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writes:Do our lies covering up something bigger?I have lived with a women for about a year. Over the duration of this period, we have both either stayed in contact with or made new acquaintences of the opposite sex. We both reassure one another that there is nothing going on, but we both feel inside that there has been with these other people. Are we both covering up some larger issue like we just dont trust one another or oursevles?
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reader, neverguesswho +, writes (18 June 2008):
hard question since it is clear you are both doing it. I'm in a situation that is or at least was one sidded and I will say.... from a girls perspective, I want to be w/ him... I love him! But Knowing how to gain trust back or knowing if I should has been the biggest problem.
Again though... both of you are doing this so I'm unsure. How do you know she is in touch w/ ppl.... and can you honestly say that your contact w/ others has been platonic or is there something to feel guilty about.
Just something to ask yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): It sounds like a very "open" relationship and almost like two room mates! A little more concern or even jealousy would be normal in a loving, caring relationship. Take stock, discuss this with your partner, to continue like this might be convenient for now, but are you being for to each other in the long term?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Well, neither one of you cares enough to fight, get jealous or get angry about it. It doesn't sound like you care enough about each other to stick around, so perhaps the relationship is alright for now, but I would really question the reason why and if you want a future together. I would not leap into starting a family until you do because you will probably eventually be raising any children in two households, which just makes life more complicated.
I knew a couple who used to brag about how little they fought. Turned out, they didn't care enough to fight. There has to be a certain amount of passion in a relationship. You have to care enough to be comfortable with the occassional spat, and have faith that you will be able to resolve issues that come up without worrying that your partner will be running away at the first sight of a disagreement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Is it me? But sorry i dont really know just what your question is all about! Are you with each other, and both of you go with other people? Can you please clarify?#
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