Am I the best my older b/f can get? He makes me feel really bad!
Q. Help! I can't figure out what to do. I'm a beautiful, fit, extremely intelligent young woman with a great sense of humor and acceptance. I get along great with almost anyone. Most men I meet develop crushes on me, and a lot of women at work ar...
A. 28 August 2012: When I first started to read this post, the opening paragraphs painted a picture of a very secure, confident and self aware person. Somebody who receives quite a bit of attention and compliments to raise there self esteem shouldn't feel insecure at ... (read in full...)
At our age is it a good idea to wait 3 years to start a family?
Q. I have always wanted to have a baby and my boyfriend of 5 years knows this. I am 19 and he is 20. He used to say he wanted one but in 5/10 years time when we have settled down and got money behind us. We both work and he is earning £18,000 a year ...
A. 28 August 2012: I read your post and felt genuinely excited and pleased for you. I like nothing more than a good plan, and yours seems well thought through and driven by a real enthusiasm for life. You both seem happy with one another, you are both realistic a... (read in full...)
Should I not play a song about my ex since people might think I'm not over her?
Q. I've not been writing songs for very long, and I find it quite hard to find "inspiration", but I wrote a few songs about a breakup from a serious relationship, back when it happened (about a year ago now) and have only recently got into a situation ...
A. 28 August 2012: The amount of songs out there about love and break ups must be in the hundreds of thousands. The song can mean whatever you want it to mean.
A lot of artists write songs for others to enjoy, so that others can identify with them and find comfort ... (read in full...)
How can we break the habit of having sex so much?
Q. Okay, so I've been with this guy for a 1.5 years, and we lost our virginities to each other about 4 months into our relationship. We're both Christians, and have often said we need to stop having sex - it can be up to 3 times in one day, and eve...
A. 28 August 2012: Or you could look at this from a different angle, if you have been having sex for 14 months before marriage, are your beliefs really that strong? Is it family or others that perhaps influence your beliefs?
What matters more to you, your relation... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a cheapskate with me but can spend the money on himself. I'm sick of it.
Q. My boyfriend is so, so cheap with me. Scenario: We don't usually ever go out to eat anymore. If we do, I'm the one who pays (he insists that I do) because he buys food for his apartment and shares it with me when I come over (even though he's rea...
A. 28 August 2012: One thing I can't stand is selfish folk, and you're boyfriend sounds extremely selfish to me.
I couldn't stand a girlfriend who treated me that way and sponged off me. If this was the only thing wrong in the relationship, I'd try and fix it. But ... (read in full...)
32 yrs old always failed in relationships
Q. Hi there, I am a 33 years old girl who recently went throught a breakup. I was dating this guy only for 2 months but we had planned marriage and future. But due to some issue, he broke up with me. I am in a mess. I have always had failed relation...
A. 28 August 2012: I firmly believe that there is someone for everyone and I think it is simply not true that you will never find someone you love and loves you in return. It sounds like you've had some bad relationships, unfortunately we've all had them. The key is... (read in full...)
Should I try out this potential blossoming romance, its long distance right now
Q. Three months ago I went to visit a friend in a different state. He introduced me to his friend and we immediately hit it off. I didn't expect much to become of it but we still talk (through text) several times a week. He has told me he is interested ...
A. 28 August 2012: The first thing to realise is that long distance relationships are never easy and take quite a lot of work and commitment on both sides. If you're both really into each other and think you can make it work, why not give it a go. The key is, yo... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for telling a man that my b/f had a small penis?
Q. i was so hurt when my boyfriend friday and said sone pretty hurtful things so i went on a dating site as i was angry and so lonely and i went on it and said about my boyfriend willy becausr i was so angry and he said my kids were mistakes am i in ...
A. 28 August 2012: It sounds like a case of six of one and half a dozen of the other. Your boyfriend was wrong to say hurtful things to you. You were wrong to go on a dating website and talk about his "willy" to another man. He was wrong to hack your account. ... (read in full...)
My ex told his sister that he would date me. How do I get it across that there's no chance for us again?
Q. So here it goes.. My ex and I have not spoken much at all since I broke up with him last December. We had a roller coaster relationship, on again off again for almost 2 years. He was my first boyfriend. I did everything for him, I was the only ...
A. 28 August 2012: You said it yourself, you don't want to allow him another chance to destroy my self-esteem, so of course you are making the right choice by not even entertaining the notion of going back into a relationship with him.
You don't need to me rude, yo... (read in full...)
Have I lost her?
Q. I have recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 6 years. I love her dearly and believe she loved me but we stopped communicating in the right way. We have been falling out over silly things and not speaking for weeks in the end. We once split up...
A. 27 August 2012: It seems to me like you've tried to lay down the law, set down what you want from the relationship and attempt to resolve/discuss the things that make you unhappy. It's completely the right thing to do, communication is one of the key building ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that by visiting my ex's dad in the hospital I lost my boyfriend for good.
Q. Hey there! I'd more so like to ask of other perspectives about my situation rather than ask what to do. It starts with this guy, "Dan", I am head over heels for. I am 18 and he is 22. (I'm only mentioning this for detailed purposes as age ...
A. 27 August 2012: It sounds to me like you never properly got over Dan and in a way felt like you had unfinished business. It certainly was strange how things ended the first time.
You've obviously just come out of a relationship with Brad and you did the right th... (read in full...)
How do you "fight in a loving way" with your significant other?
Q. Hi, I have a burning question that I am starting to think that sabotages my relationships. How do you fight with your significant other? I'm trying to learn from the past and some advice that I read in the past as well but I don't think I'm...
A. 27 August 2012: First of all, I can say that I completely understand why you fight the way that you do. Nobody wants to say hurtful things that they regret.
We all argue and fall out over things at times, if we didn't, there would be something seriously wrong th... (read in full...)
He just stopped contacting me. Has he lost interest?
Q. I am a very confused girl and I would really appreciate peoples opinion on this, especially guys cos I don't know how your minds work. This guy and I got close, we had so much in common, we just seemed to connect. We hung out a few times but it...
A. 1 September 2011: As birdynumnums said, the move has got to be the main reason behind his decision to stop contacting you. He hasn't done it in a very graceful or sensitive way and that wasn't fair.
It has probably upset and confused you at the moment the way he h... (read in full...)
Stay or go after months of lies?
Q. I'm still in a dilemma about my ex, help! To sum up, after being continually accused of chatting to men, cheating etc (did none of this) and noticing changed in his behaviour and times he was going out i discovered he had been going out to dan...
A. 1 September 2011: I really feel for you, it is a horrible situation to be in. It is commonly said that those that accuse others of cheating and are insecure have often cheated themselves. There is no sure fire way of knowing if he has cheating, you go with your ins... (read in full...)
Does a low sex drive mean he no longer loves me?
Q. If a man no longer wants sex with his partner, is it because he no longer is attracted to her or is not in love with her anymore? Or can a man be in love and attracted to a woman but rarely want sex?...
A. 1 September 2011: It's difficult to offer an opinion without any background. Has he always had a low sex drive? If not, how long has he had a low sex drive? Did he suddenly switch from a high to low drive with no explanation? Are there any current events or triggers ... (read in full...)
My GF has the sex drive of a man-is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found the perfect woman, but that's the problem - she's too perfect. She doesn't care that I've just been made redundant, orgasms through penetration alone when we have sex, genuinely finds me physically attractive and explai...
A. 1 September 2011: Everybody is different and there is no definable "norm". Some people have a low sex drive, others have an extremely high one.
I think the real problem is your preconceived ideas of women. Some of the things you said about the perception of women... (read in full...)
My bestfriend is dating my ex-I don't know what to do!
Q. My two best friends are dating. And one of them is my crush. Basicly My best friends started dating. She knows i fancied him and his best friend fancies her. He's just a little crush but i cant help thinking that she should have thought about ho...
A. 1 September 2011: It is boundary between friends that shouldn't be crossed, but your friend has unfortunately crossed it. There isn't any easy solution or really anything that you can do. You can't stop the relationship, if two people want to be together there i... (read in full...)
She shared something personal with friends and is now making me the bad guy for telling her that bothered me!
Q. Hi all. Ive been with a girl for 7 months, it's only a short time but it's the best relationship I've had, I can truley say I love this girl.. But over the past 3 months she's changing her attitude, and is acting very different to the gir...
A. 1 September 2011: I don't really know if this is something you can just "bring up". It is something you have to address on a case by case basis. There is no point letting a case file of times she has upset you build up and then one day address every single one. ... (read in full...)
G/f gave permission to cheat since she wants to wait till after marriage to have sex
Q. I pretty much just met the woman of my dreams... except for one thing. She doesn't want to have sex until marriage. She tells me that she is a virgin and wants to stay that way until she is married. The strange thing is, she has told me that I could ...
A. 31 August 2011: I think this is very much a case of her not wanting to force her beliefs on you. I can understand why she has said it, she is obviously trying to be fair.
However, I doubt that if you took her up on the offer it wouldn't affect her. As much as ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid b/f doesn't love me anymore and I'm too afraid to ask him about it
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months now and im scared he dosnt love me any more, Im so in love with him that I think about him all day everyday but he dosnt seem as interested any more, ive noticed the little things like he d...
A. 31 August 2011: At the beginning of a relationship, I don't think people always necessary behave as they would normal. People get excited and more loved up, but after a while things start to settle down as people become more comfortable in their relationship. This ... (read in full...)
Why do women often settle for the nice guy over great sex?
Q. Why do women who are very in need of a solid sex life, settle for men who are not the most sexual? I have seen so many couples lately in my circle of friends where there is a definite mismatch in sex drives, or in some cases, even sexual ...
A. 31 August 2011: You said it yourself, sex isn't everything.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to break up but keeps on cheating on me!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years has cheated on me, is over friendly with all his gal pals, always hugging them, getting drunk with them, calling them sweet names, always wanting to be with them, sharing everything with them. He has cheated on me with some ...
A. 31 August 2011: He doesn't want to break up with you because he knows that whatever he does you will be there waiting for him. Wouldn't it be nice if there were no consequences for your actions and you could take people for granted and do what you please?
Unfor... (read in full...)
Is she just with me because I pay for everything? I'm not whom she would normally date
Q. im 24 yrs old and my girlfriend is 28 yrs old. We have been together for abt 2 months and have been living together for 1 month. I recently got out of a relationship and was very hurt. I love this girl alot and even though she says she loves me alot ...
A. 31 August 2011: You have to be careful what you do. If you question somebody's love too often, there is the possibility that you could drive them away.
The fact is, nobody can tell you if she really loves you except her. It is up to you to either trust what she... (read in full...)
Should I give b/f a birthday present even if things are strained?
Q. dear cupid, i've been dating this guy on and off since april. here pretty recently, we've kind of been having some struggles--he decided that he doesn't feel as happy in our relationship as he used to. i've talked to my mom and his mom about it...
A. 31 August 2011: It sounds like the guy is going through a tough time and I'm sure you sympathise with that, but sometimes people forget it is never easy for the other person who has to live with the strained atmosphere.
The good thing is, you are both communic... (read in full...)
I want the husband and family. Am I too old now?
Q. I am 27 and my partner of 4 years has just left me for a younger woman. I was meant to get married to him and have a family and no near my 30s I find myself single. Is it too late for me to have the husband and kids? ...
A. 31 August 2011: Of course not. Surely you've heard the phrase, "life begins at 30!".... (read in full...)
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