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female
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41-50,
*eautiful_soul
writes:Iam in love with a married man We meet each other online, it started as friendship, then we touch in each other deep understanding. He is making me so happy although we did not meet because he is living in other country. I am so lonely, and at the same time I am not thinking about marriage and this man is giving me all the emotions the feelings that I need. I just feel confused from the fact that he is married, and that we just do not have any future between us he is just telling me, dont think just follow your feelings....It's hard for me to break with him because, he is making me feel so happy even through internet. help me please
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reader, oldbiker +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Hi beautiful soul,
I make the assumption that you are single. Mandy's answer is fairly clear.
He is enjoying the safe excitement of an online relationship. He is safe, you are unlikely to climb on the next 'plane and turn up on his doorstep? Accept it as a form of flirting, he may get his thrills from your openness. Of course, he could be interested in a relationship but given that he is married and outwith touching distance, I think that is unlikely. I think you have to decide whether you enjoy what is going on but don't lose sight that it is very, very unlikely that if you fall for him (if you haven't already), it can/will go any further.
Be careful, you could get taken for a mug in this and be hurt. Don't let your feelings run away with themselves. Think what is behind any question he asks, is he as open with you as you are with him? People make mistakes in face to face relationships, all you are reading are his words, you can't see his eyes, you don't know what he is really thinking. Take out of the chat what you want, but remember that there is a one in million chance that it will go anywhere other than heartache.
Take care.
Oldbiker
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Hi Hunny
He is saying all the right things hunny of course he is, Its easy to write anything and you must have opened your heart to him, So he knows what kind of person you are, I can tell by your post that you are a deeply affectionate person and honest about your feelings. He will be able to pick up on this..Im not saying its all fake, But he is married so when he is online to you where is his wife? Plus he must have been looking for a woman to talk with online or he wouldnt have found you...You are lonely and he is filling this void, He is telling you "Dont think about things just follow your feelings" Where to!! He is married living in a different country. Can you in your heart be sure he isnt doing this with anyone else sweetheart.....I dont want to sound as if Im doubting you and your friendship love, He is married and thats always a big red flag to me.....
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/loneliness.php?ad=34
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
Hunny ive sent you some links to help you, I hope they come in handy and you can get some use from them..TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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