Am I right to be upset?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, I really need your advice because this situation is really, really upsetting me/ making me nervous. You see, my boyfriend and I have been together for nine months and I've known him for a year, at least. He is a v...
A. 24 April 2012: Thanks everyone. :) I did talk to him. It wasn't the waiting to get married that upset me but the him not telling me why but he explained that he just didn't know how to say it and that he didn't realize that the reasoning was something I wanted t... (read in full...)
How can I fix my insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me because of my insecurities that got the best of me. We've been together before 5 years ago for 1.5 yrs and broke up because he tried to be with another girl while we were together and talking to an ex gf behind my back. ...
A. 23 April 2012: This guys is worthless. YOU did nothing wrong! Nothing! If it were me, I would have thrown his shit out on the street! How dare he put you through that. Ok, calming down...
Listen, I want you to really really think on and accept what I am about... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along?
Q. ok so i met this guy online in the beginning of the year he lives ina complete different state i started dating somebody else but as time went on i realized the more me and this lnog distance guy talked the more i liked him and developed feelings i ...
A. 1 August 2011: 1) Never feel stupid for your feelings. 2) LDRs have an advantage in that you get to know the persons personality, instead of just doing it all the time (which some people do). The bad side is, yes, LDRs are hard. 3) Sadly, I do think he's stringing ... (read in full...)
Why am I so flustered over this?
Q. Okay, this might be long! So thank you in advance for reading! My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. Just before we were together, I dated one of his coworkers for quite some time, and there was a lot of drama over our brea...
A. 1 August 2011: If you are truly happy with your current boyfriend, forget your ex. Remember why he IS an ex and move on. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had a friend from out of town visit for a week and pretty much disappeared on me.
Q. is this normal, or should I be concerned? My boyfriend had a friend from out of town visit for a week and pretty much disappeared on me. They've been out from morning until night the whole time. Although my bf has texted me things like "I m...
A. 1 August 2011: Well for one thing, is this friend a girl? It sounds like he is preoccupied. The question is why and why is he not introducing you to his friends. You need to sit and have a serious talk with him and if he refuses or gets mad, then he clearly isn't ... (read in full...)
My teacher helped me get over my B/f. Now I'm obsessed with her. What should I do?
Q. theres this teacher called miss Z who i like am totaly obsessed with her. the main resson im obssesed with her is because in yr 9 i had issues with my boyfriend so i went to talk to her and she helped me out a lot and gave me some really good advice ...
A. 1 August 2011: She can't date you. Its illegal, not to mention, her daughter can be taken away, among other things. Its best to move on. It may be hard at first but you have to.... (read in full...)
Ex wants me back, but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. So my ex of three years called me on my birthday after 3 months of our break up and a month of our last conversation. My life really changed positively and I moved on (Somewhat) I still think about her sometimes and I haven't really cried for her in ...
A. 27 March 2011: Your right. if she moved on that quickly, it proves she didnt care enough. people want what they think/know they cant have. so since you seem to be moving on, it worries her and now she think she cant have you, so she wants you. my advice: move on ... (read in full...)
I get this bad gut feeling and then the relationship dies
Q. Hi, I have a problem but its more to do with me than another person. I get into a relationship feeling happy but then, as time goes by, I start to get this bad gut feeling (the time length it starts happening varies from a week to a couple months) ...
A. 26 February 2011: I feel it literally in my gut. It feels kinda like a heavy weight. Basically I start to feel cornered in, trapped. Im not sure the length of time depends on anything. In one instance, I thought that I was in love with the guy, but then the same ... (read in full...)
Scared of intimacy and commitment
Q. I'm scared of intimacy and commitment. Every time I like someone or someone likes me, instead of getting closer to them, which I want to do so much, I push them away. I haven't gone further than dating because I just scared of going to the next ...
A. 23 February 2011: Deja vu, except i dont know why i am the way i am. the good news is you know why this is happening. i think that 1) you should tell them whats going. Even if they reject you, they need to know whats going on and if they reject you for that, they are ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me more than a friend?
Q. I have known one of my guy friend for a couple months months. We're really good friends and I'm really good friends with a lot of his friends. We have classes together at school and we talk the whole class and we both laugh a ton every time. He ...
A. 22 February 2011: Im so glad :) Its better than wondering what if. plus, you never know what could happen :)... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me more than a friend?
Q. I have known one of my guy friend for a couple months months. We're really good friends and I'm really good friends with a lot of his friends. We have classes together at school and we talk the whole class and we both laugh a ton every time. He ...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm so sorry. :( The good thing is that you know now but i feel so bad. Things will be still be close between you two right?... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong with this old friend?!
Q. So I started talking to an old friend around the holidays, we immediately hit it off and hung out that night. We talked for a few hours and had such a great time, he even told me about how much he liked me when we were young, and when we had seen ...
A. 15 February 2011: Give him like a week or so more to get a handle on things, then try to have a talk with him.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's ex. would it be OK to drop hints to him that I like him?
Q. I like this guy at school who sits behind me in homeroom. I really want to go out with him but he's one of my friend's ex. I like him and he flirts with me and i've been there when he went through rough breakups. We talk to each other and share jo...
A. 14 February 2011: Geez woman, im in the same boat. My advice? Go for it. If he seems to like you, theres nothing to hold u back. Try talking to him about how you like him and such and see what he says... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me more than a friend?
Q. I have known one of my guy friend for a couple months months. We're really good friends and I'm really good friends with a lot of his friends. We have classes together at school and we talk the whole class and we both laugh a ton every time. He ...
A. 12 February 2011: No problem! :D Remember how I told you im in a similar situation? Well, lets just say, I'm a very happy person right now. I'm like 80-90% sure that the same thing will happen! :D go for it! Keep me posted! ^_^... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong with this old friend?!
Q. So I started talking to an old friend around the holidays, we immediately hit it off and hung out that night. We talked for a few hours and had such a great time, he even told me about how much he liked me when we were young, and when we had seen ...
A. 12 February 2011: Hmmm... tough call? how long ago did school start back up?... (read in full...)
I don't know how to make a move
Q. I met this girl about 3 months ago and instantly thought she was gorgeous. We started talking online and we're able to hold a great conversation online for hours. We met a few times again but we only spoke in person once or twice since we met. ...
A. 11 February 2011: It could very well be that she is shy. Give her a little time to open up and see you. Don't pressure her. ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong with this old friend?!
Q. So I started talking to an old friend around the holidays, we immediately hit it off and hung out that night. We talked for a few hours and had such a great time, he even told me about how much he liked me when we were young, and when we had seen ...
A. 11 February 2011: Id say maybe he does like you but maybe he has a full plate on his hands. Perhaps give him some time to work out everything and then try to start things with him. ... (read in full...)
I want to chat him back without looking like a dick!
Q. ok i dont really know how to start this of but plz read it and i will apreciate all answers. i know its usualy about looks at my age so whats the point waiting for a guy to like me purely for my personality.. coz tht would take a while so at my ...
A. 11 February 2011: Hey, I have to say, yeah it'll look like a lot of guys your age are about looks only but maybe your not looking in the right place. As far as that guy goes, he may just be flirting. When someone uses the word 'hot' to describe someone, they are only ... (read in full...)
My BFF told my BF something he wasn't suppose to know....now I think he may dump me!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month, and btw I am insanely in love with him.....but my relationships always come to a crashing stop after a month and I dont want this one to end! My friend B.H. told him about a piece of ...
A. 11 February 2011: If he lets her get between you two, its not worth it. Was it You and your bf's names on the paper? This 'friend' of yours doesn't sound like a true friend, and if you have to try to keep her away from your bf, then she sounds like she should be cut ... (read in full...)
Relationship troubles and distracted by another man...
Q. I've been with my partner 2 years. On the outside everyone thinks we're perfect for each other and that our relationship is rock solid. They expect us to be a forever couple and comment how we're made for each other. He's a good step dad to my ...
A. 11 February 2011: I know your worried about hurting other people but you have to think about your own needs and the needs of your child. Its gonna be worse staying in the relationship if your not happy and he refuses to do anything about it. Plus, even though it may ... (read in full...)
I need to end a toxic unhealthy relationship!
Q. Any advice on how to end a relationship with someone you are so attached to that the thought of not talking to them at all again brings terror and anxiety? How do you walk away from someone who you have spent every free moment with for years. The ...
A. 11 February 2011: I've been here. Part of it may be low self-esteem issues and part maybe that you feel you may not find better.
If its the first scenario, here is my advice, one cannot, healthily nor properly, love another until you love yourself. Meaning,... (read in full...)
I really like him but he doesn't put any effort in!
Q. am 35 yrs old and seriously having feelings for this guy at work place. he is 48 yrs old and single. he told me he too has feelings for me but we have met once outside the office, i call him more often and even text him, but he doesnt seem to do ...
A. 11 February 2011: Ugh, talk about frustrating and confusing! I'd say let up on the calling and texting a little bit. Give him more space and see what he does. If this is all still new and everything, it may just be a matter of taking it slow. I know its hard but when ... (read in full...)
I want to get rid of this feeling and lead a happy life
Q. I like a guy for almost 1 year and until now I still can't forget about him and the moment with him. Actually he already knew that I like him but he didn't say anything about it and we had went out for lots of times and it's just 2 of us watching ...
A. 10 February 2011: Wow. Talk about stressful. I'm getting mixed signals just reading this! First, hugs. I'm sorry you're going through that. Second, I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like he either just wants to remain friends or he doesn't know what he wants. ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me more than a friend?
Q. I have known one of my guy friend for a couple months months. We're really good friends and I'm really good friends with a lot of his friends. We have classes together at school and we talk the whole class and we both laugh a ton every time. He ...
A. 10 February 2011: It certainly sounds like he likes you! I'm actually in a similar situation currently. My advice to you: Go for it! The worst he could say is no. But considering his behavior, I don't see that happening. The key behaviors: Him staring into your eyes ... (read in full...)
She means more to me so how can I just think of her as a piece of ass?
Q. i feel in love with a married co-worker and she is wonderful but i have suspiction that she is also having affair with someone else also plus her husband but my problem is i love her and she always on my mind and i just need to think of it as a ...
A. 10 February 2011: Its sweet that you love her, but regardless of whether she loves you back or not, if she has a husband, that alone is way more drama and trouble that someone as sweet as you needs, especially at your place of work. And if she's having an affair, ... (read in full...)
Take a break? Or chase after the woman I love?
Q. history- me and my girlfriend(or ex), have been together for 2yrs plus.1st year was bumpy, a lot arguments, 2nd year was a bit better than usual, for the last months it was going great. problem, we had a slight argument and had big fight and br...
A. 10 February 2011: -She has to decide for sure whether or not she wants to be with you rather than keeping you waiting full of hope. -What needs to happen is you need to make sure she really does eventually want to get back together with you. -Its ok to take... (read in full...)
Why is he insisting on seeing me? He lied about having a girlfriend, which is why I stopped seeing him!
Q. What should I do with my ex? I dated this guy who is 9 years older than me. He kept playing mind games with me throughout the time of us being together. He lied to me about his girlfriend saying they weren't really together when they were. Long ...
A. 10 February 2011: Let me tell you right now girl, you did the right thing. That is not a healthy relationship and the fact that you recognize that and keep it in mind is excellent and less than common. I have a few friends who would've/have gone back to people like ... (read in full...)
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