over my obsession??
Q. i am obesessed with a woman of 37..i am 57...we were workamates...nearly had sex..i panicked..now all i do is think about her..every waking minute of my life...i imagine her making love to her husband..my question is..how do i get over an ...
A. 7 August 2007: I'm afraid to say that I am in a similar situation. The ages are the same, both of us are married. There is no chance of an affair and both of us know that. My problem is trying to cope with the fact that, regardless of how I think I feel, there ... (read in full...)
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