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writes:do girls like big butts on a man? im slim but quite defined up top, definded arms, stomach and shoulders but in a slim way, i not skinny, fit is the word id use, then my legs are realy musculare from all the running i do , football for past 8 years and sprinting when i was at school, and my arse is, id say massive (but i am i big self critic) i dunno if it muscle and/or fat. i feel so out of proportion and its killing my selesteem and confidence im always looking in the mirror every chance i get and will only wear certain cloths. on some occasions i dont go out with mates cos of it ;(first question, how do i tell between muscle or fat?secondly, if it is fat how do i firm it up without making it bigger?thirdly, do girls find a man WITH an arse attractive? ps; dont presume i have a humongus butt cos like i said im a huge self critic and i will allways find bad things to pick on about my self, for all i know i have a just a butt cos ive noticed some men dont actualy have a arse.thank you for reading :) and if u answer thank you even more :)
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reader, crosss129  +, writes (11 November 2011):
Sounds to me that based on the rest of your body, your butt is probably nice, and not over sized as you imagine it to be. If you described your self as very muscular or wide, then I would say its probably pretty likely that your butt would be fatty and wide and "too bigg". But being a "slim" or "fit" guy who is not only in shape from working out at the gym, but from being naturally athletic and playing sports etc., you probably have a nice muscular butt, if not a great butt lol. Dont sweat it buddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): guess it depends ! a nice big butt can be great to "play" in many ways, so try whatever will give good feelings to both ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): I would say just concentrate on building a bit of roundness and muscle accros your biceps and pecs and then stop worrying about it. That way everything will be a bit balanced and so what if the butt is a bit 'buttish' We all have one flaw or another but as soon as we feel good about ourselves and do the best we can to balance out our health and physique, everything clicks into place and no one notices our flaws if they are even flaws at all..
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reader, nicole90 +, writes (29 September 2011):
 Some guys can pull it off. It depends on the clothing they wear. My boyfriend has a big butt and used to wear basketball shorts that emphasized it, now i made him buy bigger shorts and it doesn't look half bad. If you are skinny and have a big butt that probably wont be as attractive as a muscular upper body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): I have to disagree with some of the generalizations made my chigirl.Firstly, a butt is more than muscle in the same way a boob is more than a pectoral muscle. The excess of fat to some degree defines the part and the fact that we've bothered to give a special name at all. Secondly, I think it's distinctiveness means to some degree that means that fat is attractive since it's evolved unnecessarily. It's not as if we need the cushioning in an evolutionary way, in the same way fat deposits on a women's chest aren't really necessary either. Obesity aside, T and A are purely aesthetic. It's there for show in a basic biological sense and if it's still there after a couple million years, yes, I do believe the ladies like it.Thirdly, yes, I personally think a large muscular butt and thighs are very attractive. A quiet guy at our office had a proportionately large butt and thighs that were just a little tight in his pants. He was fit, broad, but well endowed in the read. My self and many a coworker would say to each other in private how "touchable" it was. It was hard to ignore when he walked by. I promise, you have nothing to worry about and if you are the way you describe yourself, you got a hot bod.Stop worrying.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 The butt is muscle. I've seen overweight men who still have a small butt, because for most part.. a butt is muscle. It's the largest muscle on your body. And if it is big, when you are not overweight, it is almost definitely because you have big butt muscles. It's easy to test them, how many squats can you do? Or you can just flex them and have a feel, if the butt is hard when you flex then it's muscle.
Women do not like big butts on men, if we're asked to pick a big or small butt. But, women aren't wired like that. We see the big picture, and if the man of our dreams comes with a big butt then we welcome his big butt and embrace it.
Stop being scared about your butt. The love of my life has a big butt compared to the rest of his body, but it looks fantastic in a pair of pants, enables him to lift me from complicated positions (you need good thigh muscles for that too), and quite frankly, it's his butt, it's attached to a man I love, and I wont be complaining. It's also not something he can change about himself, and us rational women draw a big line between accepting things that are natural about a man (like his butt or crooked nose, weird feet, or thin hair), and accepting things that are self caused. We generally have a low acceptance rate for things self inflicted, such as overweight, bad teeth, smelly feet (of course not if these are caused by nature and out of the man's control!!).
Oh, and in regards to your last comment. Some men do not have a butt at all. We don't particularly like-like that either. A nice, firm, tight butt is lovely. But heck, if it's small or big we accept it all. Men's butts should not be like women's butts though. Women tend to have rounder and softer butts (more fat than the men). So keep that butt firm and muscular and you're good!
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