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writes:I am a very confused girl and I would really appreciate peoples opinion on this, especially guys cos I don't know how your minds work. This guy and I got close, we had so much in common, we just seemed to connect. We hung out a few times but it was sort of casual as friends cos we are both shy, but he would tell me how much he liked me and I told him how much I liked him.Here is where things get difficult. He is going away next week for a year for work as he cannot get a job here. He already had this planned when we met, but recently he has stopped contacting me and stopped answering my messages as if I offended him. I really did not see this coming, I thought things were going really well, then this happens out of the blue.Do you think he has lost interest in me and has met someone else?Thank you for reading my problem.
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reader, JayCupid +, writes (2 September 2011):
He might really like you but not want to get any closer to you because he knows he is going away for a year and it would be hard for him. You could try calling him and explaining that you really like him and you wanted him to know before he leaves, i doubt he is ignoring you because he likes someone else, i know i wouldn't, when i like someone im only interested in talking to her in that way. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): As you say you were just casual friends, hung out a few times.It wasn't a relationship.
Don't know why he didn't respond to your texts - no doubt he thought you would just realise it wasn't going anywhere by his silence.Men do this alot.
In a years time I bet you will have forgotten him and be loved up with somebody else.
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reader, mistermann +, writes (1 September 2011):
As birdynumnums said, the move has got to be the main reason behind his decision to stop contacting you. He hasn't done it in a very graceful or sensitive way and that wasn't fair.
It has probably upset and confused you at the moment the way he has acted, but in future you may see this as a lucky escape. Long distance relationships are complicated things, especially when you have only just started out and are getting to know each other.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 I think it was just one of those things, and even if he liked you, it never really 'got off the ground'.
He probably decided that it with the move coming up, it wasn't going to be good idea to continue dating; having only just started. I'm sure he was considering that to continue would mean having a long distance relationship with the loneliness and the issues that LRD's bring with them.
He may not have picked the best way to stop seeing you, I doubt he meant offense, he probably didn't think it needed a formal ending or explanation because you only saw each other 'a few' times and he knew that you knew he was leaving. He was a wee bit cowardly by not answering; he probably thought you'd take the 'hint' - unfortunately it felt more like 'a brick'.
People come in and out of our lives all the time, friendships come and go. I would try to move on with your own life and put it in the past.
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