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*ncendia1990
writes:Hi, I have a problem but its more to do with me than another person. I get into a relationship feeling happy but then, as time goes by, I start to get this bad gut feeling (the time length it starts happening varies from a week to a couple months) and the relationship goes down hill, often becoming an on-off relationship until it completely dies. I'm not sure if its commitment phobia or if something else is causing this. What do you all think? What do I do? I really like someone and I don't want this to happen again because I really care about him a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, incendia1990 +, writes (26 February 2011):
incendia1990 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I feel it literally in my gut. It feels kinda like a heavy weight. Basically I start to feel cornered in, trapped. Im not sure the length of time depends on anything. In one instance, I thought that I was in love with the guy, but then the same thing started happening, a feeling of being closed in, and although I tried to brush it off, it got worse. :/ All the relationships I get into seem to turn into on and off relationships. I do feel afraid of hurting the other person because it's happened in just about every relationship so it just feels like a matter of when, not if. I have been hurt badly in the past so maybe without realizing it, it could be vulnerability but most of the pain I've felt is when I've had to break it off with the other person instead of the other way around.
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