I have heard a number of stories about my husband with other women, what shall I do?
Q. Dear agony aunt! we have been married for 9 years.mine was an arranged marriage.we later had 2 kids,one boy,3 years and one girl,5 years.I am 33 years old and my husband 34.My husband is a good human being.he is always concentr...
A. 16 February 2010: He shouldn't beat you. And I don't agree with any of the people saying "get tough with him". Get RID of him. It doesn't matter what he says. If a guy beats you once, he WILL do it again. He might wait six months, or two years, or five years. But you ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, is he cheating on me?
Q. I have dated 3 guys, and 2 of them have cheated on me (cheated on 7 times between both my exes) and now i have a new boyfriend we have been dating for 1 year and 3 months, i recently found pictures of a naked chick on his phone, he doesnt know i ...
A. 16 February 2010: The question is, do you consider the pics to be cheating? If you consider others sending him pics then yes, he is cheating. It's up to YOU what you consider acceptable and what you don't.
Why don't you ask him? "Hey, I came across this picture ... (read in full...)
Need opinions on what happened to me..thank you for reading!
Q. I am writing this as my "burn letter", to free me from the pain I am going through and to try to get over this and ask people what did I do wrong so please bear with me and read this, thanks! I went about 4 times with a girl in nov. 2008 (we were...
A. 16 February 2010: You sound like you actually behaved perfectly. I was reading your message wondering why on earth there aren't more guys like you - then realised they probably get treated like this so many times they give up and start behaving like d**ks.
She m... (read in full...)
I instantly wanted to have him but I don't have sex or fool around w someone I don't know
Q. I've been on 3 dates w this guy I've known for 3 mo.he msgs randomly to say hello and such.he flirts with me a lot.a lot of talk but in person he's a gentleman(he's incredibly naughty through txt). I assumed from his inconsistency and naughty ...
A. 27 January 2010: If he's very different in person to in text he's probably dishonest or cowardly or both.
Just buy a good vibrator and think about him at home. Safer, no emotional risk, no trust involved, and probably a lot more fun.... (read in full...)
Sometimes a peach can have too much syrup and it doesn't mean the tree is getting too much water.
Q. Well I am in a s*load of trouble over a relationship I had with my boss at work. I handled the whole thing badly and it blew up in my face. I tried to get some advice on this problem the other day but my question wasn't posted because it was d...
A. 27 January 2010: What a weird story.
Wetness doesn't mean she's having sex regularly. It means her body is preparing itself to have something shoved up it. Usually it's a sign of intense arousal but not always. For example sometimes rape victims get very wet beca... (read in full...)
Since getting back together, he's made no effort to reassure me--and he's the one who cheated!
Q. My ex and I were together four years (lived together/wedding booked). he cheated on me and started going with this other girl (I didnt know), he split up with me but maintained we were on a break. Treated me really badly - didn't say sorry and said ...
A. 27 January 2010: I'm sorry to be cynical. But are you having sex now that you 'not together' but he is 'exclusive to you'? Because if so my instinct is that he is getting sex from you without having to commit to a future or make any effort to make it work. He may ... (read in full...)
How to trust someone...?
Q. hi, ive been married for 3 and a half years and its been a nightmare so far, every year i say if i have another year like last year we wont make a 4th, but here i am still plodding on in misery, my hubby was keeping in touch with his ex, he met up ...
A. 27 January 2010: You make excuses because you love him, you're not being a soft touch, it's totally natural to excuse him and want to try and stay when you love him, especially since you've got the added legal complications of marriage, property, and money... ... (read in full...)
He turns angry and aggressive when I attempt to leave him! What should I do?
Q. hi sorry this is going to be a long post but i will shorten it as much as i can. i have been with my partner 5 years - we no longer live together - i dont want to be with him anymore but am scared to leave him. He has been violent and ...
A. 27 January 2010: How awful for you, I feel so, so much sympathy.
It's so appalling that you don't have the support of the police! I'm not surprised to hear how you've cut friends out of your life - I bet your partner has gradually made you shut people out more... (read in full...)
My marriage is falling apart after only a month, all because my husband wont stop his calls to this other woman!
Q. Please can you help as my new marriage is falling apart. I am sorry but it is a long post. I have been married for under a month and things are not going well. Due to work we do not live with each other but see each other as much as possible...
A. 21 January 2010: Become friends with her. You'll probably find that if he has stuff in common with you, and with her, you and her must have stuff in common too. You may find her a lot less threatening when you know her insecurities, and see her as a person, not the ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to like me again now that I've lost weight?
Q. i really like this boy but i dont no if he still likes me i mean like we went out and stuff but i got fat and i he called me fat and no thaqt im skinny again i dont no wat to do i want him to like me and i want to get back with him i need help can ...
A. 21 January 2010: Why in the name of all things anything why would ever, ever, ever consider getting back with this clown even if he begged you!! What a pig. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to not have a boyfriend at 14? A friend in my class has had 45!
Q. Just wondering if its normal to be kinda frigid at 14? It's just that I have seen girls my age who have gone past the whole "shy" thing and are dating boys whenever they feel like.Theres a girl in my year who' had over 45 boyfriends. I ha...
A. 21 January 2010: Of course it's ok.
What does she mean by boyfriends? Most grown ups haven't had 45 real partners. Surely that's either people she's held hands with/kissed/been mates with... or perhaps she's making stuff up.
I bet at least some of those experien... (read in full...)
How do I ask him back? Its my wrong and I admit it.
Q. i broken up with him 3 months ago. I wanted him back after a week of breaking up but he refused because i hit him and scolded him in front of some people for some other thing he did. I was asking myself is pride so important? Then only recently i ...
A. 21 January 2010: Do you know why you hit him? Did you think about it, or did you just lose control? Did you feel scared? Were you unhappy about something he did, or something else?
Until you know truthfully you've addressed these questions I don't think you can prom... (read in full...)
He turns angry and aggressive when I attempt to leave him! What should I do?
Q. hi sorry this is going to be a long post but i will shorten it as much as i can. i have been with my partner 5 years - we no longer live together - i dont want to be with him anymore but am scared to leave him. He has been violent and ...
A. 21 January 2010: Just go. Don't look back.
At the very least, get your son out and find somewhere else for him to stay like with his grandparents or even a carer. This stuff screws kids up a lot more than you might realise (my boyfriend has a serious post-tra... (read in full...)
H's bashing me to other people, on this dating site! What is his problem?
Q. I dated someone who is now on match.com and is bashing me to the women he is now communicating with. A friend on match.com found this out through her community of members and told me. I texted him and let him know i knew, which of course he denied. ...
A. 21 January 2010: Why do you care?
But if he's definitely lying these women, report him to the website, and if he's violating your privacy in a way that makes you identifiable I think (I THINK) that is against the law?... (read in full...)
I wish I could just make things right and show her what she means to me.
Q. Hello, So I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 24 and we've been together for just over 2 years. Throughout the relationship I had the upper hand and as I reflect on it she has definately put in more effort. Approximately a month ago we got into a stupi...
A. 19 January 2010: If you love her you have to just be patient. She has been patient with you by the sound of things for the past two years. Now it's your turn.
I think she's very smart and doing the right thing. If you've been against moving in for two years bu... (read in full...)
How can I help her to get over this attack?
Q. Myself and my girlfriend are both 17. Before meeting me, my girlfriend was forced to perform oral sex on a guy at a party; although drunk she still said no and resisted. In a previous relationship, she was also hit twice. Now, whenever I kiss her...
A. 19 January 2010: First of all, you're such a nice boyfriend to be trying to help her get through it! You might be surprised how many people actually get impatient with stuff like this and leave.
Honestly, though, is your love greater than your need for blow job... (read in full...)
How to trust someone...?
Q. hi, ive been married for 3 and a half years and its been a nightmare so far, every year i say if i have another year like last year we wont make a 4th, but here i am still plodding on in misery, my hubby was keeping in touch with his ex, he met up ...
A. 19 January 2010: Wow! What a situation.
Firstly, he didn't tell you he took her away. That is a big sign that he was doing something he shouldn't have been.
Secondly, he came very close to having sex with her, but "couldn't go through with it"?! What does ... (read in full...)
Is my best friend gay?
Q. Hi I have a question for the male readers, can you guys please give me your honest opinions? Okay its about this guy friend of mine (Z) that I knew since elementary school. He is 2 years younger than me and I sort of treated him like a kid broth...
A. 19 January 2010: Ask him. Not about him being gay (does it actually matter? All you need to know is, does he feel the same or not?)
My best friend of many many years told me he had been in love with me for, well, ever. I always thought he was gay. I had to tell ... (read in full...)
Does he like her or not? Why does he move away?
Q. Have you ever known a guy to do this? Both him and this girl are my friends. They both like each other. Hes naturally a good guy, hes friendly and will make the effort however with her he is extremely shy. He wont talk to her much or anything. I ...
A. 19 January 2010: You don't say how old he is - but if he's a teenager I would be good money that his body is just reacting physically to being touched by a girl he likes and he feels guilty/ashamed/embarrassed/disrespectful/etc.
He is probably of course scared a... (read in full...)
Is this a cheating husband or not?
Q. if my husband emails and call his exgirlfriend who he cheated on me with when we were dating and he's telling her how she's pretty and her lips are so invting. would that be considered cheating? ...
A. 19 January 2010: I think the question is, do YOU think it's cheating? And does HE think it's cheating?
The same rules don't work for everyone, some people would say that's totally cool, some would say it's a hanging offence.
The fact that you're asking us tells... (read in full...)
Since getting back together, he's made no effort to reassure me--and he's the one who cheated!
Q. My ex and I were together four years (lived together/wedding booked). he cheated on me and started going with this other girl (I didnt know), he split up with me but maintained we were on a break. Treated me really badly - didn't say sorry and said ...
A. 19 January 2010: How can you possibly think this is going to work out or ever make you happy? He makes a tiny bit of effort when he thinks he might not get what he wants but then as soon as he gets it he can't be bothered. What a loser. Perhaps the girl he went off ... (read in full...)
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