Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 9 December 2010: There is no way either of you can handle a child - you both are still kids yourself. You would have to stay with family, and that always causes stress. Where do you think either one of you will be in 5 years? If you can get jobs, they will be lowing ... (read in full...)
Is this really over? I don't want it to be but we can't go back to where we were!
Q. Please can someone offer me some advice? I have never written on any of these chat things before- I don’t even do facebook! But I need an outsider opinion. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. He is 30 and I am 28. The first co...
A. 9 December 2010: Unless some MAJOR things change in his life, there is no way things are ever going to be any better than there were when you broke up. And nothing can ever go BACK to the way the were before all the bad stuff came in and ruined everything.
So, i... (read in full...)
Ladies, I need your female insight on this one!
Q. Female insight needed please!!! I broke up with my gf (of nearly 3yrs) 5 months ago as I felt I wasn't making her happy and that made me unhappy. Iv'e since done a lot of soul searching but know deep down I still love her. We agreed to me...
A. 9 December 2010: She told you what she is thinking - but because you are still emotionally attached to her, you two cannot BE just friends. I strongly recommend you TELL her how you feel, and stop seeing each other or talking until you both are on the same page. She ... (read in full...)
My friends say "he was always going to leave"
Q. Ok so short story long... My ex of 5 years left me for his mistress, but when I ask for counseling from my friends all the guys say the same thing....they all say (along the lines of) he was always going to leave. But up until the day I caught him ...
A. 9 December 2010: Why are you thinking about any of this now? ... (read in full...)
He said it is only me that has to change!
Q. A couple days ago, I opened up again to my husband how his relationship with this female coworker makes me uncomfortable. He always says that I'm just jealous maybe a little bit but that's not the whole story. He txt or chat with this girl more than ...
A. 9 December 2010: He won't go to counselign, because he would have to own up to his stupidity, which he is not willing to do. Now, he doesn't HAVE to ever admit he is wrong, because he has YOU to take it all - and you do. He knows you love him, but he loves himself ... (read in full...)
I want to get him back, but as a friend.
Q. Please read this before answering the question I have posted below: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/weve-been-seeing-each-other-for-2-months.html So... Over the past week I have come to realise that he is interested in another lady, and hi...
A. 9 December 2010: If you were fine with just being friends, you asking him where you two stand told him you are not SURE. That means, either you are under the impression HE wants more, or YOU want more - neither of which he wants.
He is going to have a hard tim... (read in full...)
My friend says he is only with me until he finds someone older. Am I being foolish for accepting this?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 5 months now and he's absolutley perfect! except he is 8 years older than me. So we agreed that we won't become boyfriend and girlfriend because at the end of the day we want different things. He says he is so crazy ...
A. 9 December 2010: Yes you are being VERY foolish. He could dump you tomorrow or next week - who knows. When he does, there will be nothing you can do about it, because he did warn you that you are only temporary in his life.
Perfect? A guy who gets involved... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable of me to ask my boyfriend to invite me to co-ed parties his ex will be at?
Q. Is it unreasonable of me to ask my boyfriend to invite me to mixed parties that my boyfriend's ex is at? He excludes me from 90% of them because he says he wants to be able to hang out with them alone. But they go partying, and drinking and eve...
A. 9 December 2010: He shouldn't want to go without you. Sure everyone needs alone time, but purposely excluding you when he parties with this particular group, tells me there is a reason why he does not want you there. You need him to tell you why he has to be alone ... (read in full...)
I'm married but am friends with benefits with a co worker
Q. I am married for four years been together for nine years. And we have a six year old son together. My husband is a control freak had to know where, when, who and what!! And if I ask him to do anything especially when it comes to my family the answer ...
A. 9 December 2010: WHY did you think you could do a FWB relationship? Clearly you crave closeness, clearly you crave togetherness. FWB MEANS no connection, no commitment, JUST sex. Nobody can handle a FWB, unless they are completely sure SEX is the only thing they are ... (read in full...)
I texted this "friend" and told her to stay away from my husband or she'd be sorry!
Q. Too Jealous??? Me and my husband have been together 10 years, starting in june of this year we were having problems as i went away to see my friends(female friends) without telling him. Now the problems didn't really start there, i was feeling ne...
A. 7 December 2010: THE ONLY WAY married people can have single friends, is when they ALL are open AND honest with each other, AND know each other. Unless this happens, someone will end up feeling left out, and in time, end up feeling angry or resentful.
There... (read in full...)
Texting her ex...Damn technology
Q. So My question is pretty simple; so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 months. We both just got out of longer term relationships of 3 years and we are very happy in the relationship we have now. The problem is she always is texting ...
A. 7 December 2010: Personally, I do not like anyone texting anyone when they are with me, and I have no problem saying it's rude and I do not like it. If they continue to do it anyway, that will be the last time they go out with me. Maybe that sounds harsh, but I ... (read in full...)
He says this woman is like a sister to him. Is that just a line?
Q. My boyfriend is good friends with a woman he once had a sexual relationship with. They'e known each other for 13 years. When we first started dating three years ago, they stopped speaking for a long time (2 years). He continued to contact her ...
A. 6 December 2010: TRUST WHAT YOUR CONSCIENCE IS TELLING YOU.
If there is nothing going on, IF he does decide to propose to you, she will do whatever she has to do to make sure that doesn't happen. One of the two of them has ulterior motives - which one that is ... (read in full...)
He hit me! Did I deserve it?
Q. So I've been in a relationship with this guy for about a year and a half. I have a 7 month old child with him. I just moved into my own condo. He does not live with me due to his alcoholism. I was at his house visiting him and watching the football ...
A. 6 December 2010: Let me make sure I read this right - you asked him for diapers - you didn't hit him, you didn't turn the T.V. off and get in his face, and you didn't pull a knife or gun on him. Right?
His reaction to your interrupting his game, was calling ... (read in full...)
He went behind my back last year with an ex, and now another ex wants to meet up with him! What should I do?
Q. After the first year of being together my boyfriend went behind my back, met up with for coffee, and saved half naked photos of her on his computer. He didn't tell me, but it all came out in the end. We rowed and decided to give it one last go. It's ...
A. 6 December 2010: Ask him why he has such problems with committed relationships. Obviously, he is not good at it. Either he doesn't know how, or he doesn't care. Then ask him why he believes he can be just friends with any of his exes. Then, ask him how staying in ... (read in full...)
We took a break for him to be sure I am the one, and he slept with so many women! Now we are back together he doesn't trust me, what do I do?
Q. We took a break for ten months just so that he was sure i am the one wants to spend the rest of his life with but now i have changed as i am pissed and hurt because he slept with so many women now we are together and he says he doesnt trust me.... ...
A. 6 December 2010: You HAVE to either LET GO of your emotional attachment to his PAST, or, let the relationship go.
You do not have any other options. You cannot, and will not, ever be happy in this relationship unless you can learn to deal with your anger.
... (read in full...)
Domestic Violence- The Necklace
Q. So this is my story of surviving domestic violence. When people say that phrase they pre-judge i bet your thinking i'm in my late 30's/ 40's had a history of violence from my childhood? Maybe live in a poor area? Well your wrong, i'm 23, it happened ...
A. 6 December 2010: Fortunately, I have let go of most of the negative emotional memories I had after a very long physical/emotional abusive marriage. I too, had no clue what abuse or loosing one's self was about. People clearly do not understand how difficult it is ... (read in full...)
Having trouble trusting my husband with his ex and with a female friend
Q. Found several emails between my husband and his ex, shortly after him telling me he felt the need to apologize to her for the past mistakes he made. I thought I made it clear this idea was NOT the solution, and do NOT go there. The emails started ...
A. 6 December 2010: Wow. I was just talking about Christian beliefs with him before reading your WONDERFUL response. He claims to be Christian, yet... I believe you have given me the push I needed to at least try to get things back where they need to be. I am going ... (read in full...)
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