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writes:i broken up with him 3 months ago. I wanted him back after a week of breaking up but he refused because i hit him and scolded him in front of some people for some other thing he did. I was asking myself is pride so important? Then only recently i realise it is because i'm starting to put myself in his shoes. How would i feel if he hit me in front of everyone? we haven't contact each other for 2 months already. i want to try one last time to get back together coz i know my wrongs and i am willing to change for the better and also learning. I won't call or sms him but by doing a video about the good memories we had. Is it a bad idea? what should i include in the video. The first thing in the video will definitely be an apology for everything and a thank you for seeing the video. Or should i do a video on how we got together and how we ended it? I'm afraid i might post up the wrong things on the video and things might get worse. This is my last hope and i hope it will work. Thanks for helping.
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reader, LibertarianLou  +, writes (21 January 2010):
Do you know why you hit him? Did you think about it, or did you just lose control? Did you feel scared? Were you unhappy about something he did, or something else?
Until you know truthfully you've addressed these questions I don't think you can promise you won't do it again.
I think perhaps you want to get back with him because you're unhappy and you feel that must be the reason. I think you need to see a councillor or somebody because no happy healthy person hits someone they love. Perhaps if you were do that any explain that to him too it might also help him realise you know the extent of what you've done and really are changing. But if I had a partner who hit me I would definitely expect some of professional help to be sought before I even considered going back. And, tbh, I still probably wouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Hey caring guy, thanks for your reply.
he deleted all our pics in facebook except the cupcakes i made for him. What does that mean? He started to club which he used to hate. Enjoying life? But i'm not sure if he did club coz i didn't saw. He returned me my things the day after we broke up and said he will not regret the decision that i have made and there will be no turning back.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
You would be better writing a letter to him. The video is a sweet idea, but given your history, it could be dangerous to o that. The last thing you want is for your video to end up on the internet. Write him a letter explaining how you feel, and that you're so sorry you did what you did. Don't expect anything though, because you hurt him very badly. Try writing a letter. And never again hit him or any other guy.
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