I think I have to choose between my career and my boyfriend.
Q. Hi, Just a quick question! Should I accept my boyfriends offer to financially support me or focus on my career just in case?! I live with him for a few years now and have always been pushing myself really hard to get a great career so I'd have s...
A. 29 September 2011: Well if you say the career is crappy then move away from that aspect. If he is thinking about leaving you because of your career then it doesn't sound like he is very supportive. Maybe if you spend more time with him he will fall in love more and ... (read in full...)
I'm the last one to be told anything about his plans. Do I end the casual relationship we've got going?
Q. There's this guy I've been seeing. We aren't official, but have spent the last month and a half or so together. Not long ago I found out, via a mutual friend of both me and him (a friend who does not know we are seeing each other), that he plan...
A. 29 September 2011: communication is key. you could be miles apart or next door it doesn't matter because if you have good communication it can work. if someone is not mature enough to keep communication lines open maybe they don't feel the need to improve the ... (read in full...)
Should I create a bedroom for my 24 year old daughter or keep the study for myself in apartment?
Q. This might seem like a slightly odd question relating to family and home. My daughter is now 24 and has moved far away from home for 5 years now to be at Uni. She is very happy where she is living and it looks like she will stay there maybe for ...
A. 29 September 2011: My parents kept my bedroom while I was away at school. I appreciated it but sleeping on the couch would have been fine. The only thing that made the difference was their attitude when i did come home. They were very loving and treated me as they ... (read in full...)
Do girls find a man with a big butt attractive??
Q. do girls like big butts on a man? im slim but quite defined up top, definded arms, stomach and shoulders but in a slim way, i not skinny, fit is the word id use, then my legs are realy musculare from all the running i do , football for pas...
A. 29 September 2011: Some guys can pull it off. It depends on the clothing they wear. My boyfriend has a big butt and used to wear basketball shorts that emphasized it, now i made him buy bigger shorts and it doesn't look half bad. If you are skinny and have a big ... (read in full...)
I know he finds me attractive but I wonder what he wants?
Q. Do you think this guy still likes me ? I bumped into him today in a pub in town.we used to be seeing each other for about 2 months.my mum was with me today but she bought a drink for him and left us alone to talk.we didnt have a discussion at the ...
A. 29 September 2011: I think that he is definitely interested. My motto in these situations is "man up and ask him". If he's interested enough then he will return your interest but if not then it's not meant to happen. "people do what they want" is another good ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me? Or is it just a booty call?
Q. I've started seeing this guy after meeting at a party 2 weeks ago. When we first met he was really keen but I made clear I had a boyfriend, we ended up in the same bed but not sleeping together just chatting. We swapped phone numbers and well I text ...
A. 8 December 2010: He seems like he just wants a booty call. If he were a good guy he wouldn't want to intervene in a relationship that is already happening. He would stand in the sidelines and wait for you to figure out what you want but since you have had sex it ... (read in full...)
Am I weird for feeling confused?
Q. I guy I was dating told me things that a lot of men I have dated have never told me-----he told me that he could see living his life with me, that he was falling in love with me, that he was surprised that no one ever asked me to marry them, etc. ...
A. 8 December 2010: It seems he doesn't really know what he wants. You should continue on in your life and if he sees fit, then he will contact you to continue the relationship. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I be happy and content with my life?
Q. Here's my main question: **Why can't I be happy and content with my life as it is, and not wonder about the possibility of things working out with my ex from so long ago?** I had a relationship that lasted for about 3 years...over four years ...
A. 8 December 2010: I think that might be a sign that things might work out. I recently was prompted, who knows by what, to write to my ex and tell him that I still had feelings for him. We have started talking and who knows what will happen but I put myself out there ... (read in full...)
Single for so long! What can I do to get guys to notice me?
Q. Hi, ok so iv been single for a long time now, bout 4years and even before that I have never been involved in a proper relationship. Ths is rally starting to get me down. I feel that I do have issues with my self-confidence and at times do not fee...
A. 29 October 2009: dear x, I was in the exact same situation about a year ago. I was worried about being single and I loved the thought of having a guy there who would be there for me. The advice I will give you will seem hard at first because all you'll want is t... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he isn't interested?
Q. There is a man who I connected with very strongly the first time we met. We had so many things in common and confided in each other. We realized we lived 3 1/2 hours away from each other. He got my number and said he needed to take me on a date. ...
A. 29 October 2009: Thanks for your help. I actually asked him if I was wasting my time and this is what he said:
Nicole, I'm a pretty easy-going kind of guy. I pretty much take life as it comes at me. If I happen to be up there, then hanging out sounds like a g... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he is shorter then me!
Q. Hi, I'm currently finishing my last few weeks of high school and just very recently I've been falling for this guy. He's so adorable, cute and kind, but, he's shorter than me! He's heaps shorter than me actually, yet, he's still older. I don't k...
A. 20 October 2009: I see people are offended by me stating that "wanting a man taller than you is not shallow". With this I stand by my statement. Yes media does influence every aspect of our lives but it's the natural (wo)man to want someone who can protect her. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I be happy and content with my life?
Q. Here's my main question: **Why can't I be happy and content with my life as it is, and not wonder about the possibility of things working out with my ex from so long ago?** I had a relationship that lasted for about 3 years...over four years ...
A. 20 October 2009: I would suggest seeing what your boyfriend thinks of taking a break. Then ask your ex if he is wondering as well what might have been. If your boyfriend doesn't want to I would suggest finding things in that relationship you like and focus on that.... (read in full...)
How do I get her to trust that I won't hurt her?
Q. I have liked this girl for nearly my entire life but up until recently didn't have the nerve to do anything about it. So was friends with her off and on, sometimes i couldn't stand seeing her with guys so we just sorta drifted apart. Just sort of ...
A. 19 October 2009: The best thing to open someone up to you is laugh with them. Get some people together and go to a comedy club. Find out her favorite comedy, get it and watch it with her. Find a good joke about something she likes and tell it to her. Just talk ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused by this guy's behaviour towards me...
Q. I'm so confused by this guy's behaviour towards me... Of course, I like him which is why I can't work out what's going on! We've been hanging out together and going on dates for months now and he still doesn't seem to want things to get more ...
A. 19 October 2009: You're never wasting your time if you are dating someone you like. Just go with the flow and have fun going on dates. Guys differ on how fast they like to move things which sucks because guys are the ones who initiate everything. I have a similar ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he is shorter then me!
Q. Hi, I'm currently finishing my last few weeks of high school and just very recently I've been falling for this guy. He's so adorable, cute and kind, but, he's shorter than me! He's heaps shorter than me actually, yet, he's still older. I don't k...
A. 19 October 2009: Don't think your shallow. It's every girls dream to have a guy who is taller than her. When you say heaps do you mean like 3" or like a foot? And also keep in mind guys grow after high school. My friend grew a foot after he got out of high ... (read in full...)
Why can't I be happy and content with my life?
Q. Here's my main question: **Why can't I be happy and content with my life as it is, and not wonder about the possibility of things working out with my ex from so long ago?** I had a relationship that lasted for about 3 years...over four years ...
A. 19 October 2009: My best friend is going through the same situation. What i advised her to do is tell each guy what she is feeling/thinking. Its not bad to think what could have been. What you might be longing for is the youthfulness that came with the previous ... (read in full...)
He said he'd contact me but its been 3 weeks
Q. I hung out with my roommates brother and connected with him incredibly. We both commented that it was creepy how alike we were. He lives 3 hours away and told me when we parted that he needed to get my number so we could go on a date. He was ...
A. 16 October 2009: Thank you both for your replies. I agree that I should wait for him to initiate contact but I hate not knowing what he is thinking. It's too soon to come out and ask him but it's killing me. My brother lives forty five minutes away from the guy ... (read in full...)
The romeo and Juliet situation sucks.
Q. It's been a while since I have been on DearCupid and things were going great with my boyfriend of 1yr5mo. until last month when his father became so wrapped up in believing that my family, financial situation, and myself ulitmately were not good ...
A. 16 October 2009: That is horrible. No one should have to choose between necessities and love. Especially when it's your parents taking it away. With a relationship that long it shows commitment. You showed you truly cared about him by leaving. He should show ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my long distance boyfriend want to make me his world?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We met on myspace and he lives in Oregon. I live in California. We are 16 years old and almost 17. We met over summer and really connected the days he was here. Before meeting each other we ...
A. 16 October 2009: That's a hard situation. LDR (long distance relationships) are sketchy. Both need to trust that the other wouldn't cheat. You are still pretty young and there are lots of guys out there who you have the capability to love. I had a boyfriend in ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for Mr./Mrs. Right to not be into you?
Q. Quick question. Do you think that the person who you love and who doesn't love you back is simply not right for you? Or is it possible to know Mr. or Mrs. Right, the only issue is that he or she is just not that into you? Thanks....
A. 15 October 2009: Recently I broke up with my boyfriend and he swore we were meant to be together. He said he would do anything to save our relationship. I just didn't love him as much as he did me. I think there are times when people get carried away emoitionally ... (read in full...)
Does my boss want to date me?
Q. I work at an office and recently my supervisor's boss has been showing interest. I am not sure whether he wants to date me or not. Any opinions help. He asked me my favorite restaurant then met me there after work. He paid and I offered to split ...
A. 15 October 2009: Thanks for the advice! I recently let him know it won't work and everything is good. If we continued dating I was going to have to move buildings but I realized I didn't feel the same way he did. He is 27 so he's not extremely old. ... (read in full...)
How do you give a guy a kiss he will never forget?
Q. How do you give a guy a kiss he will never forget, I mean, like the best kiss ever?...
A. 6 February 2009: Guys have told me multiple things that make it memorable. It's different with every guy but here are some things that may help: nibble on his ear ruffle his hair smile and look into his eyes just after kissing him good luck!... (read in full...)
Is anyone else anxious about how many mates they have
Q. Hello I'd just like to ask this question to others... Does anyone sometimes get anxious about how many mates they've got? I don't usually get bothered by this as much since leaving school/college and I spend most of my time with my partner ...
A. 13 December 2008: I think about this all the time. I am going to college but don't want to get married until i am well over 21. But it seems lots of the guys i meet i could marry. And if you think about how many people in the world there are it's insane. And a ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to make out!
Q. Ok i have a problem... its not a very big problem but it concerns me. my girlfriend knows how to make out she learned from making out with girls but that is not the problem, the problem is that i dont know how to make out and she does and we both ...
A. 13 December 2008: If your not comfortable kissing her without worrying what she thinks you might not be ready for that part of the relationship. Things will just flow and meantime practice kissing your arm or an orange.... (read in full...)
Pursue or not pursue, that is the question.
Q. I have a friend who is leaving soon and I want to know if I should persue him. I can't decide because he gives me mixed signals. For instance... says he cares about me, talks about hot girls, puts his arm around me in public, won't make a move aro...
A. 2 December 2008: Sorry for lack of info...he is leaving for two years for a mission and will be leaving in about 6 months. And I don't know where he is going yet but wherever he goes I won't be able to see him for two years. Thanks for the advice!!... (read in full...)
I am scared to get in a relationship with him fearing he is worse than I am thinking.
Q. I have a friend from work whom I will call N. We longboard and I talk to him at work. He works in the same department as my uncle and recently my uncle said that N is saying stuff about me he doesn't approve of. He wouldn't tell me anything ...
A. 30 November 2008: I haven't had any signs to not date him. He is always saying nice things about everyone and is really sweet to me but what if my uncle isn't telling me because these things are crude and would make him uncomfortable. I guess I will still hang out ... (read in full...)
Does he really likes me or am I another one of his conquests?
Q. I met a military guy 2 months ago, he's leaving in January, so I have this single month left to do something. When we met I notice he's too much out there, like a player kinda thing. He kept looking at me a lot and he even asked me if I was a ...
A. 30 November 2008: I have a good friend leaving on a mission in a few months and its the same. Everytime we are alone he acts like we are dating and he will kiss me and flirt. But when we are in public it seems we are good friends and he will ask me "you think that ... (read in full...)
I feel like life is too short and too precious to just "put up with." I want fulfillment!
Q. I just have to get this off my chest, and if you can help me, I will be so grateful. I can take an honest answer, whether or not it is the one I want to hear, as long as you genuinely want to help. When I was in college, I struggled to fig...
A. 30 November 2008: I have not been through college and haven't decided a major but I have a job now that is hard to get excited about. Mine is nothing in comparison to yours but I get that same feeling of dread. My answer to you is figure out something that helps ... (read in full...)
If he wants a 'friendship' then why does he kiss me on the lips? Is he playing mind games?
Q. my best guy mate recently told me he fancied me in the past but now he "doesn't want to tempt the friendship as he loves me too much"-it took me months to tell him how I feel.. The day after i told him how I felt he kissed an older woman (I was s...
A. 26 November 2008: I am in this same situation. It seems guys like to play with girls almost as much as we like to play with them. My "friend" will tell me he wants to be with me, then the next second bring up jokeingly how he has a girlfriend. Guys are also afraid ... (read in full...)
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