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writes:Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to of forgot. I feel devastated, am i just over reacting, come on aunts i need hugs and help, what do you think?
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reader, greenmonkey00  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Send him a "Happy Anniversary!" message and let him know you intend to initiate some bedroom action or something. This will certainly clue him in to have some flowers or a card for you or will be a reminder to take you to dinner. Rather than ruin your entire weekend being mad at him for forgetting, remind him and have a great time!!!
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reader, TT +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Maybe he'll come home from work with something uber special.......he's probably calling your bluff and PRETENDING he doesn't remember...
i hope i'm right and you're in for a huge treat tonight! :)
Happy Anniversary!! x
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reader, wildman +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Happy anniversary to you both. I would not bet on him planning a special event. I bet he has forgotten and would appreciate being reminded even if it is after the day. You can always celebrate a day or so late.
He may have his mind on work or something, I know I am terrible on things like that. As a matter of fact thank you for reminding me of my own coming up September 10 for 31 years. You know what is the next day 9/11 not a good thing to remember for sure. good luck
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reader, Deema +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Have to say my first marriage was veeeeeeery long, and both of us never really made too much of anniversaries, so it was never something I got upset about. Maybe he's the same. But didn't you talk about it a few days ago and ask what you could do together? We are odd us humans. It was my birthday couple of weeks ago and my husband is muslim. They don't do birthdays, don't even know when theirs is mostly, so I don't expect him to jump up and down about it. But it is important to me, I love birthdays, not just mine, everyones, and the cards were coming through the door, friends gave me presents, but he just wasn't shifting on this. On the morning of my bd I said to him that he was just not interested was he, and though I told myself it didn't matter, I was able to make my birthday happy without his input, and even though he then got up and went and bought me some flowers and a card - it was too late by then I had to tell him more or less - we ended up having a row, which really spoiled the day. I tried not to let it bother me, but it did. Somehow I think we see it as a sign of how much they love us. If they don't produce the goods they don't care. Yet he had been waking up at 6 the week before to get up and do the decorating for me, and its that that really shows love, not a silly card and flowers. So whydo we take it so personally? Maybe you just make it what you want it to be. If you want the candlelit dinner, ahve it ready when he gets home, if you want the roses, buy them for yourself, do they have to be from him. In fact thats what Ido now at Christmas, and birthdays. I'm so fed up with people buying me naff presents and never what Iwant even when I ask, I now go out and buy myself what it is I really want, and then whatever Iget after that is a bonus, and I'm really not bothered. So buy yourself the flowers, what the hell. if you really love each other, does it really matter? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Happy Anniversary for a start!!Maybe he has specificly gone to work to make you thin khes forgot when hes got some nice romantic little idea up his sleeve. maybe the next time you answer the door youll get a big shock!! but maybe hes a typical man, and he has forgot, do you have mobiles? send him a text (happy anniversary) give hiim a reminder, jogg his memory a bit, then maybe this will give him time to sort something out before he comes home. we dont know what your husbabds like so who knows? good luck! (YN) hope you have a great day!!!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Hunny
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Well Happy Anniversary from me to you and your hubby.
Men are not always the best at remembering birthdays and anniversaries as they just get into a routine very easily and they don't always see things like dates as being important.
However there is no way you can malign the guy right now as like the others have said he may have purposely meant to not say something to you to surprise you later.
Don't punish the guy till you know the facts.
Also if you want to make sure he doesn't forget, you could always send him a Happy Anniversary text and if he has forgotten he has the opportunity to make it right before he gets home. Who knows he may have booked a table at a restaurant but didn't want to say anything, give him a chance here.
Us women always feel sorry for ourselves when our men don't do what we want them to do in the way we want it to happen but it may just be that he is doing things his way.
Don't get angry with him unless he completely bypasses it all even after you have sent him a gentle nudge in a text perhaps.
Have you done anything for him i.e. a card and a little gift - I think the first year is supposed to be cotton or something so maybe a cotton shirt for him?
Don't stew on this - keep yourself busy today and make yourself look wonderful for his return - he may not be wilfully forgetting but just give him a chance right now.
Big hugs from me to you in the meantime and congratulations once again.
I wasn't married to my ex and we were together for almost 20 years and he still doesn't even remember his niece and nephews birthdays but that is just him so smile and stay strong and positive but think about a text eh!!!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, BigSis +, writes (12 April 2008):
 ...and here's a big hug from me too.
Wiz is right, hubby more than likely forgot. Hows about you treat him with a surprise? But try and do it without making him feel guilty.
Have a lovely day and.....
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!
BigSis xXoxXxoXxXxoXx
@}---^---- (that's supposed to be a rose)
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reader, oldbiker +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Hi,
May I add my congratulations too. As the Wiz says maybe he is planning something special for this evening, it is a Saturday after all.
Unlike most guys (apparently!), I do remember our anniversary (not too difficult as it was Armistice Day) and her birthday but I do try to do something different each year that she doesn't expect and, yes, I have deliberately not said anything first thing and she thinks I have forgotten until the flowers turn up at her work or something like that. So who knows what he may have planned?
But by the way, did you wish him a happy anniversary before he went off to work?
Hope he remembers
Have a great day
Regards
Oldbiker
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