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*miffy123
writes:theres this teacher called miss Z who i like am totaly obsessed with her. the main resson im obssesed with her is because in yr 9 i had issues with my boyfriend so i went to talk to her and she helped me out a lot and gave me some really good advice every single day i see her i find myself always cheking her out. i fanistize about her 24/7 , and i don't know what to do about it, because i love her and i want to marry her, because she is my life. i'd give do any thing just to have her, so know i hang out every where i know she's going to be, just to say hi or look at her. I feel really protective of her and when i'm out side of school i always think to my self i hope shes okay or she better be safe, i dont want @#!*% hapening to her or any one to hurt her. Everytime i see her i go numb, i go in her room every lunch and break and after school which is coolbut its just the thing in the back of my mind is why dont u tell her or make ur move. shes 36 and has a daughter and i'm 15. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): When another person helps you through a tough time in your life, it can be difficult not to get rather attached to them. They've made you feel understood, supported, cared about, less alone... it isn't surprising that you can end up developing strong feelings of fondness as a consequence.
You must realise though that some people have a professional duty to look out for you in such a way. Teachers have a responsibility to provide pastoral care to their students, it's in their job desrciption. They can't get personally involved with you because they'd be abusing a position of trust - the same goes for counsellors, doctors etc. It's not unheard of for a patient to "fall in love" with his/her therapist but it'd be morally wrong (and illegal) for either party to act on those feelings.
For the sake of both you and your teacher, you have to ignore these emotions. You can't be blamed for having them in the first place, but you have to react to them in the right way. It can be easy to confuse infatuation with love. There's nothing wrong with caring for the welfare of your teacher, but following her every move and thinking about her obsessively just isn't healthy. Force yourself to put some distance between you and concentrate on other things - your studies, your friends, your social life. Your feelings will pass in time, I promise, but you have to be strong here and now. And remember, after all they do say if you truly love someone you have to let them go. Good luck and take care x
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reader, incendia1990  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 She can't date you. Its illegal, not to mention, her daughter can be taken away, among other things. Its best to move on. It may be hard at first but you have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): well its normal to have feelings for someone who is older than you its human nature. and there is nothing wrong with you. i remeber when i was like that with a teacher i had when i was your age and she was beautiful. so i know where your coming from. but i would maybe keep that to yourself and wait for the right time.
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